- Date posted
- 1y ago
OCD & NARCISSISM š³ļø
Anyone with OCD dealing with active narcissists ? My father is a Virgo male with narcissistic tendencies. Manipulative, lies, & contradicts him self everyday. He does this with not only myself, but anyone he can step on [anyone who allows him to step on them?]. It can be difficult when I forget that he has this narcissistic personality. This is because he shields š”ļø his ego with āEnlightenmentā āConsiousnessā āAcceptanceā and āSilenceā yet he is only ātryingā to replicate these beautiful words, in turn falsifying and rotting them into an egotists paradise. I know itās gone way too far when he starts calling Me Mom. Or says Iām like his mama. Then he repeats āmy mommyā. Iām his daughter, not his mom. But since I cater to him [people pleasing tendencies due to fear of his passing away which he has threatened multiple times, and still does] he continues his own cycles š of hurting people mentally, explaining why they are crazy or doing something wrong [gaslighting], then apologizing and love bombing [so youāll forget and do something he wants to do, that he just rememberedš¹šµāš«] Confusing and consuming if I do say so my self. I understand he misses his mama.. which hits me right in the chest, so then I continue catering to him [folding his clothes perfectly, getting him anything he needs, washing dishes, cleaning, going along with his desires, and putting him first instead of my self, to the point where I donāt eat or drink], but then the cycle begins and he starts putting me down, making me feel lesser, and raising his voice and tone to create fear in the situation. This in turn makes me anxious, which he knows, then my breathing feels restricted and I hold my breathe at times without realizing. Because I was raised by him and my mother separate from each other (divorced) I tend to people please towards him. I could understand people pleasing developed as a child because I wanted his attention, but I didnāt end up receiving much due to his job and emotional unavailability and unawareness. He would replace his emotional availability with toys and such to distract me but these things never brought happiness, just a gaping hole š³ļø of emptiness. Nevertheless I will always be grateful for him and his lifeās work, for he has done well. Again.. Iām his daughter, not his mom. And this hurts me in my soul core and uterus, sorry to be specific, because my parents have been divorced since my 4 years of age. Which made me want a mama in my household doing what mamas do, but the girls he brought in the house were only there because they wanted someone to marry, wanted money, or thought they might get something out of it, and that may be because, who in their right mind would willingly want to live a life and create a family with a mentally abusive and twisted narcissist. He doesnāt enjoy being alone with himself as well. Itās actually quite difficult for him, although he denies it. But you could ask any of his close friends and theyāll tell you, yea heās out somewhere doing something with someone. Maybe heās not happy with himself so heās trying to keep himself distractedā¦ but I donāt want to be like that.. I donāt want to become my father.. and I donāt need to because he is him, and I am me. We are so beautiful. Such beautiful beings able to live and create in this bittersweet world š I will live life with Love ā¤ļø Moving with light š and when faced with ego, hardship, and unconsciousness š³ļø, WE WILL MAKE IT THROUGHšā¤ļøāš©¹