How do I stop thinking about him and obsessing over what we want had. I keep reliving things over and over and over I find myself literally begging him. Losing all my self-respect. The pain is so extremely great. It hurts so bad.
Keep yourself busy. Don’t let yourself go into isolation. Be around people even though you may not want to be. Shift your focus to other things. Ive been in your shoes before, I know it’s not easy but I promise you eventually things get better and you see why things couldn’t work out because something/someone greater comes along. God bless you 🫶.
@Bluerose316 I keep telling myself that. My mind knows it but my heart. So much pain. Thank you so much for caring.
I went through exactly the same thing you’re going through. I promise you are not alone! It took me two years to get over my ex. I promise you will find happiness!
@NeeweeKeewee Thank you for caring. Two years, oh my goodness. I am so glad however that you are a peace.  Blessings🙂
I am obsessing over him still.  He is in my  thoughts continually. We had a beautiful relationship online. We video calls all the time. He would take me on walks with him from work. He would call me from work video chat when he could. His love voice so pure.  I really believe it is a true love. He is far away for me in distance.  We can’t ever be together. It just couldn’t work.  We told ourselves that it didn’t matter.  That the love with out for each other was enough.  He came to a point where he told me that he wanted me to find to love here. That he couldn’t be with me all the time, to be there for me he said that I needed someone to hold me and to care for me. He asked me to please find someone and be happy in my life.  He said he needed my happiness. Of course my heart was shattered, I couldn’t except it. I tried to tell him I didn’t want anyone else that I just wanted him I begged and pleaded. He finally got a little harsh, and I don’t blame him because I couldn’t accept it. He kept asking me to please accept reality and find someone there close to me.  I kept praying for God’s grace to help me through this. You see I truly love him. I finally said goodbye to him, but what I don’t understand is two days later he messaged me and said. Good morning sweetheart.  I love you. I messaged the same back to him.  I was so happy to hear from him I was just shaking. The next day he told me that he was working night shift and he said I love you sweetheart. Yeah, I asked him how he was doing and that I hope he was well. I don’t understand, but he did not respond.  My husband had Alzheimer’s for the last four years. He did not know me. I got very lonely. I needed someone to love me and needed someone to give my love to. We had a beautiful relationship. My husband and I he was my everything. I love him with all my heart. He passed six weeks ago. It is hard for me to understand with loving my husband so much that I can be in love with this other gentleman so deeply but I did fall for him. I keep giving it to God but I keep taking it back, I am in so much pain, it hurts so bad. If this gentleman really wants me to find someone here to love me, I don’t understand his recent messages. I am just miserable. I just don’t know how to go on without my husband, and without this gentleman My heart aches and it hurts so bad. I want to thank everyone for listening to me. You are very kind. Only by the grace of God can I get through this. This gentleman also says that he will always love me and he will always be with me. But that he needs for me to find happiness here. If anyone out there, can you help me understand this whole thing, I would be so appreciative. Thank you from the bottom of my heart again.
the most debilitating ocd flare-up i’ve been having for the past few months has been about the guy i used to talk to. we weren’t dating per-se, but whatever was going on between us was very confusing and unclear, and it ended up with me being very hurt. he was basically leading me on, and couldn’t commit to me. it’s been months since we’ve stopped talking and i still can’t stop thinking about him. i don’t even care about him that much in an objective sense, but i am genuinely obsessed with him. everything i see reminds me of him, and my mind is constantly running through thoughts about him and our situation — why did it go the way it did, what did i do wrong, does he still think about me, etc. it’s honestly so humiliating and makes me feel pathetic because i know he’s probably moved on by now, and i still can’t handle the thought or sight of him. i just wish i could stop ruminating, because it’s gotten so bad that i can’t focus on school or anything else in life. it’s so constant to the point where, when i bring it up to my friends (which is very often), i’m met with concern and even frustration rather than sympathy. how can i cope with the rumination? it’s genuinely exhausting, and i can’t sleep at night because my brain is just running like a motor. i have dreams about it almost nightly as well. anything helps!
my grades are super bad, my ex moved on, i have no real friends at all, and i feel empty inside. i feel nothing but i feel so many emotions at the same time. i wish i would’ve done better in life. i push people away but then complain about being lonely. me and my ex broke up 8 months ago and i still can’t get over him. he got a girlfriend a week after our breakup and it makes me think about so many things. i’ve talked to guys after that but none of them are the same, i got this feeling with him i got with nobody else and it hurts to know i won’t ever get it back. i feel like im not good or pretty enough for anyone. i feel to difficult for a relationship and to tired. i compare myself to his new girlfriend all the time and i can’t stop. why can’t i be as pretty as her? what was so wrong with me that we had to stop talking? we talk every month as friends but it lasts an hour. my heart craves his love again but i know i won’t ever get him back. i remember this one time i tried cutting off all contact with him because of his girlfriend. when i did, he said he didn’t wanna fully let me go because im a good friend to keep around and he knows ill always be there. i don’t know if he still means that because it’s been months but he still texts me first sometimes. i know i need to let go but im stuck in life and i just need him to help me like he always would. but i cant get his help so i feel stuck and confused and sad and empty.
Hi - I’ve made a series of posts about my situation over the past few weeks. My bf asked to take a break from our relationship through text the first week of April. We haven’t spoken since. There’s a lot of outward details to this but I’ll try to keep it as simple as possible. My ocd is telling me the worst of the worst. He left me with full uncertainty because he didn’t give me a reason, and his decision felt like it happened overnight and I’m still so confused. He’s never been in a relationship as serious as this before. I’m incredibly hurt and angry, and my emotions get worse on Saturday and Friday nights because that’s when his frat parties happen. I do ERP phrases but my stomach hurts and it’s churning so bad. I deactivated/deleted social media apps for now because it’s too much. I just wish this physical feeling would stop. Does anyone have tips?
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