Getting over someone

I’m going thru a breakup and I’m having a terrible time. I can’t eat I can barely sleep and everyday I feel terrible. I’ve had him in my life for 3 years and we’ve always depended on each other. I’m just lonely and sometimes I’ll feel a bit better and then I’ll just fall back down. Everyone just tells me it’ll get better or I’ll find someone else. But I’m not feeling better and i don’t want anyone else. I make a con list about him and I can’t even feel any disgust towards him. I think about how I’ll have to restart with someone but I feel like it’ll be just be the same. I’ll get promised that we are gonna get married and grow old but then after 2 years it’ll just go to shit and I’ll just get used. I try talking to others and I just don’t feel any better. Im supposed to go to a party but I don’t even wanna go and I don’t even wanna do Halloween. Everything reminds me of him I just can’t not think about him. Sad part is he wasn’t a good bf so I’m more frustrated that I got attached to this person. Idk what to do anymore

Username: Nanana_lwNanana_lw

Date posted: 1y ago

I've gone through break ups before, and when I tell you I felt the same way. It was awful, I geniunely didn't believe i'd get any better. But I did, I just distracted myself with things I loved. My friends, my dogs, videos on YouTube, or even just the smallest thing like seeing a cute picture. It may feel like it doesn't help but in the long run it does. Remmeber to be patient with yourself and that everyone moves on at different paces. He was an awful person to u but u had an attachment to him so ur brain sees an image of him that isn't true. Let go of that image you have of him, focus on how he really is. Also, be kind to yourself love. You need tenderness and love to give to yourself during this time. Hug yourself and tell urself it's gonna be okay. You need independence, to depend on yourself mostly. In the long run for me, looking up motivational things around getting over someone is what helped me, you are doing a huge step by reaching out for help. I'm so proud of you!

Username: PDButterflyPDButterfly

Date posted: 1y ago

You’re definitely not alone. I’m going thru the same thing right now. I get triggered so much that I have panic attacks. The person is still in my life but I’m scared that he’s using me or talking to someone else and this makes me want to be alone. I was told that the thoughts are like a bully in your head that won’t leave you alone so tell the bully to stop. I’m trying to, it’s difficult. I also know the triggers are everywhere for me and so I isolated myself. I get it. I understand weird for weird what you are going thru! I just started with an OCD therapist. Do you have one yet?

Username: PDButterflyPDButterfly

Date posted: 1y ago

Word for word

Username: SpecklesSpeckles

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

Well, he wasn't a good BF

Username: jordanpaulson

Date posted: 5y ago

My boyfriend recently broke up with me almost two months ago and it really hurts but I really can’t help but miss him. I haven’t talked to him in 2 weeks and I doubt he’ll ever reach out to talk to me soon. I loved him so much and I can’t even describe how much it hurts not having him in my life. Our relationship used to be really really great and then things fell apart. My anxiety and ocd keep convincing me these extreme hypotheticals like that he’s so much happier without me now even though I don’t have any reason to really think that. Or that he doesn’t miss me at all. My heart is just really hurting. I miss everything about him

Relationship OCD

Username: kittea

Date posted: 2y ago

another post break-up day that just completely wrecked me. i hate how much this shit won’t leave my mind. i can’t stop going over every detail and bringing myself to the verge of a panic attack. these last few days have been absolute ick. it’s been almost two months—i don’t understand why i’m not better. and it feels so stupid to feel this way and not have my best friend to confide in because he’s not by my side anymore. i just feel sick to my stomach and like walking away from everything i’ve been doing to distract myself because clearly it’s not working. if you have any advice on breakups and navigating them with ocd, please share—i’m struggling more and more every day.

Username: Anonymous 16

Date posted: 1y ago

Pls I need advice

My and my partner broke up 5 days ago and it’s been hell for me. I find myself looking at his insta following and he’s following other girls and porn pages and I just feel sick. All I wanna do is fix things but he’s hurt me and would put so many people before me. I’m mad at myself for wanting him still and more than anything I just wanna not care about him. I’m hurting so much I just wanna call him and things to go back to how they were before he was mean. I’ve been crying nonstop and breaking down and I’m truly sick of it. I’ve tried playing video games with others and even talking with someone who’s going thru the same thing. I tried a dating app but I haven’t even talked to anyone on there bc somehow I feel like I’m betraying him. I can’t do this I’m so devastated and I tried reaching out for help but it’s not working. I’m at my end rn and I’m hurting so much I just can’t do this. I don’t wanna die but I don’t wanna live. I’ve just been suffering

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