Pls I need advice

@Unique121 I know I don’t but we were together for 3 years he said he was going to marry me he said he loved me more than anything even when we broke up he said he loved and cared for me I can’t just get up and get over it like it’s taking such a toll on me. Everyone can point out his wrong doings and say I don’t deserve it and ur right but I can’t stop caring or anything. Trust me I want to so bad I wanna just block him but I can’t I truly cannot it hurts more. That’s why I’m stuck bc everyday it has been getting worse and worse and I just can’t do it

@Wattson Thank you I’ll try getting into a hobby! I’ve tried to get up and do something but I’ve made myself it’s just hard. I really wanna keep trying to get up and do something

@Speckles Ur comment gives me hope but there’s not much good people out there especially men. I hate to say that yk to judge every guy based on one but all guys who are my age are only after one thing and don’t care or respect girls. I thought I found the one but he changed. I’m glad you found ur husband but I don’t think I’ll find mine. I know time heals all but live like this for another week I’m losing it slowly

@Starfish Just broke up with my current boyfriend and the only thing I can say is men bro 😭

#Starfish I hate to say this, but men can be creeps!!! But some s aren't!! My husband loves me very much. He's be thru many hospitals with me for this disease. It was hell! But we did it! Thought we were getting divorced! You will find that v and be smarter now!!❤

@Speckles I’m really glad you found the one! Thank you for your comment

@JordTheNord I’m trying my best but instead if getting easier I feel like the days are getting harder. I don’t wanna trash him but everyone around me does to make me “ feel better” but I really don’t. I’m trying to get friends and I’m talking to a guy ( not in a romantic way) who is going thru the same thing so we play video games. It helps but then once I’m alone it just hits me like a bus again. There’s another boy I met and I know I shouldn’t have but I met him on a dating app. My family told me to download one so I did but I was honest with this boy and told him I didn’t wanna hurt him and how I I just got out of a long relationship. He understood and even offered to take me out as friends so get my mind off things. I’m afraid I don’t wanna lose any more people in my life even if I just met them so I’m not really giving my all into anything. Everyday I try not to check on my ex social media but it’s hard not to. It’s hard to see that everything we had meant nothing and here he is following other girls and porn. Every time I think about it I lose my appetite so I haven’t really been eating. I’m trying my best

@Starfish The fact you’re trying your best is all any of us can ever do. I’d recommend maybe blocking him on social media or doing whatever it takes to not look at his daily life. Also, it might be his way of handling the break up (which in my opinion isn’t healthy for him in the long run). I’m sorry you feel as if it meant nothing. We Humans are messy and we all react and handle things differently than each other even our loved ones. I think you’re doing a great job by not giving in to trashing him. Being alone is hard. I been there too and like you said it isn’t getting easier it gets harder. In time though I promise it will. I also, think you’re doing a great job of finding hobbies and still remaining social. Just remember not to always distract yourself from the pain and process it even if it hurts. Overall you’re doing an amazing job during this difficult time of your life and on top of that OCD. As much as you can keep your head up. Easier said than done but I believe in you.

@JordTheNord Thank you I really appreciate everything you said! I’m gonna be honest I’m truly not doing well at all. I’m trying to meet new people but I find myself assuming the worst and not getting close bc I know they’ll leave too. My family is getting annoyed with me I can tell like my older sister got mad bc I wasn’t being positive and I should be grateful for other things. I know people go thru worse and trust me if I could I’d give them my life in a heartbeat. Everyone was comforting in the beginning but now when they ask if I’m okay and I say no they don’t ask why or anything. I don’t wanna upset anything or burden them so I’m trying to deal with this by myself. It sucks but I still have this hope that me and him could come back together but honestly I think I’m fooling myself. But that little bit of hope is the only thing that is keeping me going. I’m running on fumes and I tried to go out with family but when I got to the restaurant I just wanted to cry and go home. Even after I somehow felt worse. I’m trying to do what my family is telling me to show that I’m trying my best and it’s not my fault im sad

@Starfish Thank you for your honesty. First off, it doesn’t help anyone when at least other ppl say that others have to worse because they assume it immediately alleviates our own woes. It is glad your are aware on your own though because personally my own realization of that helps a little in bad times. I see you are setting yourself up for failure by thinking everyone will just leave. Your video game friend hasn’t left right? Plus it’s 100% not everyone will leave. These are just thoughts that put us in a spiral. Normal at times to think these but we must put a stop to actually let things play out and not our theories in our head. Yes anyone can leave you in the future but also you can leave them. You don’t want to date every guy out there. You have your own likes and standards. So respect the ability to not have to date some ppl as they have the right with you as well. It sucks but it works out. Also, I’m sorry to hear of your family and I’m sure they are frustrated they just can’t help you and they may just not be the best to support you. I had the exact same situation. Now for some tough love: we have to take responsibility for our actions in our dark moments. Some ppl are just not able to handle us well. Nothing wrong with that. We also have to see it from their side as they feel helpless and if we are constantly negative all the time it’s hard to be around. Doesn’t mean ppl shouldn’t help but there’s a give and take. So just remember some ppl aren’t well equipped to help us and we actually might be sometimes a little much, WHICH IS FINE of course just we need to own it. I love ppl who are a little much. It’s just how it is sometimes and I know I’ve been like that and can be like that.

@Wattson Definitely lose myself in relationships I think I’ll just be alone and focus on myself this is such great advice btw