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Tired of caring?
Anyone here get tired of feeling hyper responsible and having to care about everything?
Anyone here get tired of feeling hyper responsible and having to care about everything?
for sure. my ocd got so intrusive that i started to resent love ones around me for doing normal things because they were triggers for me. rn i’m in recovery after spending 3 years locked in my room tortured by my thoughts, and now that my ocd has subsided, I just don’t have motivation to use my brain much. Fatigue from the obsessive stress of OCD can be rlly damaging. OCD truly causes trauma and therefore creates trauma responses.
Everything triggers me and it sucks. I am my dad's caregiver now and that sucks because my harm OCD has always been about my parents. So I am dealing with the resentment thing big time and often I feel trapped with only one way out.
@JamesMY I really empathize with what your going thru and understand how suffocating and complicated ocd can be. knowing these thoughts are due to ocd is a huge first step, though! i know it can seem inescapable and suffocating, but ocd is very treatable. Please look into DBT and CBT methods online. Here are some links that can hopefully help. https://psychcentral.com/ocd/ocd-cycle https://www.therapistaid.com/therapy-guide/ocd-treatment-overview/cbt/adults
yep!
I get angry at getting up and having to worry about other people's problems .
@JamesMY - Yes, I get angry at how ocd makes us feel responsible for every single thing, and I even feel bad saying that now because my ocd is saying I am responsible
@peachtea_ - Well I just feel like I have to worry about everything and be on alert. I don't feel like I have any feelings I just worry.
@JamesMY - yeah i get this too, it's the worst feeling inside- you are not alone :)
i'm so so sorry to hear this is something you are going though:( it sounds really tricky but you are not alone in this fight <3 there is a discord server that's designed for ocd support! i've been apart of it for about 4 months now & absolutely love the community. here's the link if you are interested in joining:) sending love & support your way! stay strong my friend! https://discord.gg/mQxyBmGwhU
PLEASE do not argue over political stances in this post that is not what this is for at all. For context I consider myself someone with mixed views (politically homeless) and I am connected with people of all stripes and beliefs and stances. After the inauguration in the USA this weekend there has been an overwhelming response from the populace especially online. I feel like I’m completely surrounded by people (on every “side”) who are making very intense and unyielding statements about other people’s morals and values and “good-“ or “bad-ness” based on their beliefs, opinions, responses or non responses to all the different things going on politically. I feel like it’s driving me insane. My head has been spinning constantly and I can’t stop crying. I feel like I’m drowning and cornered and under a police interrogation light. I’m so terrified of saying or doing or thinking or not thinking the “wrong” thing, I’m feeling my heart being torn in so many directions and I’m struggling to stop ruminating and spiraling over feeling like I don’t belong anywhere and no matter what I’m always going to be evil to someone. This is not me taking a side or revealing what I think, or trying to make an implied judgment or comment on ANY political figure, policy, etc….My point is: the issue I’m having is with the way people are talking about these issues and about other people in the midst of these issues, so black and white, so moralistic, and my OCD is having a field day. Just looking for camaraderie and to know I’m not alone in this. I please ask again do not bring up specific political issues or take stances in the comments. Thank you.
Today I've let myself go down a huge rabbit hole regarding this phrase and it's stressing me out. Sometimes, yes, it is that deep. But other times, it really isn't. I keep finding myself torn between these two ideals. I've been seeing all these videos regarding the rise of anti-intellectualism and the anti-woke mob, all that. These videos make me extremely worried about cancel culture and moral guilt, and they had me rethinking every morally wrong, gross, questionable thing or thought I ever had. I saw many comments saying that yes everything is that deep and it feels like my mind is on constant security and asking myself "what would the internet think about the things I've thought of or may have done?" On one hand, I feel like if I say "it's not that deep", I feel like a hypocrite or a bad person or an idiot. But on the other hand if I say "it is that deep", my OCD begins to spiral and analyze everything about myself. It's not healthy to overanalyze everything but it's also not healthy to ignore bad things. It's very stressful Does anyone relate to this?
My husband suffers from SEVERE ADHD and he claims that he “forgets” whenever I ask him to do something like clean up after himself or pick up his clothes off the floor. But it’s everyday now and we’ve been together for a year going on 2. We also have a 5 month old and I feel like I’m going crazy worrying about my mental health and taking care of the baby AND still having to come home and worry about him. At this point I’m done telling him anything as he sees anything I say as me “attacking” him rather than me just telling him why I’m upset and that this is now affecting my happiness in this relationship. I no longer feel close or want closeness. I’ve also mentioned this to him and he doesn’t take me seriously. “All this, only because I don’t pick up after myself.” I get stressed very easily over the smallest things. I don’t know if I’m at fault and need to seek help for getting mad over small things or if he’s just not mature enough to own up and be responsible for himself(he’s younger than me). Am I overreacting? I’m just a very clean person and can’t stand that he’s a “I’ll clean it later” type of person and forgets. I just don’t feel I’m getting the support of a mature spouse. I want to lean on him and feel like I can’t do that. Like I have to everything myself. Does anyone else feel like this? PLEASE HELP. I’m reaching my limit and feel like I need to break things off.
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