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Missus Anonymus Missus Anony...
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You do not have to tell your partner anything about your past as long as you don't lie and it's not in any way deceptive. I also had this problem. They don't own your soul. You are your own person.
ocdbrain102ocdbrain102
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@Anonymous39826 Curious if this too
ocdbrain102ocdbrain102
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@Anonymous39826 Me too!!
AverageJaneAverageJane
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What benefit do you see with telling your boyfriend about the argument? If it concerns him, but you addressed the issue with your parents, then it’s in the past. Pat yourself on the back that you resolved the issue and move forward ❤️
Missus Anonymus Missus Anony...
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@Anonymous39826 I used to get this. The only way to take away its power is to practise keeping some things private for yourself.
Missus Anonymus Missus Anony...
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@Missus Anonymus Sitting with the anxiety/urge to confess, no matter how much it feels terrible. It gets better the more you resist
AverageJaneAverageJane
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@Anonymous39826 Oh I remember the days when I felt like I had to tell EVERYTHING. Definitely an OCD issue to tell the world and thinking being transparent is great. But in the end through therapy I was wanting validation and acceptance. Most times from the wrong people as well! I am a much more private person now. Still OCD with some things but at least I mastered to not over share 😂❤️
Missus Anonymus Missus Anony...
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Just stop. Do something else. Sleep on it. Get distance from it in time and take some space for yourself too away from your partner. Over time it will lose its power. Just practice not confessing. Not trying to confess around the subject to alleviate anxiety. No. Sit with the anxiety. Watch it decrease. What your brain habituate. The sooner you stop confessing every little thing and hold space in your brain for your own private mind, it won't stop. Start now and you're closer to the peace I feel now after 2-3 years of compulsive confessing to my boyfriend and close besties. I know have peace from that subtype of Ocd
ocdbrain102ocdbrain102
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I have the same problem about feeling like I have to tell him everything about my past realions it’s eating me alive
Missus Anonymus Missus Anony...
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*the sooner you stop confessing the sooner you'll feel peace, basically. Sorry for typo's
Missus Anonymus Missus Anony...
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@Anonymous39826 Yeah I remember that! I used to get that too. The relief never sticks tho. It is hard. I would say make sure you learn to equip yourself against any new subtype that might come your way. After gaining power over confessions ocd I gained a new sexual intrusive thoughts subtype and I wish I had the tools to cut this in the beginning before it's spiralled so big and out of control. It's still possible to recover its just so much more work than if I only had the tools to stop it before it grew. Stay educated guys, trust me
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