How do I stop? It's so difficult when the doubt comes in or I get groinal/false attraction or even find a guy handsome to not spiral into compulsions and it doesn't help that I no longer experience high anxiety either just makes it feel even more real :(.
You might find other men handsome. Resist the urge to check and eventually you will forget about it Accept the thoughts
Something my therapist told me to say is “I may or may not be attracted to them, I don’t have to know that right now.” It teaches your brain that the thoughts and feelings are not as threatening as you think. And yes this will cause anxiety and discomfort but if you learn to embrace uncertainty you’ll find the thoughts won’t be as anxiety provoking. When I was in college I found myself finding other women beautiful/attractive and it made me uncomfortable and I kind of just ended up saying to myself “yes that woman is very beautiful and that’s okay.” The reason you’re having physical reactions is because your brain is going into fight/flight!
Accept the uncertainty
But how? I'm 20 I want to be like everyone else my age and have a relationship but how can I do that when I feel like I don't even know what I like and dislike anymore neither can I figure it out
Just because you say these things doesn’t mean you actually think them.
My OCD is continuing to have me constantly check and check and check! I keep doubting and am very confused! How can I get out of this trap!!!!!
I have really started to take control of my compulsions and im starting to string together better days! Still not great days or even good, but they are better!!! I have controlled my outward compulsions (googling, research, reassurance, checking) the past couple of days and felt the positive impact of that. But unfortunately, I am realizing that the rumination is still constant. My sexuality and relationship are the only two things constantly on my brain, and if they aren’t I freak out and wonder why im not thinking about them! Anyone have any advice on how to deal with the rumination. Sometimes I don’t even notice im doing it, but it’s taking up 90% of my day. Once I start to tackle this I think I may make some real big progress! Hope everyone is fighting today! ❤️
So my OCD has been bad lately. I’ve been ruminating and obsessing over my sexuality again. And it just keeps getting worse. I hate it so much. I try to sit with the discomfort but then my ocd does the backdoor spike. And the groinal response is what keeps me looped. It SUCKS. I am not attracted to men, but my OCD is trying SO hard to convince me that I am. There have been days where I’m just so mentally exhausted that I “accept” what my ocd tells me and I just walk around a hollow, lethargic shell. But then I rethink it and I feel better. It feels like I can only find my TRUE self when I tire my nervous system out enough that it literally breaks down and has me suicidal and hopeless. And then accepting my OCD’s “truth” (that I’m attracted to men) feels like a burden and a chore. I woke up today from an OCD dream, tried to go back to sleep, and my stomach kept cramping bc I was so anxious and ruminating over my intrusive thoughts. I’m starting to doubt it being OCD anymore. My brain is too tired to fight and cry about it anymore.
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