I have an awful confession/reassurance compulsion and I do it to my boyfriend all the time and it’s always upsetting thoughts for him and he says it’s ok and he’s fine but I’m afraid he’s gonna realize I’m a bad person or get tired of it and leave me
I had severe ROCD and currently dealing with the remnants of my Pure OCD. All I can tell you is that with proper help is 100% commitment, EVERYTHING GETS BETTER. To the point where it won’t even both you anymore
However the key is to end confessions. The only thing your boyfriend needs to know is that you struggle with OCD and thoughts that bring you discomfort.
Don’t give up! ROCD in a relationship is a sign that you are in a good one. I had every thought from being sure i’d be cheated on to being certain I would cheat on her. Felt 0 attraction and actually some resentment, however I did what I needed to do in my therapy and it’s all a thing of the past. You will understand why you have these thoughts and what they truly mean. And when they come again you’ll dismiss them like any other thought. This seems scary but you are such a champion, you’ll make it out of this like everyone before 😁
there is a relationship ocd book by Sheva Rajaee that was a huge stepping stone in my recovery. Daily meditation and yoga, and regular DAILY ERP IS CRUCIAL. You will go through days or weeks of pure chaos but so long as you commit to the practice every day you WILL see result, there’s no exceptions to this
All I f that could happen. All of that may not happen. One thing though, your boyfriend has to educate a bit and stop reassurance.
He's actually coming to my next therapy session to talk to my therapist
One thing I learned is that the could or could not happen thinking helps a little, what really helps is exposing yourself to the exact thought you’re dealing with and expose your self to a reality where it’s true. That might not make sense now but in time it will
hey there, i totally get how tough it can be dealing with those confession and reassurance compulsions, especially when they start to impact our relationships. it sounds incredibly challenging, and i just want to say that you're not alone in this struggle. i've got my own battles with pure o, and even though our obsessions might be different, that overwhelming feeling is something i can relate to. i'm here to listen whenever you need to vent or just talk it out, okay? i heard about this free ai ocd tool called "unstuck" from my therapist, and it might be a good fit for what you're going through. here's the link: www.AIOCDtool.com. since you're dealing with a lot of worries about your relationship and needing reassurance, this tool could be really helpful. it's designed to guide you through those intense moments when ocd feels like too much. you just type in what's bugging you, and it'll walk you through steps like a real ocd therapist would. i know app promotions can be annoying, and i'm not about that life, but honestly, this tool has been a game-changer for me, and i hope it can offer you some relief too. if you've got any questions or want to chat about how it works, i'm all ears. remember, we're in this fight together. 💪🙂
Anybody else have a major problem with confessions in ROCD? How can I deal with the urge to confess every little thought to my boyfriend? It’s hurtful to him because I’m constantly telling him every minor interaction I’ve had that I can remember with another guy, telling him my doubts about our relationship, and lately I’ve even been telling him hurtful things I don’t even agree with as far as comparing him to people I’ve been with before and people I’m attracted to. It’s really wrong of me to say these things to him for the sole purpose of relieving my anxiety. Any advice?
need help or tips? i've been spiraling because i have confession compulsion and i have this fear that once my boyfriend finds out the themes of my OCD, he'll leave me. he loves me and tells me he'll always be by my side but before i kind of confessed that my mind kind of has his followers memorized because of compulsions i've performed before and he admitted that it slightly turned him off because "damn that's something else" but it wasn't a dealbreaker... can't help but think if he thinks that's something else then he is definitely gonna be turned off after he finds out about my POCD especially now it kind of involved his younger nephew or about Harm OCD or Pure O Really need help to overcome this. I have this urge to confess to him and try to make him understand to get that reassurance from him that even after knowing these he won't leave me but I also don't want to bc not a lot of people will understand or be comfortable about it esp we've only been together for a few months
Please , please… someone give me some advice who is or has been in similar situation?? I need to stop confessing to my partner. I know it hurts him, he said he knows I cannot control that I have a mental illness, or that I have these thoughts in my head but not to put them in his head, he doesn’t want to think about them which is understandable it’s not just random thoughts it’s intrusive thoughts revolved around ROCD, SOCD mostly are my ocd themes that I confess to him… we have spilt up over this before and he gave me another chance and just continues to do that, because I just keep doing it, I know what I’m doing, I know it’s wrong, but the anxiety ocd gives me nothing else will calm me until I confess either to him or if it’s not him it’s my mum, either way I’m still confessing the difference is it doesn’t hurt my mum when I confess, she can handle it, my partner cannot. I hate myself for doing this, I don’t know how to get out of the OCD haze… best way I can describe when I feel anxious over ocd is a feeling of DOOM. 😔😭 please pray for me… please pray for my partner, my daughter, mother, everyone who is affected because of my mental illness… 🤎
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