no attraction (pls comment)

*not reassurance seeking* i feel no attraction towards guys anymore but i identify as straight. i feel like im just more aware of attractive women. i i also dont get anxiety from my thoughts. what if its not ocd and im actually in denial? and i get that ocd is a doubting disease but sometimes i have these moments of clarity just for it to go back to hell. sometimes i see a hetero couple and my brain would be like "you want to be in a relationship too but with a woman" and im just like🧍🏾‍♀️cuz wtf or "u can never be in a relationship with a man bc ull be wondering whether or not you should be with a woman" i had one intrusive thought and immediately lost all attraction and before this i had a crush on a guy for mad long😭its like my feelings changed overnight. i also cant be around my friends who r girls bc my brain is like "u think their walk is cute so u must be gay and in denial" or "they did something cute/adorable so ur gay" this theme is also worse bc im a Christian. does anyone else relate with me? i just want to know that im not alone with these.

Username: yessyessyessyess

Date posted: 1y ago

I’ve been experiencing this the last few days. Today I woke up with no anxiety, since I took a sleeping pill and the backdoor spike is so real. It’s had me thinking I was in denial and that I need to go explore and that 5 years from now I’m going to dress more masculine. OCD is so cruel! On Monday I was perfectly fine, had crushes on guys, life was normal. And Wednesday comes! Not having anxiety is freaking me out! You got this!

Username: pengunaranja pengunaranja

Date posted: 1y ago

Fr, not feeling anxious for us is = this might be real then. As Anxiety= we don't like it Not anxious = i might like this because i don't have Anxiety Lol this is very confusing i hate this

Username: simplyexhaustedsimplyexhausted

Date posted: 1y ago

@yessyess thank you for replying this helped more than you know

Username: pengunaranja pengunaranja

Date posted: 1y ago

I can relate;) i'm in a relationship, and it's more triggering because i love him (i don't have that feeling for him anymore lol, OCD took it away), sometimes feel as if woman we're prettier than man, and i hate it when a thought appears and says something like "You would enjoy having sex with a woman more than you do with your boyfriend ", i also hace times of clarity were i'm 100% sure about wanting to marry My boyfriend, then i completly get lost ruminating

Username: simplyexhaustedsimplyexhausted

Date posted: 1y ago

@mimuuzz thank u sm for replying i felt like i was going crazy. ive been so stuck lately and ig im grateful that im not the only one.

Username: JenniesOCDBrainJenniesOCDBrain

Date posted: 1y ago

hey there, i totally get how tough and confusing this must feel for you. even though my obsessions are more pure o flavored, the struggle with ocd's relentless doubts and what-ifs is something i can definitely relate to. i'm here to listen anytime you need to vent or just talk things out, okay? 🤗 so, my therapist mentioned this free ai ocd therapy tool called "unstuck" (www.AIOCDtool.com), and i think it might be a good fit for what you're going through. since you're dealing with these intense thoughts and questions about your identity, "unstuck" could be really helpful because it's designed to guide you through those overwhelming moments, just like a trained ocd therapist would. you just type in what's bothering you and it helps you step-by-step. i'm not big on promoting apps either, but honestly, this tool has been a game-changer for me, and i really hope it can offer you some relief too. not trying to be pushy, just want to share something that's helped a fellow ocd sufferer. feel free to hit me up if you have any questions about it. hang in there! 💪hey there, i totally get how tough and confusing this must feel for you. even though my obsessions are more pure o flavored, the struggle with ocd's relentless doubts and what-ifs is something i can definitely relate to. i'm here to listen anytime you need to vent or just talk things out, okay? 🤗 so, my therapist mentioned this free ai ocd therapy tool called "unstuck" (www.AIOCDtool.com), and i think it might be a good fit for what you're going through. since you're dealing with these intense thoughts and questions about your identity, "unstuck" could be really helpful because it's designed to guide you through those overwhelming moments, just like a trained ocd therapist would. you just type in what's bothering you and it helps you step-by-step. i'm not big on promoting apps either, but honestly, this tool has been a game-changer for me, and i really hope it can offer you some relief too. not trying to be pushy, just want to share something that's helped a fellow ocd sufferer. feel free to hit me up if you have any questions about it. hang in there! 💪

Username: Iann

Date posted: 5y ago

This feels weird. I feel like I’m gay, and when I “accept” My thoughts I don’t feel good or pleasure, just this weight on my chest. Like my mind says “okay you’re gay see” but when I think of me in gay scenarios I feel no pleasure at all. Yet I lost my attraction to women. My mind still says I’m gay though I feel nothing towards men. But it appears my attraction to women disappeared as well. What is this? Why did I used to have extremely mad anxiety over gay thoughts and now that I finally faced my thoughts I feel nothing as well? Like seriously what is this. I used to be girl crazy like to another level. Now I’m not attracted to women at all apparently but when I “accept” my thoughts and say ok I’m gay, I feel nothing towards men either. Is this still ocd? And why when I do have anxiety with gay thoughts it seems like I AM attracted to men. I don’t understand this. Do any of you have any experience and share some insight?

Sexual Orientation OCD

Username: idont241

Date posted: 5y ago

Everyday this is starting to feel less and less like ocd. I constantly feel anxious. So here’s how it goes Every single girl I see I worry “what if I am attracted to them” If I am not attracted to every guy i see I feel guilty I can’t imagine myself with a guy anymore Can’t imagine myself with a girl either (but for some reason it’s telling me I would love that) I feel sick all the time I constantly feel anxious I have so many what if questions I worry that this may have been me all along I was just unknowingly suppressing it I worry that all my past crushes weren’t real I feel anxious towards any girl now I feel like I am never going to love a guy again I feel like my case is different, that mine is real I can’t tell whether I feel aroused or disgusted by the thoughts The thoughts don’t leave my head and I’m constantly anxious. I am not attracted to women I am not attracted to men anymore This sparked up all of the sudden I can’t tell whether I actually want to be with a women I can’t imagine my future without the thoughts coming I feel different than anyone else That fact that I am even having the thoughts makes me anxious I can’t think a girl is pretty without immediately thinking what if I am attracted to them For some reason I am convinced I am a lesbian all of the sudden Can’t imagine myself with a guy anymore. Can’t tell if I’m in the closet Feel so anxious Does this sound in any way like ocd?

Sexual Orientation OCD

Username: Clementine

Date posted: 3y ago

Please someone help me. I feel like I’m in denial. I feel like I don’t have ocd. It’s too real. The intrusive thoughts aren’t as frequent, I don’t have anxiety or do compulsions. I’m not even against the thoughts anymore. I can’t explain how real it feels. It can’t be ocd and the thing is I just don’t want to like girls. That’s it. I just don’t want to. But that sounds like I’m resisting my sexuality and it feels like this too. I’m sorry to everyone on this app but I don’t think I’m like u anymore. If things like internalised homophobia and comphet didn’t exist then I’d know I was straight but they do so now I think I’m just that. I don’t want to marry a girl or have sex with one or anything. I want to be straight and just fucking live my life. I’ve never had a boyfriend and I haven’t had a crush on a boy for years even though my ‘ocd’ started in the summer. I’ve had loads of male celebrity crushes that I’ve felt like I’ve loved and I don’t understand how those could’ve been fake but they must have been. Compulsions don’t comfort me I just watch tv to distract myself and that’s it. I can’t do this shit anymore. I don’t want to like girls but I have to be either bi or lesbian. Please I just want to be straight I don’t get it.

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