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I don’t know anymore.
I feel like I’ve lost myself completely. I don’t know who I am or what I want anymore. This disorder is making me feel like I’ve lost everything.
I feel like I’ve lost myself completely. I don’t know who I am or what I want anymore. This disorder is making me feel like I’ve lost everything.
Yeah, this disorder has a tendency to do that. It's convinced me that I'm many things that I'm not. Ranging from trans, gay, bi, to asexual. Needing an answer also hurt my recovery. Especially when it's something that's at the core of who you are, such as Sexual Orientation. So, you aren't alone in the loss of identity.
@ZTValen Did you recover?
@ZTValen Trans ocd so hard
@sara_0209 In the sense that my themes don't control my life. The intrusive thoughts are still there, but I'm better equipped to handle them.
@star1232 It is, but OCD is hard in general. Working on your exposures would probably help.
@ZTValen Can you help me ?
@star1232 To some extent, I can give you some advice on what I did for exposures or talk about what I experienced going through TOCD. But, keep in mind, I'm not a licensed mental health professional.
@ZTValen Would appreciate letting me know how you kept your mind positive threw this. I’m dealing with the same, started with soocd/harm but threw a soocd panic I got tocd and I heard they can overlap. I freaked myself out it’s just wild how ocd waits for you to break down and it just got worse.
@ZTValen What did it feel like for you that you were convinced to be gay?
@ZTValen Yes I know
@sara_0209 Not pleasant, I can say that much. For me, I know I like women, I'm married to one. But your brain keeps pushing that one thought. It feels like an upheaval of your life. Wrought with anxiety and stress, mixed with identity loss.
@Anonymous For me, I have a strong support system - my wife, specifically. I also keep myself busy with work, hobbies, etc. And I keep working on my exposures, no matter how unpleasant. Trusting and knowing that ERP will help me through this is what keeps me going.
@star1232 Alright, whatever you want to chat about, feel free! I can't guarantee I'll be much help, but I'll try! (That, and I'm off to get a tetanus shot, so I'll be back after that)
@ZTValen Ok, do u have insta ? Or any other app than this
@star1232 Unfortunately, not really. I'm a tad on the older and reserved side, so I kinda keep off of most forms of social media. 🙃
@ZTValen Hey @ztvalen recently been struggling bad with tocd and soocd. I remember you said you can chat with someone I just want to know your tools and just have some questions if I’m able too that would be awesome. Thank you
feel this 100 percent
Been feeling the same. You'll be okay, remember, ocd has it's ups and downs! X.
@AyseTetik Thank you! I’ve been getting better however the intrusive thoughts are still there and I’m so confused and feel like deep down I like or want what I imagine :( it’s so hard and I’m so tired :(
@Vee <3 That’s what I’m dealing with right this second! Just intrusive thoughts about women and my ocd is deep down telling me I want it. It’s not causing anxiety which can be even scarier but at the moment I couldn’t care less what it’s saying sometimes because it’s the same cycle each time lol! It is difficult! I know just how you feel! Make sure you just treat the thoughts as thoughts! X.
So i started to feel like a lesbian again and that i have to be one. I dont want to be one. I just dont. But being straight feel like a lie now. I question my whole life, my feelings and everything. The biggest indicator of this must be that i will be slowly 21 year old and ive never dated anyone and i dont really find anyone attractive and i dont even know if i truly was attracted to someone and im scared of relationships i might have trauma or have anxious avoidant attachment. Help me. I do feel lost. Really lost. I dont know who am I anymore. I feel like that i must have been gay my whole life now. I feel like an alien. I sometimes feel like 2 people are living inside of me.😞😞😞
Makes me feel lost. I feel like I don't know who I am anymore.
I miss when I wasn't ruminating 24/7, waking up with horrible anxiety or spending all day doing compulsions. Even when I try so hard to resist them I just end up in a spiral. I miss when I was comfortable in my nonbinary identity and didn't have TOCD and now everything feels wrong and conflicting. I miss when I wasn't depressed and disabled. I know I can never get that person back. I haven't seen that person since high school. Ive spent years with this disorder and i havent gotten better despite therapy and meds. I don't know if I'll ever be happy again.
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