AG._.
- Date posted
- 5y
andrewt_andrewt_
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 5y
In order for the anxiety to stop you gotta stop doing the compulsions , they only give you temporary relief until you have another question or doubt. You’ll completely get over HOCD once you get under the fear of being gay and expose it for what it is , something unimportant to the quality of your life. Tell yourself that if you were gay , you could learn to accept yourself even if it came with some work. Tell yourself you would be willing to accept it and work towards happiness. Rooting for you
andrewt_andrewt_
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 5y
And btw , groinal responses don’t mean shit man. There’s no point in checking if you have one , especially because checking for one usually causes it.
starboiklemstarboiklem
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- 5y
True,i get groinal responses that have nothing to do with sex,like i get one when i pet-hug my dog because love makes me hard idk why nothing sexual,also when i had hocd i got hard looking at men why? because when you have ocd it creates symptoms idk how,now i don't have hocd and i never get hard at any man like i only got hard while having hocd it ain't random dude don't try to test yourself not only it's a compulsion but ocd is gonna sabotage you by giving you groin responses exactly when you don't want to have one
AG._.AG._.
- Date posted
- 5y
Thanks man I noticed that after watching it, it gave me more intrusive thoughts but how did you beat your hocd
starboiklemstarboiklem
- Date posted
- 5y
I got a new ocd theme that is so much more serious than hocd that hocd seems like a joke now and ill never get it as my current theme is so brutal that all i want is to survive, worrying about being gay is just insignificant to me after this,not saying it isn't serious for other but that's my perspective
AG._.AG._.
- Date posted
- 5y
How did you get over it
starboiklemstarboiklem
- Date posted
- 5y
I didn't as i said i got a new theme while having hocd and after my new theme hocd disappeared because it's not important now and i don't think I'll get it again as my new theme made me realize how insignificant hocd was,like id happily trade my current theme for hocd
AG._.AG._.
- Date posted
- 5y
What’s your current theme if you don’t mind me asking
starboiklemstarboiklem
- Date posted
- 5y
Existamental ocd, basically i have this intense doubt about the nature of reality like i question whether it's like i thought it was or if it's a dream and everyone isn't real but imagined,like right now im not sure if you are like me self conscious human or just a part of my dream
starboiklemstarboiklem
- Date posted
- 5y
I got this on accident after learning about solipsism which states that you can't prove that anything exists other than you
starboiklemstarboiklem
- Date posted
- 5y
So my stupid ocd brain quickly started saying "so other people's existance is just a belief not a fact like i thought so how do i know this belief is accurate?"what if i live in a lie?
TonyOCDTonyOCD
- Date posted
- 5y
Starboiklem... the "getting hard to guys" while under hocd happened to me like 9 years ago. And yes, it stopped happening when I stopped fearing it. It was like just by recognizing "aesthetical beauty" was enough to give me an erection when I was obsessed with it. Did it happened to you? How did you handle it?
AG._.AG._.
- Date posted
- 5y
Well I’ve had hocd since May and I just want to go back to my old self I don’t want to be with another man I know that I will never have sex with another man I just want to beat my hocd and leave it in the past
TonyOCDTonyOCD
- Date posted
- 5y
That's what we all want :(
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