- Username
- snowflakes
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y ago
progress/compulsions
how to not develop the mindset that if you slip up and do a compulsion you are set back in your progress and all of your hard work is gone?
how to not develop the mindset that if you slip up and do a compulsion you are set back in your progress and all of your hard work is gone?
A slip up is a way to know what not to do next time. Your awareness is good that’s how you know work isn’t gone because you acknowledged it now the step is to not do that compulsion next time and remember if you give into one for a minute or five minutes or more you can always STOP and walk away.
I think it is good to accept the possibility of slipping up or even getting to the older states because then there is no pressure on yourself. Trying too hard creates resistence and therefore generates more problem. Just accept it as a journey that is one step back two steps forward. Also once you've gotten to this level, you know you can get there again.:)
I was wondering if this is a thing. Like, say, especially if you are in the process of getting better. Doesn't doing ERP every day keep reminding you of your obsessions? Is there a point where you should do it less often? Or how does this work?
I was doing so good, but over the past few months, the OCD has returned with a vengenace. I try to explain what I'm experiencing to my family, but they don't understand. I just need to hear that people get it and know that I can make it out the other end alive and in one piece I've had many themes over the years, but right now, scrupulocity is taking over my life. It takes the normal day-to-day things I do, and twists them into compulsions to feed the insatiable monster that tells me if I don't do enough, be perfect enough, that I'm not a good partner-- not a good person. I'm not working hard because it feels satisfying; I'm doing it because I feel lazy and worthless if I don't. Everything has been taken to an extreme. It's making getting in the way of eating and sleeping. I'm suffering, but I feel like I need to try and pretend that I'm fine (even though I'm terrible at hiding it) because I feel like my husband will think I'm crazy, whiny, and dramatic, and eventually, get tired of it and leave. I'm not asking for reassurance. I just want to not feel so alone.
does anyone else use the fact that they dont like their thoughts as a confirmation/compulsion, and or when you go through something stressful with little to no compulsions take it as a sign they actually like it? is this apart of usual rumination or am I expirencing something different? and how do you deal with it?
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