Should I confess past sexual fantasies to my boyfriend or let them go?

Confessing

I have a constant need to confess past sexual fantasies to my boyfriend. the problem is I can’t figure out which ones were real and which ones were sexually intrusive thoughts (which i deal a lot with). When it comes down to it, I don’t know if this is a compulsion to confess or if I owe it to him bc it’s a form of cheating. I feel disgusted with my past thoughts/sexual fantasies. They are constantly playing in my head and I’m always wondering what my real intentions were during them. Is this something I am obligated to confess to him? these happened almost 2 years ago and some even longer. I just feel like if i confess one, I’ll just fixate on another and need to confess that too. I feel like a disloyal partner for having those thoughts and i don’t know how to deal with that.

Username: LJP05LJP05

Date posted: 40w ago

This is a compulsion, you do not need to confess past sexual fantasies/intrusive thoughts to your boyfriend. All thoughts are just fantasy anyways (they’re not real) so there’s no reason to try to figure out if they were wanted or not. I have had this exact problem before and I know it’s hard when you feel like you’re cheating or being unfaithful in any way but by letting the thoughts come and go you’ll find more time where you can enjoy yourself and your boyfriends/friends/family’s presence. I hope this unlatches for you soon ☺️

Username: jeanette jeanette

Date posted: 40w ago

I think this is almost exactly what I’m going through, all about sexual thoughts while I have orgasmed. Old memories, sometimes I don’t even know if some were dreams and I feel extreme guilt as I feel some were intrusive and some I engaged in. I was diagnosed with pocd and meta ocd. Confessing doesn’t help, because we will always look into other things we’ve thought about. 😣

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 40w ago

@jeanette it’s nice to know i’m not alone ❤️ thanks for ur comment

Username: jeanette jeanette

Date posted: 40w ago

@Anonymous Same, it’s somewhat comforting to know there’s other people going through similar. Wish you the best ♥️

Username: Allison_

Date posted: 2y ago

Confession OCD

Anyone know anything about confession OCD that can tell me about it in a nutshell? I’ve always felt the need to tell everyone whatever is going on in my head and I feel guilty if I don’t. I would always tell on myself as a kid but not for the things I did wrong but instead for all the bad things in my head. Now I obsess over everything from my past and experience with other partners and have horrible guilt if I don’t tell my boyfriend absolutely everything that has ever happened or just things my mind gets stuck on. Only when he knows everything I can think of do I relax. Is this what confession OCD is? If not- does anyone else get the compulsion to get the truth out?

Username: Anonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

Confession - cheating ocd

I have this thought where i think ive chested on my partner 2 years ago when drunk at a party I really really dont think it happened because i only had the thought a few months ago “what if i cheated at this party with this guy who i barely even know” I see a future with my boyfriend and i don’t want to confess but i just feel like i have to JUST IJ CASE but i know it could hurt him so much and it probably didnt even happen I cant just ask the guy who i think i cheated with because were not friends and dont speak so if i message he will think im some freak Anyone in a similar boat or overcome this I just don’t know how i can move forward without confessing

Username: Coffeelover11

Date posted: 1y ago

Anyone else experience this?

Does anyone struggle with real event ocd and having to confess to their partner? I have so many regrets on things I’ve either done or thought and feel like I can’t move on or be better until I’ve been forgiven for them. Mostly things that happened a couple years ago and I don’t know why it’s all of a sudden bothering me now but it makes me feel like I’m the worst person ever. I’m even questioning how I thought or felt during that time and I’m confessing to thoughts or things I may or may not have done or thought. It’s so confusing and I feel trapped in my own head. If anyone has any tips I would appreciate it. Thank you for you time

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