AmandaB345

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

I feel like I’ve cracked code

I’ve been doing a lot deep thinking and I finally learned that ocd comes with the possibilities it doesn’t mean that who you will be it simply means it’s out there and to be aware of it. I know I’m a confident straight woman and nothing will change me. Also always remember that everything is a choice you don’t have to be with someone or do something you don’t want to do. Always remember that!!

AnxiousMind24

Date posted: 1y

But sometimes I feel like what if I’ve suppressed my desires and how can I really know what I want. And in theory I could try being with a woman, though it doesn’t sound appealing to me…

AmandaB345

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

@AnxiousMind24 Sometimes you have to do a lot thinking. Have you had a thought when you look a woman and say “I want to date her or have sex with” listen to your gut and if you feel disgusted and uncomfortable listen to that if you feel unhappy listen to that

AnxiousMind24

Date posted: 1y

@AmandaB345 But that’s the thing with ocd, it can convince you of anything. My gut isn’t the most reliable source of information at the moment

AmandaB345

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

@AnxiousMind24 Just take time and relax I know that is hard to do with ocd being all over the place. I could always say go through an experimental phase it helped me to give me more confidence in my sexuality and trust me it wasn’t easy but it helped me but just take one day at a time.

AmandaB345

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

@Ilovemyhusband0322 It doesn’t have to be dangerous if you have help. I’ve talked to plenty of people who have gone through a phase I did and I’m good. I’m not saying everyone has to do it but it is an option

AnxiousMind24

Date posted: 1y

@AmandaB345 You have good intentions, and I’ve seen the experimentation suggestion so many times that I’m not even triggered by it, but as a general rule it can be a compulsion for people with ocd, so not a good idea…

AmandaB345

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

@AnxiousMind24 Understandable just trying to help

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Date posted: 1y

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AmandaB345

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

@Ilovemyhusband0322 Understandable it personally helped me and I didn’t do anything with a woman tried but couldn’t

AmandaB345

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

@Ilovemyhusband0322 That’s very understandable that’s why I’m glad I never had sex with a woman I simply just tried to match with women on tinder and it was like pulling teeth for me which was a big message that I didn’t like it.

AnxiousMind24

Date posted: 1y

@AmandaB345 I did the same and actually went on a date with a woman. It felt okay, like hanging out with a friend. This calmed down my brain but then a year later my mind is like “maybe it wasn’t the right girl”, “what if you just suppressed your feelings”. That’s why I am against experimentation because for me it will be more like a compulsion

AmandaB345

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

@AnxiousMind24 Very understandable. We all got this!! I hope everything goes well for you

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Date posted: 1y

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AmandaB345

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

@Ilovemyhusband0322 Yes we all got this!!!

Rayanswaid

Date posted: 24w

Realizing That Thoughts Are Just Thoughts.

I’ve been thinking a lot about how OCD changes the way we see ourselves, but I recently realized that I am not my thoughts. Just because a thought pops up doesn’t mean it’s true or that it defines me. I’ve started learning how to see OCD for what it is—just a disorder trying to trick me—and I’ve become stronger in dealing with it. Has anyone else here had a similar realization? How do you handle these thoughts when they show up?

Elliesmith

Date posted: 22w

Is this ocd

So my whole life I’ve been heterosexual. I have got hocd so I worry I’m a lesbian when I have no reason to worry about it because im straight ( not that my ocd likes to think that tho lol! ). But there’s this thought I have, How do I know I’m 100% straight if I haven’t tried sleeping with a girl? Bear in mind I’ve NEVER WANTED TO and DONT want too. Hence why it is an INTRUSIVE thought. But the thought is so uncomfortable- I can’t seem to shift it. But i do see that THIS IS OCD & wanting to know for certain. Thats the definition of OCD. I do know that but it’s tough with the stupid doubts!!! Do you guys just live with the unknown / uncertainty. I’m so happy and love my boyfriend and only want to be with him etc. Let me say again, I DONT want to sleep with a girl nor have I ever fantasized about it. But why does ocd want 100% certainty.. I just wanna not have that weird niggling thought.

geodrimilis

Date posted: 21w

How to counter hocd (in my opinion)

Think logically. Literally. Take me as an example. I have hocd and my obsession is “what if I’m gay”. I’ve liked girls my whole life, I can still get aroused by them and I can’t get the same instinctive reaction from a guy. So I can’t be gay. Sometimes ocd will go to something else once you prove it wrong. Maybe like. “What if I’m bi” again I can only get aroused by girls. Sometimes when I’m not thinking about it I can even get aroused when sitting next to a girl or when I’m sitting next to one or even when I’m touching one in a non sexual way. Something that never happens or has happened with a guy in my life. Don’t start panicking. Just “realise” who you are and who you’ve been.

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