No matter what I do I can’t stop ruminating thoughts. I feel so frustrated. My mind is so loud and the thoughts are just on a loop. I feel paranoid and can’t stop obsessing. Anyone have any helpful suggestions? 😣
Don't do physical compulsions or try to counter it with a positive thought. Instead, notice the thought as it comes, and let it be there. You don't need to react to it in any way shape or form just let it be, while knowing this is ocd, not you.
You don’t have to make these thoughts go away. This is what is keeping you stuck in that loop. I remember when I was really bad I would wake up everyday and ‘check’ how I felt or check if the thoughts had gone. Obviously the more I did this the more I paid attention to it the more anxious and disheartened I felt when it was still there. Let them thoughts in, in-fact welcome (it sounds insane) but trust me you have to go through it to overcome it. Allow yourself to feel anxious but do not do anything to respond or resolve it. Over time you will notice your brain will send you less of them yucky thoughts and you’ll get to a point where even if it does you simply won’t care. It is a process you really have to trust and I know how scary that is. Hoping you feel a bit better soon 💕
@TBdiz89 Waking up and checking if the thoughts had gone is EXACTLY what I do. Thank you for sharing this 💜
@Malixe81 Sometimes it feel automatic to do this, it honestly takes a lot of time and practice but you will get there! 💕
Hopefully these videos help! How To Stop Rumination Video: https://youtu.be/CkcspsmLh9k?feature=shared ERP Techniques for Reassurance video: https://youtu.be/D1O3RGnLjRM?feature=shared
@Nica I will absolutely watch these. Thank you 💜
I cannot for the life of me stop ruminating or checking how I feel about thoughts or focusing on thoughts or creating more thoughts. I feel like I’m losing my mind. I want to scream. I try not to ruminate about the thoughts, but trying not to just makes me think about them more. I try not to check, but somehow, I still check. I want to let a thought sit in the background, but the more I try not to focus on it, the more I end up focusing on it. I don’t want the thought to expand because that feels like engaging with it, but I can’t just stop it from expanding. It feels impossible. People keep saying I’m in control of my compulsions, and maybe that’s true for the physical ones. But when it comes to the mental compulsions, I swear I have no control. It feels like I’m missing something that everyone else seems to have, like there’s some tool they’re using that I don’t have. Controlling mental compulsions has never felt possible for me. I’m starting to fear them. And every time someone says I’m in control and can just choose not to do them, I end up beating myself up even more when they happen. Or when I *choose* I guess. I don’t know anymore. If this is my fault, if I’m responsible for this, then what does that make me? I feel like a monster. I am at my wits’ end. How am I supposed to control mental compulsions when it feels like they control me? I freak out when they happen. They don’t bring me relief, they just make me panic. I want it to stop so bad.
What's a piece of advice you give when someone has constantly intrusive thoughts and ruminations that won't stop? Interested to see what you tell others.....more on this when I see some replies!!!
I ruminated too much this morning and got distressing mental images (and confirmation) which sent me spiraling again. How do I stop thinking about this and how do I get back to myself? I feel destroyed.
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