Adapting to getting help

I get paranoid a lot because of the feeling of being alone. I’m constantly talking to Jesus and listen to sermons and read Bible verses to help me. Due to health issues and body limitations I’m not able to clean the way I used to. Now that I have a home health aide, I’m having to adapt to someone touching my things and putting them different. I am finding myself getting annoyed with her, but I haven’t said anything. How do I deal with this?

Username: Robbie TRobbie T

Date posted: 39w ago

I’m so glad you are reading your Bible and talking to Jesus. That helps a lot when I sit down to do it. You can also listen to K-Love on the radio which is 96.1. It’s Christian radio. Sometimes that’s the way God encourages me too. In addition to having OCD I have fibromyalgia and ADHD. I too am not able to clean my house anymore like I used too. Now I can only do a little at a time. It’s frustrating. Maybe you can talk to your aide and explain that it’s not really her but the frustration of your physical limitations you have now that didn’t used to be there. It’s not you it’s me. I’m frustrated with myself because I can no longer clean my house on my own. It’s a loss of independence I once had. She will understand and I think you will find ways to work together as a team

Username: Heavenly GatesHeavenly Gates

Date posted: 39w ago

@Robbie T Thank you for the great encouragement.

Username: Robbie TRobbie T

Date posted: 29w ago

@Heavenly Gates You are welcome. Have you heard of the book Incurable Faith? It is by a woman named Andrea Herzer. I have actually talked to her. She has an amazing testimony and really helps those who struggle with incurable illnesses as she herself has several. Look her up on facebook.

Username: Robbie TRobbie T

Date posted: 39w ago

You’re also feeling shame. I am 40 yrs old and live in the old home I grew up in. My parents own the house and my dad comes over everyday to pick up my dog and take care of him while I’m at work at Early Head Start in another town. My dad is from the generation that women did the cooking and cleaning and made a home spotless. My dad is critical of me and says things like I don’t take pride in my house. I tried telling him how much I hurt due to my fibromyalgia and it really makes cleaning hard. My dad was very rude and quickly retorted with “Don’t you think you’re feeling sorry for yourself/I think you’re feeling sorry for yourself! I was livid and almost went off on him. I constantly feel shame that my dad disapproves of me so I battle that too. Thank goodness I have an amazing boyfriend who loves me for me. We don’t live together because we are not married yet. Otherwise he would probably give my dad a piece of his mind. When we do get married we want to have a house of our own so we will be out from under that. My boyfriend has cerebral palsy and is legally blind. However he can see clear up to 20 feet due to the thick glasses he wears.

Username: Heavenly GatesHeavenly Gates

Date posted: 39w ago

@Robbie T That’s wonderful that you have someone in your life who loves you just for you. Hopefully your dad will come around one day.

Username: yinigiyinigi

Date posted: 39w ago

hey there, it sounds like you're going through a tough time adjusting to changes and finding comfort in your faith. it's really challenging when your personal space feels different, especially when you're already dealing with health issues. i'm sending you a virtual hug for the strength you're showing in handling all this. 🤗 by the way, have you heard about this new AI-powered OCD therapy tool called 'unstuck?' i've been in a similar situation before, and what really helped me was this free AI OCD therapy tool called "unstuck" (unstuckmyOCD.com/try) that my NOCD therapist recommended. i think it'll be especially helpful for you because it can offer support in finding ways to cope with the discomfort of changes in your environment and the feelings of annoyance in a way that aligns with your values. it's like having an OCD therapist in your pocket. i hate when people promote stuff, but i really think it can help you because it's changed my life. lmk if you have Qs or just want to talk more! 💖

Username: Heavenly GatesHeavenly Gates

Date posted: 39w ago

@yinigi Oh thank you so much. I sure will.

Username: yinigiyinigi

Date posted: 39w ago

i totally get how tough it must be feeling overwhelmed and paranoid, especially with the changes in your routine and having someone else in your space touching your things. it's really admirable that you're reaching out for help and using your faith as a source of comfort. adapting to new situations, especially when it involves personal space, can be super challenging. by the way, have you heard about this new AI-powered OCD therapy tool called 'unstuck?' when i was going through a rough patch, similar to what you're describing, my NOCD therapist recommended it to me (unstuckmyOCD.com/try), and it was a game-changer. i think it'll be especially helpful for you because it offers personalized, step-by-step support for dealing with difficult situations and feelings, just like an OCD therapist. i hate when people promote stuff, but i really think it can help you because it's changed my life. lmk if you have Qs or just want to talk more! <3

Username: LeslieB3LeslieB3

Date posted: 39w ago

it sounds really tough dealing with the changes and having to adapt to someone else handling your things, especially when you're already coping with health issues and feeling alone. reaching out to your faith and finding comfort in it is a strong approach. it's okay to feel annoyed; adapting to change, particularly in your personal space, can be really challenging. by the way, have you heard about this new AI-powered OCD therapy tool called "unstuck"? i've been in a similar situation before, and what really helped me was this free AI OCD therapy tool called "unstuck" (unstuckmyOCD.com/try) that my NOCD therapist recommended to me. i think it'll be especially helpful for you because it offers personalized step-by-step support when dealing with changes and the discomfort that comes with them, just like an OCD therapist. i hate when people promote stuff, but i really think it can help you because it's changed my life. lmk if you have Qs or just want to talk more! <3

Username: jess 113

Date posted: 4y ago

Hi I am new to this app and didnt know what else to turn to. My parents dont understand me at all.. my ocd or anything I go thru. I have almost 2 years clean from drugs, have extreme anxiety, and pretty severe OCD and trich. I am just having a really hard and traumatizing week. Two nights ago my freezer caught on fire( which I didnt even realize was a thing) and there was no one there to help me. I was frozen in shock and I just switched the breakers off until my apartment maintenece could help in the morning. Of course I didnt sleep bc I just kept thinking it was still going to catch fire. The power has gone off 3 times this week.. once while I had a cleaning service here to help me clean my apartment( which is a hard enough exposure for me anyway, to let other people in touching all my things especially during covid). The last thing is I have been worried for a while that there is something physically wrong with me (my dad is a physician and I have physical symptoms to back up this theory). I wont share my symptoms cuz that could take a while but as someone with Ocd you think are all of these symptoms real/fake and related/ unrelated issues that I should or shouldnt worry about. Well my concierge doctor called me with intensive lab results they did as a result of my worrying and it turns out my ANA is pretty high and she wants to refer me to a rheumatologist. ANA being high is the first sign of an autoimmune disease. She was trying to write my fatigue off as sleep apnea but they did find something pretty significant in my bloodwork. Im just really scared. This is too much for me to deal with and worry about. I just feel like shutting down, I cant deal with this all by myself. Any advice or just support? I do have an Ocd therapist, have been thru exposure therapy, and currently take meds for it.

Username: Jo ^^

Date posted: 1y ago

Needing some tips

For a while now I’ve been having trouble with accepting things have changed. Ever since I started struggling with my OCD in 2021 I’ve been wanting to go back to the past. Many things have changed since that happened and I absolutely hate change. What I mean by change is old routines even if they aren’t my own, but also other peoples I was used to seeing, furniture being rearranged or thrown out so it doesn’t “look” the same etc. me myself has also changed. I’m always wishing I could go back in time and relive or wish things would go back to how they used to be or feel those certain feelings again. I always tell myself maybe if all this never changed my OCD wouldn’t have troubled me. Even though I know that’s totally not true. It’s getting annoying and I wanted to ask if any of you have any tips on how I can just accept things are NOT how they used to be and won’t stay the same forever. I just feel sorta stuck rn.

Username: Moe31

Date posted: 1y ago

Finding comfort in the Bible. It helps me the most

So, this may not be everyone’s cup of tea. But eight years ago after getting out of the military. I was very ill, my walking around weight now is 219-225 I love food. At that time I was 159 I thought I had cancer I couldn’t keep food down. I spent more time going to that bathroom than living. The VA thought it would be good to put me on muscle relaxers, it did the opposite affect. It made me worse almost to the point where I almost lost control and took my own life. Fast forward eight years later and the fear of losing control is what is consistently on my mind. I do rituals to make sure the door is locked, I have to watch my groceries at all times because I feel like someone might poison me. I have to put my clothes on a certain way or else I feel like I might lose control. So, this is my life right now I had my first appointment today and I can feel some light at the end of the tunnel. I know erp therapy is going to be rough. But I just want my life back. To all suffering from this terrible thing called ocd keep fighting and turn to God, it really does help me when the anxiety kicks up. Love you all and remember the valley is only temporary and the sun shines brightest at the peak. Don’t give up.

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