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That is not realistic of him at all. Arguments are healthy as long as both parties are respectful and consider both sides. It sounds like when you argue you approach it in a kind and understanding way. Feeling anger and frustration in a relationship is normal and expected. It is more unhealthy to simply brush everything under the carpet. That is when silent resentment builds and can really hurt the relationship.

My partner says this, considering we went through the exact same situation you two are currently going through and have effectively communicated through that issue: “I would be worried about arguments too, because I would be connecting arguments with the fear of losing you to losing parents through the divorce. The first step we did to resolve this anxiety over having arguments, is just change it to the word “strong discussions”. The fact of the matter is, if he is willing to communicate in the first place then that means he doesn’t want to lose you, and while his anxiety is completely valid, there needs to be an ability to communicate through these “discussions” and learn from them and be a stronger couple together.“ I hope this was of some help! Having arguments/discussions are healthy and normal :)

Honestly don’t worry arguments are so normal and from what I just read you hardly ever have them! Me and my boyfriend have quite a few arguments /little spats often due to my rocd but we’ve been together over 3years and it doesn’t mean it’s toxic or means you should breakup as long as you both want it enough and want to work through it everything is okay and normal!