- Username
- #happiness
- Date posted
- 37w ago
Erp
If I think all things done wrong are personal failures for erp are they going to make me do personal failures?
If I think all things done wrong are personal failures for erp are they going to make me do personal failures?
Does it happen after erp and finds out that u re not what your ocd said still feel the sadness and depression ?
@star1232 I haven’t started erp yet
You get exposed to what triggers you and you practice reacting differently to your routine compulsions in response to the stress.
So if personal failures trigger me I will have to do things that I consider personal failures
I felt all my exposures were making me a bad person. No matter what they were. But the issue is that many things we think are “personal failures” are not actually wrong at all. Just being human. Or just reality being reality. And shared responsibility with others (instead of shouldering everything yourself, like many of us tend to do) The point of ERP is to help you think realistically about yourself again. So where you think “I will have to go fail at things” we will probably see these things as not nearly as bad as you think they are. Try and trust the therapists and what they ask you to do (they’ll probably do it with you, if it goes the same as my ERP) instead of your ocd judgements about yourself. Because I can 100% say that you are way too hard on yourself. Also try not to think too much about what they will ask you to do. It’ll only make you more anxious and it’s not certain what you have to do yet. Also know that you are always in control. They won’t force you to do anything. Though I’d advise you to dive in and do it all, because with that attitude you can recover in the best way. I was terrified to start ERP because I was sure they were going to ask me to stick my hand in a toilet. They never did. And in the last session I MYSELF suggested we do it, as a symbol of how far I’d come. :) You don’t have the experience of ERP working yet. But when you do, you’ll see how much relief you can get from ocd. Good luck!
hey there, i totally get where you're coming from—it sounds like you're feeling really stressed about the idea of ERP and what it might involve. just remember, the goal of ERP is to help you manage those fears, not to make you face personal failures. 💪 i'm dealing with a different theme in my ocd, but i've found some stuff that really helps and might be useful for you too. one thing that's been a game-changer for me is this app called "unstuck ocd therapy tools." my local ocd support group recommended it, and it's been super helpful. it offers AI-personalized guidance and exercises that you can use when you need it most. also, i've been checking out the ocd stories podcast, and it's been really comforting to hear others share their experiences and insights. might be worth a listen! 🎧
Well, ERP is not working out for me. In fact it has only served to make me more depressed because the idea of accepting I might be a "bad person" or pervert (or whatever) just makes me feel, well, bad! I'm not sure how this could help anyone honestly. Has anyone else experienced this and had luck with other treatments?
Scared about starting erp. Afraid I'll become a different person or that I'll become what I've been fearing and obessessing over. Will the therapy depress me and lead me to something like suicide. Not that I am suicidal but I am afraid I would get so sad or disheartened that I become that.
My biggest obsession at the moment is that I am not going to get better, or, am I going to get better. My therapist is making me say a script to myself about not get better and never being well again, losing my family and suffering for the rest of my life. I am so scared I am doing it wrong. I don't stop worrying about getting better all day long, it goes round and round in my head. I am full of anxiety and pain. I am apparently supposed to really believe that I might not ever get better...but I can't MAKE myself believe that. I still hope to get better....is that wrong? Is that not doing erp right. What if I can't get the erp done correctly??? I feel like my therapist and I are just going round in circles as I am not grasping it properly
Share your thoughts so the Community can respond