Why is my husband like this?

My husband thinks he knows so much about OCD, like he’s an expert or something. I really struggle with confessing things with OCD, but any time I go to talk to my husband about something that actually happened and is not just a false memory, he doesn’t let me talk to him about it, but I just need him to know what happened. Of course, I know that I am probably blowing the thing that happened out of proportion, but how do I navigate this? He won’t let me talk to him about anything related to OCD really because he thinks I’m constantly “confessing” things to him.

Username: NicaNica

Date posted: 37w ago

He’s probably trying to hemp you and/or distance himself from the situation.

Username: ExpertParakeetExpertParakeet

Date posted: 37w ago

I feel like this is actually good ERP activity. It sounds like he’s trying to avoid to reassuring you and is attempting the break the loop by forcing you to sit with the anxiety, and not allowing you to do the confession compulsion. This seems like a smart move and I wonder if he’s read up on it in his own time.

Username: jimmyonetimejimmyonetime

Date posted: 37w ago

Maybe he’s trying to be helpful but not listening is not helpful. Share with him how you feel. If he continues to be unhelpful then find a friend or a professional to talk with about your situation. I wish you the best of luck.

Username: StrawberryShortcakeStrawberrySh...

Date posted: 37w ago

@jimmyonetime I’ve tried to tell him how it makes me feel, but he thinks he knows better than I do.

Username: dvnissecndvnissecn

Date posted: 37w ago

Omg, same!!! My boyfriend thinks he understands my OCD but he really knows nothing about it. I’m sure your husband is just trying to help, though, so don’t overthink it!

Username: JordTheNordJordTheNord

Date posted: 37w ago

Difficult to say because as confidence he is he definitely could be avoiding the situation and or what he says is his reality. Which doesn’t make him right. We all are doing things because we believe it’s right. It seems that he is doubling down on the “reassurance” aspect of what HE BELIEVES you are doing. What are you seeking from him when you just want to inform him of things?

Username: StrawberryShortcakeStrawberrySh...

Date posted: 37w ago

@JordTheNord I just want his reassurance that I did nothing wrong, and I just want to be able to talk to someone about things that actually happen instead of just holding them inside of my head and dealing with them alone:(

Username: JordTheNordJordTheNord

Date posted: 37w ago

@StrawberryShortcake Perhaps that’s what he’s trying to help you overcome to not seek out constant reassurance. I understand wanting to talk about things though and not deal with them alone. Maybe you can ask him to talk to you about a few things and get reassurance but then space it out. The constant need for reassurance is what keeps us OCDemon slayers in OCD’s cycle. Maybe it’s just hard for you to quit cold turkey so maybe by talking to him about a few things at least fewer than you want that’ll help you lesson your need for reassurance.

Username: rosecoloredgirl

Date posted: 3y ago

need help or tips? i've been spiraling because i have confession compulsion and i have this fear that once my boyfriend finds out the themes of my OCD, he'll leave me. he loves me and tells me he'll always be by my side but before i kind of confessed that my mind kind of has his followers memorized because of compulsions i've performed before and he admitted that it slightly turned him off because "damn that's something else" but it wasn't a dealbreaker... can't help but think if he thinks that's something else then he is definitely gonna be turned off after he finds out about my POCD especially now it kind of involved his younger nephew or about Harm OCD or Pure O Really need help to overcome this. I have this urge to confess to him and try to make him understand to get that reassurance from him that even after knowing these he won't leave me but I also don't want to bc not a lot of people will understand or be comfortable about it esp we've only been together for a few months

Username: Allison_

Date posted: 2y ago

Confession OCD

Anyone know anything about confession OCD that can tell me about it in a nutshell? I’ve always felt the need to tell everyone whatever is going on in my head and I feel guilty if I don’t. I would always tell on myself as a kid but not for the things I did wrong but instead for all the bad things in my head. Now I obsess over everything from my past and experience with other partners and have horrible guilt if I don’t tell my boyfriend absolutely everything that has ever happened or just things my mind gets stuck on. Only when he knows everything I can think of do I relax. Is this what confession OCD is? If not- does anyone else get the compulsion to get the truth out?

Username: MadxTim

Date posted: 1y ago

My Husband

Hello, My husband has moderate to severe OCD. He struggles with contamination, some checking, some tied to religion/prayer/confession and really bad intrusive thoughts. He has been diagnosed. As his wife, he often asks for reassurance. "Did you wash your hands with soap?" "Did you touch the trashcan?" Those are a few examples. How do I respond to these frequent questions in a healthy way? Any tips or pointers, because I only understand OCD very little.

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