- Date posted
- 5y ago
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 5y ago
You will totally beat this. But telling yourself you’re 100% straight , while it could be the truth , is not going to help you recover from this which I hate to say. You can only recover fully when you embrace uncertainty because you’ll always find something to latch onto and ruminate about
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I’m glad the test could help confirm this for you, but as with most reassurance, the good feelings you’re getting from it probably won’t last. Doubt and anxiety will eventually creep back in and you’ll go searching for more reassurance to make it go away again. Embrace the doubt and uncertainty and anxiety. Let it be there. And continue to live your life. You might be 100% straight. But maybe you’re 98% straight. Or 97%. Quantifying it won’t serve you in the long run. Being okay with not knowing that number will.
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I understand what you’re saying, but if you really believed that with 100% certainty, you wouldn’t have HOCD. I’m assuming you’re still regularly experiencing doubts that make you spiral into rumination, anxiety, and compulsions. What I’m saying is that it’s your need for certainty (“always have been always will be 100% straight”) that’s driving the OCD. Can you live with the fact that there’s a teeny tiny chance you might be a little gay (even just 2 or 3%!) and stop trying to prove to yourself that you’re 100% straight? If you can learn to live with the possibility and the risk, you can overcome OCD. The intrusive thoughts won’t mean anything anymore because you’ve accepted their risk and they will therefore diminish over time.
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I didn’t say you had to admit anything. Just to accept the slightest bit of uncertainty or risk into your life. I think you’re going to find it very difficult to overcome this without facing some uncertainty. Life is never and will never be 100% certain. Good luck to you.
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I wish this OCD shit wasn't in the world.
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 5y ago
@Cc552 that’s the problem right there with all due respect. I’m not giving you reassurance. That’s why I said “ could be “. By telling yourself you are 100% straight , you’re taking a position and that’s the worst thing to do with OCD. It means you haven’t gotten under the fear and really want certainty. A few days of amazing relief is nowhere near as good as almost constant relief which you’ll get by accepting uncertainty.
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I totally understand your frustration. OCD is a monster , but the only way to slay it is to not let it have power over you. You simply can’t have 100% certainty and your OCD will always prey on the gaps you have in your memory , experience , or knowledge when it comes to your sexuality and history of it.
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- 5y ago
It's not it could be the truth it is 100 % the truth. If OCD wasn't on earth I wouldn't even be talking about this bullshit. But unfortunately it is and with more time I will beat this. I got my anxiety down to s manageable level with time and this will be the same as it manifested from anxiety.
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I always was and always will be straight. It's this OCD bullshit that plays games with your mind.
- Date posted
- 5y ago
No I will never admit to untrue rubbish. I will beat this HOCD bullshit.
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Ocd nothing is sacred it attacks every possible thing so know that !
- Date posted
- 5y ago
A really bad panic attack lead to anxiety which lead to this bullshit.
- Date posted
- 5y ago
It'll take time to get rid of it just like the anxiety. My anxiety is not totally gone but way much better since just after I had the panic attack.
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- Date posted
- 24w ago
Anyone else will just be doing anything normal and I’m gay comes in? It’s so distressing and I try and say ok sure ocd but the anxiety over takes me and my mind won’t let me believe I’m straight when I am. I love men I’m Not attracted to women but when I ask myself the doubt is for sure there which sounds like Casebook ocd. I’m just sick of this I don’t want to have to laugh at things in my head that don’t make any sense it’s so hard and unfair
- Date posted
- 22w ago
I know I need therapy. I have a flare up every three months that rocks my world— it’s been like this for four years. I’m just too scared. I’m too scared to have a therapist tell me I’m a lesbian. I’m too scared to do ERP and have it not work because it wasn’t actually OCD. I’m too scared for the ERP to work and me finally feel comfortable with being bisexual or a lesbian. I don’t want any of that to happen. I don’t understand how I can get over this and still be straight. I’m petrified at the thought of therapy, but what is going to happen to me?
- Date posted
- 21w ago
Hey guys, I hope you’re well! My names Matt, and OCD has struck me again 😂 When I was 10 years old I had to attend therapy as I was having excessive intrusive thoughts. P.s. I didn’t even know this was possible at the age of 10! I then completely forgot about it, until 2.5 years ago when I started experiencing ROCD. I really couldn’t understand why I was feeling/thinking this way however, I soon after remembered my struggles as a child and then realised my OCD had returned. Also, my mum has serious OCD so I guess that could be why too. I had a a really hard battle with my emotions and mood due to this however, the last 1.5 years had been really good and I managed it well. I got married and had the best day of my life. 3 months ago, a thought about having an affair in my head appeared, and BOOM, it’s back again. I’m struggling a lot right now however, I’ve accepted that this could be a re occurring theme throughout my life, and it’s time to learn to deal with it again. I’m back on medication and have started ERP therapy, so hopefully it’s on the up from here. I’m not here to list off my triggers and thoughts as this would be me seeking reassurance however, I’m here to show that recovery is certainly possible!
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