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It could very well be that. And not to give you reassurance but the brain can react to anything that you find attractive or noteworthy or anything that stands out. It doesn’t care whether you’re sexually attracted to something or not , it sends signals regardless so that has nothing to do with sexual orientation. Arousal and orientation are two different things and people who always equate them ( obviously there are many many times where they go together fine , which is usually the case ) are ignorant. But try to accept that you don’t truly know if it means anything and try to be okay with the fact that you’ll never know for sure.
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Interesting differentiating between arousal and orientation...never realized that. Thanks for comment. I have no clue really
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Yes ^^^ Also, myself, like many other girls are majorly turned on by lesbian porn. It doesn’t mean I’m a lesbian, I’d never be with a girl in a romantic way and I know I’m straight and will always like guys. anything that even hints at being sexual can also be arousing, especially for guys. Someone tweeted ages ago that whenever his girlfriend ties her back he gets turned on because she always does that before she goes down on him ? our minds are weird
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Haha yes. We are animals, so by instinct we are focussed on trying to mate - males can only mate when they are aroused, so are easilyyyyyy aroused. It’s nature haha
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Yeah many people are unaware of it , it’s called arousal non concordance.
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Yeah exactly !! Just goes to show the power your brain has over you even when your mind completely disagrees with it ??
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Has anyone experienced where you love woman everything about them, even to the point where you still can get erections watching normal porn, lesbian porn etc. but you find your self still admiring a good looking man. I’ve went through the groinal responses when seeing a man but honestly after watching porn and realizing it’s not about sex it went away. On the other hand even when there’s a male and a female in a picture I can’t stop looking at the male and judging, but the minute they’re naked I’m fine and looking at the woman. I started watching porn at a very young age so I’m wondering do I only sexualize woman and admire the man so in everyday life I don’t see her as beautiful because she’s not naked ? I understand as a straight male I can still think guys are attractive but why do I constantly notice them more than women? I also can admire and see when a girl is beautiful in the face but then if a dude that’s more attractive than me pops up in staring at him. Has anyone experience this?
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I never read someone talk about this so I wanted to know if it applies to anyone as well. For context: I deal with ROCD and SOCD but I do identify as straight and am in a (happy) relationship with a man. What often triggers me is memories about childhood and adolescences about having the groinal toward nudity in porn or music videos. Because I can’t deny having watched other things than straight porn and experimenting with porn I simply can’t stop trying to figure out what that might have meant and if i deep down have actually a other sexual orientation than the one that I feel comfortable identifying with. I only hear people talking about random triggers but never the REAL memory of arousal to pornography and so on.
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I’m 19 my brother who is 16 showed me a video of one of his friends girlfriend and told me “isn’t she hot?” I feel like I did find her attractive and then I asked what her age was and he said 14. Why did I find her attractive if she’s that much younger than me? I’m also having trouble seeing girls in public I think are attractive but don’t know their age. They could be young and I still might find them attractive. Sometimes I force myself to look at these girls more than usual to really determine what their age is and if I find them attractive. I don’t stare intensely but it definitely feels strange doing it. Is this a problem that I can’t figure out if girls I find attractive are around my age? Or even if I know they are younger than me sometimes I might find them attractive? Why would I find them attractive if they’re too young for me?
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