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Confessing
I get so scared when I confess that I didn’t confess enough. I have to stop. This is good motivation to get out of this loop. Does this happen to anyone else?
I get so scared when I confess that I didn’t confess enough. I have to stop. This is good motivation to get out of this loop. Does this happen to anyone else?
Yes this happens to me! All the time! I feel the need to tell every detail no matter how difficult it is it uncomfortable it is for me. I do this so I can get a ‘fair’ judgement from people.
My brain also convinces me that if I leave anything out it’s because I’ve been ‘manipulative’ and ‘sneaky’
Ugh this is me!! I feel you.
Me too like I’m lying cus I left certain things out cus they are too difficult to talk abt
@suspectedocd3!!R I do this too
I’ve experienced this, and didn’t know it was a thing until I’ve joined this community. I’ve confessed things that were absolutely ridiculous and unnecessary all because the urge was so strong. I’ve gotten better with this although it’s definitely a tough one
Yes! Like if I don’t state everything they won’t believe me, or think I’m lying or faking it. Or they’ll misunderstand what I’m trying to say, which is a big thing for me. I find myself repeating myself a lot if I forget something, or if I felt like I wasn’t listened to properly, like I should probably reword so they understand exactly what I’m trying to convey, which is very hard as someone with a very small vocabulary from being home schooled.
@GoldenArgentavis I feel that too! I get terrified I didn’t explain enough and they didn’t understand
I feel like I need to confess everything to my wife. This week it’s gotten me in a lot of trouble, there’s more I feel I need to confess but I know it’ll hurt her. How do I just not!
FINALLY identified a core fear of mine and it is deceit and lying by omission. My biggest compulsions are confession & rumination. I immediately WANT to confess to whoever the theme is about, BUT since I am NOT acting on the compulsion (*yay*), I feel like I am lying by omission. For example, I will think of a mistake I made in the past, become anxious at the thought that my partner would break up with me over it, and then I want to confess so that he has all the information he needs to make an accurate decision on if he wants to be with me. Otherwise, I feel as though I am withholding pertinent information and his decision to be in a relationship with me is based on lies & fabrication. On one hand I am proud of myself for not compulsively oversharing / acting on compulsivity. On the other hand I worry I am stepping out of my values of honesty & integrity. Or perhaps worse, claiming “compulsion” in the name of hiding from the possibility of whatever consequence may result in me sharing the mistake. Any recommendations?
I have terrible ocd. Lots of different subtypes but the one that bothers me most is religious ocd. The advice I've been given is to go to only one priest for confession (I'm Catholic) and to listen to his advice. I've been doing that lately and I'm actually taking his advice (like, for example, that if I committed a mortal sin, I'd know for sure.. When there's doubt about whether or not I've done smth wrong, it's likely not mortal and I can recieve communion). I've read that this is good advice for scrupulous ppl. So I'm finally taking his advice but it's so scary! My biggest fear is receiving the Eucharist in a state of mortal sin.. But I need to trust what the priest is telling me. Any other Catholics in this situation? I'm proud of myself for actually taking his advice but it's terrifying at the same time..What if I'm fooling myself and can't admit to myself that I actually did commit a mortal sin, but he sees it as doubt..like, I don't know if I'm doubting I've sinned or if I'm in denial about sinning.. If anyone knows what I mean..I also realize that full will needs to be involved in mortal sin and the presence of doubt is often a sign that even if I did sin, it wasn't fully willful so that's why it's not mortal.. But I'm still unsure and afraid. But that's probably cuz I have ocd and anxiety. Lol.. I'm just wondering if anyone else has been in this situation.. And if it gets easier to listen to your confessor's advice even though it's scary and not what your OCD wants.
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