Hi!! I've been doing pretty good lately but the thoughts haven't stopped the anxiety is less now. But tired of hearing the thoughts. I'm a confident straight woman and all ai want to be with is a man. I've been single for years and i have been wanting a boyfriend. The thoughts are making me feel like I'm just lying to myself and it's annoying and frustrating.
You‘re on the right path. The anxiety will fade away but symptoms might still be present - be careful not to fall into the trap of thinking „since there is no anxiety it must be true“… it will start the cycle all over again.
@TomFromHome This! I even have the thought cross my mine about if it’s really OCD about my SO if I’m not engaging in a compulsion anymore and I know where that thought can lead
@Zoroarcanine It‘s called a backdoor spike, google it if you want more info…
@TomFromHome Thanks!!!
@TomFromHome This doesn’t sound at all like the thoughts that someone I know has had 🤣
@Zoroarcanine If anything, OCD is pretty predictable!
@TomFromHome Are you saying my thoughts are not unique and I’m not special? My OCD says that’s blasphemy 🤣
I hear you. You are not alone. I get SOOOO tired of hearing the noise in the background...but it does get softer and softer...but alas, it never goes away. I have been doing therapy with NOCD for about 4 weeks and it has gotten so much better. I guess we are supposed to get comfortable with the thoughts...but learn how to live life and go about our day without it totally ruin our plans. I'm not there yet...but will get there :)
@DavidSeeker We got this!!
Yes Amanda, we got this! Are you feeling better?
@DavidSeeker I am feeling better
Does anyone feel like they “like” their intrusive thoughts? Like after a while the fear and the disgust you used to feel about the thoughts becomes numb and you wonder if you just like it? And that the thoughts are happening bc you just like and want that thing? I’m beyond confused. I (23F) still feel like on some level I know I want to be with men and end up with a man. But I’m growing unsure there’s a man that has what I need in a partner and am not happy in my current relationship which certainly isn’t helping my case lol. I’ve been dealing with this for almost 7 months and I’m so tired of the incessant thoughts and physical responses I feel like I should just give up and give in.
Hi, i have been on and off with my SOOCD and I have been really good at understanding that my thoughts are just thoughts, yesterday i seen a masculine lesbian and it triggered me and I got severe anxiety because I was expecting some thoughts to come as I had been triggered. I then got thoughts “you find her attractive don’t lie”, when I seen her I do not personally think she is attractive looks wise and all that, but all my mind is saying to me now is I do and I am lying and it’s started to just get to me i just want to shut off and get the thoughts away from me😫then I seen on tiktok this person had SOOCD and then turns out they were gay and I just am spiraling.
I’m so tired of my thoughts. Some days I feel better, no thoughts or just a few, some other days I feel like I’m totally in denial and I’m hiding this part of myself to me but above all to the people around me, especially my boyfriend. I can’t really stand anymore the presence of these thoughts, make me feel I won’t be happy in my life never again and this makes me feel super depressed, I’m afraid I can develop depression. ROCD and SOOCD make me doubt myself and my feelings, and every time I see a case where a person find out later in life to be gay I literally start to cry. I can’t stand this anymore, really. I’m in therapy actually, so it is better compared to a few months ago, but I always question if it’s really ocd or not.
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