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Make sure your partner understands OCD and its challenges. Make sure they know it’s not really you. If you don’t believe it, spit those words out anyway. Also, advise them to research OCD so they can know your thought process and how to help you.
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@hmi A lot of mine is thinking I’m not enough for them, or that they’re pulling away.
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@Addie976 I’ve had some bad relationship experiences. It takes a lot to reassure me. Maybe send your partner a text and just explain how you’re feeling and let them know. Make sure they understand that this is OCD, and it’s not that you don’t trust them.
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@hmi Thank you for the advice.
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I would recommend this books called relationship OCD by sheva rajee I wish I found out about ROCD years ago but it’s never too late. This book was extremely helpful. My point of view no matter how many time you ask for reassurance your still never going to accept it. Of course communication with your partner is great but so is sitting with that uncertainty. I
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Hi all, I’m F(20) and I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend M(20) for 10 months now. Lately it feels like I’ve been getting triggered at the tiniest thing. My relationship OCD is centered around the idea that my bf will leave me, that suddenly his feelings will change and he’ll never look back. Inherently I know this is irrational and I know he loves me very much (as he tells me repeatedly when I compulsively ask for reassurance). I just can’t make my brain stop. I just feel so unsecured. He will mention that one of his friends drove an hour to see him for only 30 minutes. I will then spiral that I am not possibly doing enough and it’s because he’s secretly done with me and he’s longing for a reason to leave and go be with this friend instead. See? Truly irrational. But I cannot stop it. Any tips at all? Maybe I’m at least not alone in this. I often feel literally insane:(
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