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- ocdumbass
- Date posted
- 5y ago
- Username
- drnemerdrnemer
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I was an anthropology and sociology major with a minor in women and gender studies. I got into it because I struggle with cross dressing fantasies and I worried about the same thing. When I look at other cultures and history—I just don’t believe in any sexual orientation. I think there are biological and social determinants. But on an existential level, I think there is more fluidity. Many cultures do not have the concept of sexual identity and they perform acts that Americans might see as hetero or homo or bi. But they have no concept of. Maybe this won’t help you. But I am continuing to learn to cope with my gender insecurity by recognizing that my being—my identity—my essence is not a type or a category. And I suggest to study on history of sexuality and gender. It really helped me.
- Username
- hannahhoothannahhoot
- Date posted
- 5y ago
i'm a lesbian too, and i often struggle with this, but not to the level that i think i have hocd. most of the time, it helps to remember that society is really heteronormative and that it's normal for lesbians to have "crushes" on guys before they really understand their sexuality. i did, too. look inside yourself and ask hard questions about who you're attracted to, your mental illness can lie to you, but your attraction doesn't.
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- spyrospyro
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Yeah, I am similar. It's confusing as a woman who has crushed on guys or even enjoyed sexual experiences. But I fall in love with girls and have met a girl who I absolutely love but keep analysing my feelings for her Vs for guys and it drives me to the point of insanity :'(
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- anotherocd123
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Okay so I have been struggling with HOCD for so fucking long. I never felt like I had crushes on boys growing up but I wasn’t attracted to girls either (this was through 5th grade). Until 6th grade hit. I remember it like it was yesterday. I had the thought walking up the stairs and it was “You’re lesbian.” And ever since that thought was there and I fought it I have been dealing with all types of OCD ever since (been going on for 7 years). And only this year I found it was OCD. But it’s hard because I don’t know if I’m actually gay or I convinced myself I’m gay because I gave up and gave in. Now whenever I see I pretty girl I feel tingling. And I wanted to prove to myself that I wasn’t a lesbian so I look up pretty pictures of girls with their boobs out and I loved it. And I wanna make out with a girl so intensely. But then at the same I don’t wanna be in a relationship with a girl and I wanna marry a guy and I just desperately wanted to be like by a guy. But I get so horny whenever girls are in bikinis and stuff. But I have OCD and I’m so confused.
- Username
- hlm2
- Date posted
- 2y ago
Hocd
So my hocd started over 2 years ago (I’m 20 yrs old now), when I was having a conversation with one of my friends and the thought popped into the back of my head what if the reason I don’t have a crush on any guys at my high school is because I’m a lesbian. Since then my sexuality has been on my mind 24/7 I didn’t know this was ocd until about a year ago but i’m only seeking treatment now. The hocd ramped up when I felt super aroused watching a movie with topless women, something that had never happened when watching men. Thing is I genuinely think I’m gay now, I’ve had this for so long that at first the thoughts disgusted me and caused me anxiety but now they don’t anymore. I saw so many tiktok videos about “pipelines” of certain interests gay people have that triggered me and read the comphet masterdoc which made me cry when I read it because I related to so much of it. When I was a child I was never boy crazy, I never really crushed on boys in my class (to be fair there were only 7) however I do remember writing a love note to a boy in first grade and having an immense celebrity crush on a disney channel star. I remember to certain things I did as a child that lead me to think I am gay and they keep replaying over and over in my head. Thing is over the past year I’ve had crushes on 3 guys I’ve met through dating apps. The last one I actually hung out with and I had my first kiss/makeout session 2 months ago. After that my hocd calmed down I enjoyed kissing him it felt euphoric the whole drive home just replaying our dates in my head. But now I can’t get the thought out of my head what if I didn’t like it enough? I didn’t get butterflies when we kissed (i do when I think back about it though) and didnt feel super aroused like that time I watched that movie. I feel nothing when I look at pictures and videos of men but with women I started getting this warm feeling in my chest which stressed me out even more. Idk what I am anymore and it is driving me insane. Does anyone relate?
- Username
- iamokay
- Date posted
- 1y ago
advice on hocd pls
so i’m straight, but one thing that’s always bothered me was i was never the type to look at a guy and automatically think dirty thoughts about them like some girls do i would think they’re good looking and move on. but lately i have been looking at guys and think ways i never have before because i don’t really care for sex but this time i actually think about it when i find someone attractive and it started to worry me because i was like i never thought that much sexually before so why am i now? and then i get thoughts in my head that say why are you worried aren’t you straight why are you worried to think sexual about guys? and it’s the anxiety about the fact that i actually think dirty thoughts when i see a cute guy and before i never would and then hocd coming in to play making me wonder that i shouldn’t be anxious if i was always straight but it’s not that i get anxious because i never thought that sexually before but ocd makes me think i’m worried about liking a guy but that’s not true sorry if it’s a bit confusing
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