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Thanks for sharing more about your story and “OCD experience” with us.. as I’m sure others in the group can relate, what you wrote sounds pretty normal to me. Have you tried other methods of therapy besides just ERP? I’ve used ACT and Mindfulness and they both have had a major positive effect on my recovery. You’re lucky to be seeing a psychologist regularly!
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You’ve practically described me to a T. This is extremely hard to deal with... as it’s both perfectionism and overwhelming fear rolled into one. The only thing that’s really helped me here is accepting your work pace (I am slow and deliberate too; which, I think can definitely be better than fast paced and careless) and training yourself to not have a damn to give when it comes to what others can and cannot do. If they tell you you’re too slow, walk away. If you feel like you need to speed up, ask yourself this: “why would I want to fix the quality of my work just to be like almost everyone else in terms of speed?” Contrary to popular belief held today, speed is NOT always key. In times like these, I have to continuously remind myself to not let fear rule my life. OCD is an extension of who we are... once we learn to accept that, we begin to see what benefits it gives us (yes, benefits). OCD is a nightmare to live with, but it makes us more aware, understanding, careful and deliberate than more than half of humans out there. Every good thing has a bad thing, and Vice versa. ALWAYS remember that <3 As hard as it may be, when it comes to work and everything else “mandatory” in life, you just have to take a deep breath, jump in and hope the water isn’t shallow. As corny as it may sound, faith (not necessarily religious) is a big component in every ill or struggling person’s life. Without having faith in yourself and your road to happiness, you won’t move. Faith is magick, have faith in good things and watch the magick sparkle before your weary eyes. It’s going to take patience, determination and willpower... but never give up. Good things come to those who are patient. I hope my advice works for you, I’ve got plenty more if this doesn’t sound like something you’re up for. Blessed Be <3
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I’m so sorry you have gone through all of that. Thank you for sharing your story! Is your psychologist an “ERP specialist,” or someone who is trying ERP and is learning it on the go?
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- 7y
You don't sound pathetic at all! Thanks for coming to the group and sharing more of your story/experiences with everyone. Dr. Grayson actually put together a great document on incorporating ACT into OCD Treatment if you'd like to check it out: https://adaa.org/sites/default/files/Grayson_157C.pdf
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I’m a nurse and I have the same problems at work! It’s so hard. Keep working with your therapist. I’m also on medications that help me get through the work day successfully
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Cjx: I’m so glad I’ve helped you! Just remember, what you’re feeling or thinking has been felt by someone before you. You’re never the only one, nor are you alone. And also, mindfulness is a great technique! Practicing meditation really helps you release stress and live in the now; as does yoga.
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Also, Cjx, you’re not pathetic. Trust me, I also have ADHD/ADD (combination type)... so I can’t focus well either. It’s completely alright that you feel that way... and if it isn’t okay (which it is), then I am pathetic too. We can be pathetic together hahaha :’D but seriously, it’s completely okay. Sometimes people unintentionally make things sound easier than they actually are. Trust me, it happens way more than anyone realizes.
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Mjs110160 my psychologist is a specialist in ERP- but she has said my OCD is particularly hard to keep up the ERP with as it's based in my work and my work does require myself to be careful and accurate etc. Samantha 20 can you talk me through how ACT works? Mindfulness is very helpful and I am trying to keep that a habit but at the moment it doesn't seem to calm me enough to stay focussed or in the moment. I still can't fight the feeling of avoidance...I sound so pathetic. Thank you Skatlettrose you've made me feel less lonely! And dare I say it 'normal?!' I definitely agree I have let fear rule my life and boy is it horrible ?keep the advice coming I love your insight!
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I work in healthcare and dealing with patients all day! I am having the exact problems you described! It makes getting through a day at work so hard!
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- 25w
Does anyone have OCD regarding always feeling like you are not good enough at your job? I'm 58 years old now I've had OCD since childhood. Every job I've been at I never felt as good as my colleagues. I am a nurse but I worked at that for 15 years I had a breakdown of sorts in 2017 and went on disability. I now work part time as a a swim instructor for kids. I always was afraid of killing someone when I was a nurse. Then I tried dog grooming but I was afraid I would do it wrong and hurt the dogs. At least now the stakes are lower. But my OCD is the same. I work with colleagues who are about 40 years younger than I am . I am afraid of teaching certain classes bc I feel like I wouldn't do as good a job as someone else. I know I can do it but it's like I have a fear of not giving them their money's worth. I've been at my current job for 2 years . I've gotten very positive comments from my managers but I can't seem to believe them. I feel a lot of shame bc I lost a lot of my life to OCD and I am at an age where people are starting to retire after long and successful careers and here I am working at an entry level job. I'm planning on trying to get out of my comfort zone and teaching some of the classes I'm afraid of .it's really hard. I'm always scared what if I lose my benefits and had to work again as a nurse how would I do it.
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- 24w
I'm really struggling to figure out where my OCD ends and where I begin. I’m scared of most things—not in a panicky way, but in a deep, cautious, worst-case-scenario kind of way. Example: I haaaaaaaaate my spectacles. I’d love to do Lasik, or even just wear contacts, but the idea terrifies me. I’ve heard about the tiniest risk of blindness or infection, and once that thought is in my head, it takes over. I picture the worst, and then I don’t act. TRIGGER Also Lasik involves cutting TRIGGER which petrifies me. I’m stuck between wanting change and being too afraid to make it. The same goes with wanting to travel but being scared I'll be trafficked or someone will plant something in my bag & I'll get arrested overseas. No amount of praying will fix it. Does anyone else feel like their OCD makes them freeze in everyday decisions? Like you can’t tell if you're just being practical or if it's the OCD gripping the steering wheel again? Maybe it's just me. Maybe it's not OCD but my personality, that's what I'm trying to figure out.
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I’ve been my job for almost 2 years now and I can not shake the constant worry that I am going to do something to mess it up. I’m constantly checking things over and over to make sure they’re correct to the point where I almost don’t believe my own eyes anymore. Everyday I go home with something to be anxious about. Today me and a coworker got in a bit of a tiff and I can’t stop thinking about it (even though I was totally right to be upset 🤣) everyday I play out fake scenarios that may happen because of what I said or did. Occasionally I will worry if I had written something inappropriate on the work I turn in. There’s no amount of reassurance that can make me stop worrying and I’m not sure what to do anymore. I’m new here and would love some suggestions!
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