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Thanks for sharing more about your story and “OCD experience” with us.. as I’m sure others in the group can relate, what you wrote sounds pretty normal to me. Have you tried other methods of therapy besides just ERP? I’ve used ACT and Mindfulness and they both have had a major positive effect on my recovery. You’re lucky to be seeing a psychologist regularly!
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- 6y ago
You’ve practically described me to a T. This is extremely hard to deal with... as it’s both perfectionism and overwhelming fear rolled into one. The only thing that’s really helped me here is accepting your work pace (I am slow and deliberate too; which, I think can definitely be better than fast paced and careless) and training yourself to not have a damn to give when it comes to what others can and cannot do. If they tell you you’re too slow, walk away. If you feel like you need to speed up, ask yourself this: “why would I want to fix the quality of my work just to be like almost everyone else in terms of speed?” Contrary to popular belief held today, speed is NOT always key. In times like these, I have to continuously remind myself to not let fear rule my life. OCD is an extension of who we are... once we learn to accept that, we begin to see what benefits it gives us (yes, benefits). OCD is a nightmare to live with, but it makes us more aware, understanding, careful and deliberate than more than half of humans out there. Every good thing has a bad thing, and Vice versa. ALWAYS remember that <3 As hard as it may be, when it comes to work and everything else “mandatory” in life, you just have to take a deep breath, jump in and hope the water isn’t shallow. As corny as it may sound, faith (not necessarily religious) is a big component in every ill or struggling person’s life. Without having faith in yourself and your road to happiness, you won’t move. Faith is magick, have faith in good things and watch the magick sparkle before your weary eyes. It’s going to take patience, determination and willpower... but never give up. Good things come to those who are patient. I hope my advice works for you, I’ve got plenty more if this doesn’t sound like something you’re up for. Blessed Be <3
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- 6y ago
I’m so sorry you have gone through all of that. Thank you for sharing your story! Is your psychologist an “ERP specialist,” or someone who is trying ERP and is learning it on the go?
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- 6y ago
You don't sound pathetic at all! Thanks for coming to the group and sharing more of your story/experiences with everyone. Dr. Grayson actually put together a great document on incorporating ACT into OCD Treatment if you'd like to check it out: https://adaa.org/sites/default/files/Grayson_157C.pdf
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- 6y ago
I’m a nurse and I have the same problems at work! It’s so hard. Keep working with your therapist. I’m also on medications that help me get through the work day successfully
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- 6y ago
Cjx: I’m so glad I’ve helped you! Just remember, what you’re feeling or thinking has been felt by someone before you. You’re never the only one, nor are you alone. And also, mindfulness is a great technique! Practicing meditation really helps you release stress and live in the now; as does yoga.
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- 6y ago
Also, Cjx, you’re not pathetic. Trust me, I also have ADHD/ADD (combination type)... so I can’t focus well either. It’s completely alright that you feel that way... and if it isn’t okay (which it is), then I am pathetic too. We can be pathetic together hahaha :’D but seriously, it’s completely okay. Sometimes people unintentionally make things sound easier than they actually are. Trust me, it happens way more than anyone realizes.
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- 6y ago
Mjs110160 my psychologist is a specialist in ERP- but she has said my OCD is particularly hard to keep up the ERP with as it's based in my work and my work does require myself to be careful and accurate etc. Samantha 20 can you talk me through how ACT works? Mindfulness is very helpful and I am trying to keep that a habit but at the moment it doesn't seem to calm me enough to stay focussed or in the moment. I still can't fight the feeling of avoidance...I sound so pathetic. Thank you Skatlettrose you've made me feel less lonely! And dare I say it 'normal?!' I definitely agree I have let fear rule my life and boy is it horrible ?keep the advice coming I love your insight!
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- 4y ago
I work in healthcare and dealing with patients all day! I am having the exact problems you described! It makes getting through a day at work so hard!
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- 17w ago
I've never seen a therapist or been diagnosed, so I went surfing through to find this community. I've seen a lot of OCD symptoms written online. Here is what I experience that I feel may be OCD. If any of you guys agrees, please let me know. I have only ever been able to call my mom by her first name. I have never been able to not do that. She tried to make me call her mom once as a kid but it felt so wrong that I started crying. Everytime I see a wet floor sign, I say "piso mojado" out loud. I have plenty of harsh intrusive thoughts, such as committing acts of violence when I see people not using their turn signals, interrupting performers at a concert. I make myself re-press on my phone alarms 10-12 times each day in the same rythym until it feels fully set to go off. Light switches get flicked off and on, I can't stand not doing it. I have to double-check everything and make myself re-look through the same drawers at work for hours. I love to write, but I never get far because I need approval from others. My head is also always filled to the brim with thoughts which has made writing and things like memory a lot harder. I can't use spoons. I can only use forks for almost everything. I can't stand them. That's all I can think of for right now. Please let me know what you guys think. Thanks!
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- 10w ago
so I need to get back into ERP, but it’s so hard to manage these thoughts and learn to deal with them. like I swear my mind has to make everything about it. Like every time I clean my room, my mind’s like yup make sure it’s clean so when your parents find you, or something so stupid like if I get a headache, my mind convinces me that I like the pain and that that’s why I get my thoughts because I actually want to do it. It’s so exhausting. Because I know I would never want to take my life and I treasure my life so why does it do it to me? It’s hard to comprehend the fact of these thoughts too because I don’t know many people with this exact theme. It’s such a scary feeling. And I’m constantly questioning whether I have actual depression or if it’s just my OCD. Yes I have been diagnosed with suicidal OCD, but my mind still tries to convince me otherwise. I just don’t know how to let these just sit and pass without panicking.
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- 7w ago
Hi! I’m new to the NOCD community, but I’ve been dealing with OCD since I was 12. I’m almost 29 now, and my biggest issue is health anxiety. It’s gotten to the point where getting work done is nearly impossible because i can’t stop spiraling. I’m lucky that i work remotely, but also makes it easier to be in my own head… Asking for advice - how do you all deal with the intense anxiety and are able to make it through a 9-5 work day? Any suggestions on how I can actually be productive? Thank you!
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