it deeply upsets me that im not morally perfect and the people and world around me arent morally perfect i just want everything to be morally clean and good but its not and im not and i hate that.
This is so relatable I thought I was the only one who felt this way
If we are perfect then you are not talking about humans. Humans by design make mistakes and not perfect. The whole world is not perfect by design... That's why religion promises another world called heaven, that is perfect. So don't hate it, try to embrace it. Be forgiven and tolerate... It might be difficult, but it is possible.
@hanysm@gmail.com yeah mistakes are fine everyday mistakes that dont make you morally ambiguous i dont want perfect people just moral people
Why do you feel everyone has to be morally perfect?
@Ifiknewthen i dont feel they have to, i just want them to be lol
@xyzwqr I guess a better way to put it is why would that make YOU happier?
@Ifiknewthen why wouldnt you want eveyone to be moral it would get rid of alot of terrible things in this world i mean i feel like its obvious
@xyzwqr Ive suffered greatly from ocd perfectionism since i was a child. Everything had to be perfect. Grades, sports. Had to be the best at everything. It will eat you alive if you dont alter your perspective on things. It absolutely tore me apart in my life. Im a tenth of the person i could have been. Most importantly you have to seek therapy for ocd. But you really have to be open to changing your rigid belief system. Ssri helps me greatly. But your behavior and thought processes have to change too.
I appreciate your thoughts on morality and human behavior. Itās true that all humans adhere to some form of moral code, even if it differs from our own or what we consider ācorrect.ā We often witness actions that seem morally questionable, but itās essential to remember that circumstances and individual experiences can lead to behaviors that appear wrong at first glance. For instance, if we see someone leaving a harmful substance in a public bathroom, we might be quick to judge. However, we should consider possibilities like: The person may have a disability that prevents them from properly disposing of the item. They might have accidentally dropped it while trying to throw it away. Their upbringing may not have instilled the same values of public cleanliness that many of us hold. When faced with such situations, we essentially have two choices: We can reject these perceived flaws in others, which often leads to frustration and endless questioning of human behavior. Alternatively, we can accept that we live in an imperfect world, recognizing that each individual and situation is complex, and allow society to address its issues Ultimately, the choice of how to respond to these moral ambiguities lies with each of us. We can choose to engage constructively or to detach ourselves from the complexities of human behavior. Tell yourself, why should I suffer for the flaws of others? Why should I shoulder the imperfect world problems? Focus more and what could be improved to help others not fall in the same trap Have a great day š
iāve unfortunately fallen into the cycle of trying to figure out my thoughts and find answers as to why i feel so distressed. this still pertains to the situation regarding changing my room for those reading who have seen my multiple posts over the last few days. iāve been so distressed and in so much panic about it. iām also panicking over my other room looking so different from when i left it. itās been making me feel crazy because to me thereās no reason for my anxiety to latch so hard onto something that seems so minuscule. i was thinking i was having anxiety over change, but itās like symptoms of ocd too thatās making it really hard for me to let go. SO i started thinking maybe it was perfectionism ocd? iāve realized over time that i do compulsions to where things have to feel ājust rightā, but i also do that with any environment iām in. like it HAS to feel cozy to me and provide me comfort in order for me to feel at ease. and this change is causing me to panic because thereās something wrong that i canāt find an answer to. maybe the different colored carpet? but itās also more than that it feels like. however, now itās spreading into other areas of my house where iāve always been fine in and possibly to just any area iām in at all. hence why itās making me feel crazy because thereās no reason for me to be THIS distressed over that as iāve never really had this problem before. and when i did it would last maybe an hour to a couple of days at most, but this has been going for over 2 weeks with my really bad anxiety being this week. iām doing a little better, but itās still hard when i can feel that panic waiting for me to acknowledge and just engulf me in the ocd cycle. iām also analyzing basically any feeling i have so i just feel off in general and like iām going insane. iāve been so hyper focused on how i feel and that will send me spiraling too. multiple themes then start coming in like existential ocd and fear of solipsism. not to mention my harm and contamination ocd that just adds on when iām this vulnerable. then i worry if no one is real, then no one feels the way i do. or just in general that what if no one feels the way i do. honestly, i think being out of college and in my house with nothing to do is causing me too much time with my thoughts. which is why iām so distressed about everything that pops into my brain.
I know I have OCD, but is this a part of moral ocd? I have a huge thing about recycling. I feel guilty if I can't. (Ie, there's an item with food that cant be cleaned out since you have to rinse food off of stuff for it to be recycled). I've genuinely cried over having been given plastic bags instead of purely using reuseable bags. Another time I cried about not having the option to recycle things that were clearly recyclable while I was in the mental hospital. It was a tough week. Everything I have has to be sustainable. My toothpaste, shower soaps, hand soaps, detergent, and everything else has to be recyclable or I'll get upset about it. My toothbrushes are bamboo. Plastic irks me so badly. I want to help the planet and reduce waste. It feels right! But is that ocd? Or am I just weird about recycling? I just feel like a bad person if I can't recycle properly.
My perfectionism OCD has me looking for the inevitable flaws in people, and when I find those flaws, I distance myself. This only leads to loneliness and isolation, which brings its own set of emotions. Iām doing this to myself and hurts.
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