it deeply upsets me that im not morally perfect and the people and world around me arent morally perfect i just want everything to be morally clean and good but its not and im not and i hate that.
This is so relatable I thought I was the only one who felt this way
If we are perfect then you are not talking about humans. Humans by design make mistakes and not perfect. The whole world is not perfect by design... That's why religion promises another world called heaven, that is perfect. So don't hate it, try to embrace it. Be forgiven and tolerate... It might be difficult, but it is possible.
@hanysm@gmail.com yeah mistakes are fine everyday mistakes that dont make you morally ambiguous i dont want perfect people just moral people
Why do you feel everyone has to be morally perfect?
@Ifiknewthen i dont feel they have to, i just want them to be lol
@xyzwqr I guess a better way to put it is why would that make YOU happier?
@Ifiknewthen why wouldnt you want eveyone to be moral it would get rid of alot of terrible things in this world i mean i feel like its obvious
@xyzwqr Ive suffered greatly from ocd perfectionism since i was a child. Everything had to be perfect. Grades, sports. Had to be the best at everything. It will eat you alive if you dont alter your perspective on things. It absolutely tore me apart in my life. Im a tenth of the person i could have been. Most importantly you have to seek therapy for ocd. But you really have to be open to changing your rigid belief system. Ssri helps me greatly. But your behavior and thought processes have to change too.
I appreciate your thoughts on morality and human behavior. Itās true that all humans adhere to some form of moral code, even if it differs from our own or what we consider ācorrect.ā We often witness actions that seem morally questionable, but itās essential to remember that circumstances and individual experiences can lead to behaviors that appear wrong at first glance. For instance, if we see someone leaving a harmful substance in a public bathroom, we might be quick to judge. However, we should consider possibilities like: The person may have a disability that prevents them from properly disposing of the item. They might have accidentally dropped it while trying to throw it away. Their upbringing may not have instilled the same values of public cleanliness that many of us hold. When faced with such situations, we essentially have two choices: We can reject these perceived flaws in others, which often leads to frustration and endless questioning of human behavior. Alternatively, we can accept that we live in an imperfect world, recognizing that each individual and situation is complex, and allow society to address its issues Ultimately, the choice of how to respond to these moral ambiguities lies with each of us. We can choose to engage constructively or to detach ourselves from the complexities of human behavior. Tell yourself, why should I suffer for the flaws of others? Why should I shoulder the imperfect world problems? Focus more and what could be improved to help others not fall in the same trap Have a great day š
I feel guilty for sometimes wishing that bad things werenāt bad. Itās such an OCD-driven thought processāif they werenāt bad, I wouldnāt have to fear them. Itās like wishing morality didnāt exist, just so everything would be acceptable. But then I feel guilty for even thinking that. I donāt think I actually want that, I just want this to be easier. The bad thingsāviolence, pedophilia, incestāneed to stay bad. But Iām scared. Scared that my anxiety is the only thing stopping me from doing something terrible. Scared that I donāt actually have morals, just a fear of social judgment. If there were no consequences, no stigma, would I lose control? Would I become someone awful? Do I fear *being* a bad person, or just *being seen* as one? Today was an easier day, but still a hard one.
This morning I was looking at comics from an artist I really love. She portrays complicated and morally grey characters in their work, which is something I really respect about her art. When I went to the comments, someone was talking about how the artist is obviously a creep and disgusting person just like her characters. The commenter said that she has a thread detailing why she's a creep on a forum that is NOTORIOUS for harassing LGBT+ people on the Internet. I couldnāt help but check her thread despite me knowing how horrible the forum is. I didn't find anything morally reprehensible in that thread, just a lot of people misgendering her and calling her disgusting names just for being LGBT+. I'm embarrassed that I checked anyway, and I'm very scared knowing that the forum still exists. I've had previous obsessions worrying about me and my Internet posts ending up there and being harassed, I'm trying not to search any of my old usernames on the forum. Also still worried that maybe I'm wrong and the artist I follow IS problematic and she'll get canceled in spaces where she was respected and I should stop trying to defend her and just unfollow her.
I know I have OCD, but is this a part of moral ocd? I have a huge thing about recycling. I feel guilty if I can't. (Ie, there's an item with food that cant be cleaned out since you have to rinse food off of stuff for it to be recycled). I've genuinely cried over having been given plastic bags instead of purely using reuseable bags. Another time I cried about not having the option to recycle things that were clearly recyclable while I was in the mental hospital. It was a tough week. Everything I have has to be sustainable. My toothpaste, shower soaps, hand soaps, detergent, and everything else has to be recyclable or I'll get upset about it. My toothbrushes are bamboo. Plastic irks me so badly. I want to help the planet and reduce waste. It feels right! But is that ocd? Or am I just weird about recycling? I just feel like a bad person if I can't recycle properly.
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