Givenup
- Date posted
- 50w
Hocd
Im at a bar and its making feel like im not attracted to women, and making it feel like im noticing men constantly, when I dont ever want ti ever be attracted to men in any way...
Musicmarble Musicmarble
- Date posted
- 50w
Maybe you aren’t specifically attracted to those individual women, not the women in general. And it is 100% safe to notice the nice qualities in other men. Take a moment to admire them, it doesn’t make you gay at all, that belief stems from toxic masculinity. We should be able to admire people without fear of being attracted to them. Even if you find them attractive, you don’t have to “want” everyone. I have a similar situation (not very but you’ll understand). My coworker is a VERY beautiful woman. I’m bisexual, I’m attracted to both genders, and when I tell you that woman is pretty I mean omg she is so pretty. I was afraid that I would have a crush on her and make things weird because she isn’t just my coworker she’s my manager. I was afraid to even look her in the eyes for too long. But then I realized I’m allowed to admire her without actually having to have a crush on her. I let myself see her for how pretty she is and eventually forgot about the entire thing because I became dishabituated to her. Men can be very handsome. You aren’t required to be into everyone you find attractive
star1232star1232
- Date posted
- 50w
@Musicmarble And you do not have a fear of being lesbian?
Musicmarble Musicmarble
- Date posted
- 50w
@star1232 Not at all! I identified as a lesbian for a long time but then went back to being bisexual when I realized I do still like men, I was insecure back then and felt like since they were snubbing me (in middle/high school) I’d snub them right back. I’ve grown since then and don’t feel the need to do that anymore. However, in the beginning I was very afraid. Not of being attracted to girls, but about if my family found out and how they would treat me. Once I realized I liked girls I loved liking girls. But my family was religious and homophobic and it would really hurt if she found out and hated me. She did eventually find out, and she was upset at first but after talking about it for a long time and after having multiple heavy debates over the morality of the situation she warmed up to it. She was even pretty nice to one of my girlfriends. I never feared any religious consequences because I’ve been an atheist since I was a kid and regardless, the entire point of Jesus is a free pass to “heaven” no matter what you do apparently anyway. I’ve never been afraid of being gay. But I was afraid of men taking advantage of me so if anything I was afraid of being straight. I was afraid that I wasn’t gay after all. I used to fear that I would marry a woman just to spend my entire life yearning for the male affection I dreamed of in my teens. I was afraid to get close to men because I believed they would use me for my body or r word me.
jimmy88jimmy88
- Date posted
- 50w
Yo, I feel you. Bars can mess with your vibes, especially with hocd kickin’ in. It’s wild how our brains can play tricks on us, right? Just remember, those thoughts don’t define you—they're just thoughts. I’ve been there too, and tbh, using the Unstuck app helped me chill out a bit when my mind races like that. Take it easy and focus on what you actually feel, not what your anxiety is throwing at you. You got this!
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- 24w
Can anyone tell me if this is normwl
Hi so I've been having a recent theme of soocd hocd. At the start I was all panicked and couldn't leave my house. Now all my emotions feel like they have turned off. It feels real now like I'm just in denial. It's bringing up memories from the past of shows I've watched or people I was friends with to try and prove the point or people I thought were pretty. It's saying you've only realised now cause you are comfortable as I had a difficult childhood. I feel no attraction towards men and can't remember if I ever have now even though I know I did. It's saying its all fake. I really am. Starting to believe it's real and I just feel depressed now. Am I going to have to leave my boyfriend who I planned my life with. It feels like life is going by and I'm stuck. I have no energy at all.
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- 23w
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straight girl suffering from hocd, okay so when i was younger i looked at like a girl corn star insta for like 2 weeks and like did get aroused by it, didn’t think much of it still fancied boys, girls were like ew no to me, but its triggering my hocd so badly, like is it normal that i could look at a sexy pic of a girl n get aroused by it, but like a shirtless pic of a boy i wouldn’t, however i have insane attraction to men irl, i love my boyfriend, i love the idea of being with a man and hate the idea of being with a woman, this really freaking me out!
geodrimilis
- Date posted
- 20w
Hocd is literally a clown in my head.
Like I can’t think straight. This is making me doubt everything I’ve thought about myself and even makes me feel like I like the thoughts when I know I don’t. Like I would be less anxious at a time while I still have the thoughts and my mind would go “oh so you like it you must be gay” or the other one where I’m not anxious and I think of my attraction for girls that I’ve had my whole life and my mind goes “see now you’re not into them you’re gay” like it’s so stupid but so effective. I clearly remember being into girls my whole life but my mind is making me believe that all these attractions and feelings for women were all fake or “a thing of the past”. But I can still get aroused by women but I have this weird anxiety going on which brings these sensations/feelings and it’s so weird. Today I’ve spent my whole day thinking about it like I’ve been doing for 5 months now. I know that this aint normal but my mind just won’t let me live in peace. I never cared about my sexuality cuz I simply liked women my whole life but now my sexuality is a fundamental philosophy. I hate this.
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