18+ pls reply yesterday i was trying to fantasise about my girlfriend and i enjoyed it mentally but physically down there i didn’t feel anything? but when i get intrusive thoughts i do? and i’m confused because then it’s like am i not attracted to her? i get thoughts saying im not turned on during thoughts of my gf and its stressing me out is this ocd or is it not????
I know exactly what you’re experiencing because I’ve been through the same thing recently with my boyfriend. The issue is that anxiety, especially from intrusive thoughts like POCD, makes it really hard to feel physically aroused. When I get those intrusive thoughts, especially the POCD ones, any sensation down there just reminds me of them, which increases my anxiety. It makes me feel like I can’t focus on anything else but the intrusive thoughts. Mentally, I’m still very attracted to my boyfriend, but physically, my anxiety is so overwhelming that I don’t feel anything. It’s like the physical sensations are blocked because of the anxiety. Just like you, though, I do sometimes feel something down there because of the intrusive thoughts, but that’s just another anxiety response—not actual arousal. It’s a bit ironic, but when you’re in a situation where it’s normal to feel aroused, the association with anxiety is still there. So, not feeling anything can actually be another anxiety response, just like how some people hyperventilate when they’re panicked while others might stop breathing altogether. Anxiety can trigger different responses in the body. I hope that makes sense.
@isshpra 🫶🏻 It’s like screaming when you’re scared vs being speechless and unable to scream because you’re scared Or feeling jittery because you’re anxious vs paralyzed in anxiety Or being sensitive to sounds when you’re nervous vs feeling like you can’t hear because you’re nervous Or wanting comfort when you’re scared vs not being able to handle being around people bc you’re scared All of it is anxiety, I hope that helps
sometimes arrousal doesn’t happen when we want to be intimate and thinking about our partner. it doesn’t make the intrusive thoughts u have real it’s just your mind trying to trick you. there is nothing unusual about not being in the mood when u want to be.
i go through this too! my girlfriend is the hottest woman in the world (with all due respect), and i just can't get turned on properly anymore. i've wanted to end the relationship many times because of this.
but i'm sure it's a trap of that damn demonic disorder.
That's arousal non concordance! Common OCD symptom with multiple OCD themes
there’s no posts relating to this, is it not ocd???? i’m so worried pls help
It does sound like ocd! Maybe you just weren't in the mood
@Clara_and_ellie it happens a lot unfortunately:( it’s so frustrating i want it to go away. this is my first relationship it’s my first time doing all of the stuff im doing with her so i dong know if this is normal or not. i don’t know if im putting too much pressure on myself to feel those things.
@space girl 🪐 There are posts under this one! The app is lagging a little lately. Don’t worry, they’ll show up eventually.
@isshpra 🫶🏻 they just showed up thankfully 😭😭😭
I don’t know if my hormones are extra wild this month or what, but I have been having so many POCD thoughts lately. It feels like I enjoy them in the moment, and then a few seconds later, I get this tiny flicker of *wait I don’t think I actually want to enjoy that.* It’s scaring me a lot. I was watching adult videos for the first time in about a year, since I had been avoiding them because of my OCD. I know they are not good for anyone, but I felt like i could (ironically it felt like a tiny win that my OCD had calmed down enough). But while watching, I had like 3 separate POCD thoughts. And it felt like I liked them. Like genuinely *liked* them. I don’t know if maybe my body was mixing up physical pleasure and mental pleasure, and then my brain inserted those not okay thoughts into the situation, which got tangled up with the pleasure responses I felt mentally and physically. It is all really confusing. I just feel so scared. I know OCD thoughts are supposed to feel real, and that once you get desensitized to the anxiety, they lose their power. But this feels like I am *actually enjoying* the thoughts, and that makes me want to cry. I’m scared that I actually like these thoughts when I’m really aroused :( Please help.
I was having intimacy. Watching p0rn. And during climax i got intrusive thoughts a d anxious. I hate when this happens. As a compulsion whenever i get intrusive ocd thoughts i usually think of my wife or therapist (whose a man) and say their name. For my wife its because shes the love of my life. My comfort. And during intimacy of course to arouse over her. When i think of my therapist its not anything sexual its just like a comforting thought since hes the one that is helping me thru ocd. But now ocd is saying why did i think lf him during climax. And in my head i heard my voicr saying his name but this was my way of distracting myself from the intrusive thoughts. It wasnt to arouse myself over him it was tk distract myself and it wasnt a compulsion. Ocd tries associating it with my sexual experience and its making me feel very guilty and anxious. Then i worry was i saying his name. I did in my head but it wasnt again a compulsion tk distract from ocd. Then that made me anxious so i said my wifes name and thougjt kf her. I just had intrusive thought so i panicked and out of compulsive habit i usual say thr name of my wifr and therapist
I really dont know if it is ocd anymore I dont want certain sexual things with my bf anymore that i used to like When i envision it with a girl it is so easy to envision and it feels like i want that , that will give me the satisfaction This feeling is making me really question if i am still into men , desire men sexually Is this still ocd , i really dont know anymore , as it is a feeling it is too real
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