Username: hopefulxmess

Date posted: 13d ago

Struggling mom seeking support

Since I developed ocd as postpartum my ocd has mostly always targeted my kids. It started as harm and then switched to pocd. Both are equally very painful. For years I was mostly able to keep my ocd at bay but when it comes back it’s so bad. I have a son and a daughter and my ocd switches back and forth from kid to kid with horrible intrusive thoughts and now even intrusive ocd dreams. With each thought I get past and start to feel relief another one pops right up. The thoughts feel so real and true even though I know it’s just the ocd and not how I think or feel, the ocd always makes me doubt myself and question everything I think or do. I know other moms/dads go through this too. Please anyone who has or is going through this please tell me how you deal with this. 😪

Username: ga.laxyga.laxy

Date posted: 13d ago

I am not a mother but my ocd has reached every subtype pretty much and pocd does come up sometimes. I am a big true crime watcher and it is triggering to me and makes me question my intentions with kids etc. but that is essentially and exposure for me and baby clothes and when I see kids I get intrusive thoughts about them. Please always remember you are not your thoughts. I understand how hard it is and how it makes to feel so disturbed and horrible. Sit with the discomfort, if your kid is in the room and you are having the thoughts stay in the room with them, never avoid them. When the thoughts come up in your mind, do not battle yourself or go back and forth on your morals for having an intrusive thought. OCD is a bully so you are going to give it the reaction it doesn’t want so you can say thing back to it like “yeah ocd maybe I do maybe I don’t think that way”, or like “that’s just a thought”. Eventually it should get better, the important thing is not to entertain the thoughts by giving them so much attention. Hang in there! I’m sure you are a great Mom!

Username: hopefulxmesshopefulxmess

Date posted: 13d ago

@ga.laxy Ty

Username: hopefulxmesshopefulxmess

Date posted: 13d ago

@ga.laxy I have a hard time doing that because I always feel like I have to disprove the thoughts and I end up stuck. I don’t know why i’m like this. I want to be able to just say “it’s just a thought” and move on.

Username: ga.laxyga.laxy

Date posted: 12d ago

@hopefulxmess I understand! It takes a lot of practice. Repetition helps. I was stuck in a rumination pattern repeating the same things in my head for two weeks straight until I got better. I’m so sorry I know how debilitating it is. I hope things get better for you! Have you tried therapy on this app? It’s been helping me a lot

Username: Lg_134Lg_134

Date posted: 12d ago

@hopefulxmess That’s me too rn. The same thought over and over and then scenarios play in my head my heart starts to pound. It’s so hard.

Username: hopefulxmesshopefulxmess

Date posted: 12d ago

@Lg_134 It really is and i’m sorry you are going through this too. I really hope we both get through this soon. You can always reach out to me if you ever need to.

Username: Lg_134Lg_134

Date posted: 12d ago

@hopefulxmess Thank you, on here or?

Username: MDK13MDK13

Date posted: 13d ago

My dad also has OCD as well as me. I’m not sure how he deals with his specifically but I know he takes out personal time for himself to be able to ground himself and focus on other things. I doubt this was much help but I really hope you’re able to find some help on here.

Username: hopefulxmesshopefulxmess

Date posted: 13d ago

@MDK13 Ty

Username: I’m BatmanI’m Batman

Date posted: 12d ago

The harm was harder to recover from for me than the pcod. You can accidentally ham your kid without even trying. OCD loves that stuff. The pcod I accepted that I was not a Ped before I had kids so the likelihood of becoming one after I had kids was pretty low. As much as ocd wanted me to believe probability was equal to possibility, it’s not. I also doubt a convicted ped would asking their therapist if they are a pedi or not. I mean sure it’s possible but again possibility does not equal probability. I accepted that uncertainty and it backed off pretty fast.

Username: Anonymous 1983Anonymous 1983

Date posted: 12d ago

I'm a dad to a son and daughter, with 2 "step" daughters (I'm their dad since he has neen out of the picture for years) and this has been happening to me for 13 years. Mine will not go away. I understand how incredibly horrible this is. I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

Username: hopefulxmesshopefulxmess

Date posted: 12d ago

@Anonymous 1983 Ty for sharing💕

Username: Anonymous 1983Anonymous 1983

Date posted: 12d ago

@hopefulxmess Not a problem. It's tough to deal with.

Username: Anonymous

Date posted: 33w ago

OCD while having young kids

I have two beautiful healthy young boys. This OCD has sucked away all of my joy and being able to enjoy parenting and being with them. Being a mom has always been my whole identity and dream and I was thriving in it until I was hit with OCD. It is the most distressing thing that it is sucking away me enjoying these precious ages with my boys that I’ll never get back. I am so distraught. Anyone else who has kids on here who deals with OCD? How do you cope?

Username: hopefulxmess

Date posted: 17w ago

The hardest theme as a mom

Having ocd can either make life difficult or painful or both depending on the theme(s). For me it’s painful. My ocd latches onto my children. I have very upsetting harm and pocd intrusive thoughts. Sometimes it’s easy to shrug them off but other times the ocd makes it seem likes it’s me thinking these things and it feels so real and it has me so depressed. I never used to see any parents posting about this but recently there have been a few. I know it’s really hard to talk about but sharing can help us all feel less alone and more supported. I’m grateful to anyone that offers support because I feel so defeated lately. 😞

Username: hopefulxmess

Date posted: 26d ago

Mama in distress😪

My ocd is ruining my relationship with my kids. Because of the intrusive thoughts I avoid being close to them, hugging or cuddling up to watch tv. My ocd is either telling me I wouldn’t care if harm came to them or it turns everything into something sexual or inappropriate. For example, my daughter wanted to show me how long her nails are so she started scratching my arm gently. It felt so nice and relaxing and I immediately panicked because I was scared the ocd would cause a groinal and I don’t ever, ever want a feeling like that connected with my child even though I know it’s the ocd causing it and not me i’d still feel horrible. I just want to be a normal loving affectionate mom and I can never be that for my kids because of ocd😪 I don’t see any other parents posting about going through this or commenting that they do and how they cope. I feel so alone and defeated.

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