When an intrusive thought comes I canât just say âthatâs not trueâ and just move on. I always feel like I have to disprove the thought and be able to say it with confidence but the problem is that the ocd doesnât allow me to feel and say it with confidence so I get stuck for hours or even days. How can I stop feeling like I need to do this?
You're playing right in to the OCD spiral by those reactions. You feel like you need to do it because it's how your brain has developed over your lifetime. So, when you feel like you have to do it, allow the feeling, but don't. "Ok, I'm feeling uneasy, but I'm going to sit with the uneasiness, I don't like it, but I'm going to sit with it." Same with the thoughts, apply uncertainty "maybe I did look at my daughter wrong, maybe I didn't". The uncertainty doesn't feel right, but I'm going to sit with it anyway... It's not easy because it's not our norm, but it works. Trust it.
Just so you know, I'm keeping my eye out for you. Please don't be creeped out by that. Lol. I know you're a real person and I care and want to help somehow, just as if you were a neighbor.
@Someone99 Ty so much!
beautiful reaction âš you're not alone. I have too intrusive thoughts all the time about Harm and POCD. I can say with experience: If you engage with the doubts, sensations in your body or the thoughts - your uncertainity will grow, it will overcome you like happen to me. But I don't wanna play the game anymore the OCD way. Together we are stronger.
@ocdnomore1 Ty!
If you were to do the exact opposite and agree with the thought and say âsure, thatâs trueâ it would pass. For example, I took my son to an appointment today. Multiple times on the drive there, I had thoughts about grabbing him inappropriately. I didnât engage with the thought, just thought âsure, of course Iâm going to do thatâ (to myself) and kept the conversation I was having with my son going. The thoughts passed, I never did anything inappropriate to my son, we made it to his dentist appointment and he has no cavities. Wins all around!đŠ·đ€©
What if the harm ocd never ever goes away and i have to live with this FEELING. like even when im not having an intrusive thought i still have this feeling of the thought. Is this normal LIKE I DO NOT WANT TO ACT ON AN intrusive thought AT ALL but im so full of panic because im having intruisve thoughts like âwhat if i didâ âwhat if i just do it and dont careâ âwhat if i dont careâ âwhat if it doesnât matter if i were to act out on the thoughtsâ Is this normal because im so scared because this feeling in my head and chest im just scared. Anyone who relates how long did u have this for / the feeling/ thoughts. Pls help! Im so scared because sometimes it even comes into existential like âWhy does it matter if i did thatâ Please
What helps when u can't stop an obsessive thought from Occuring?
I had a terrible graphic intrusive image. So why didn't I feel nothing? I should have been disgusted immediately. I was just passive, it didn't effect me as much. I'm currently obsessing about the fact that I didn't react. I don't know if I should be afraid of this. I know I didn't like that, but when things like these happen I feel like I never have enough confidence, like to simply say "no I was disgusted, I don't like this, I would never do that" end of the story, without any second guessing thoughts. I can never have that statement confidently without feeling that it might not be true. And sometimes when I try to answer to the "OCD question" my brain double downs and says "well what about this? how about that? would you like it that way? you've never thought about it that way!" My brain asks me "would you do it if it was like that? have you ever considered what would it be like? maybe you would like it?" What do I do? I think I know what should I do, but I don't know if it applies to this, if it applies to me at all, as sometimes I think that these are not OCD symptoms or it isn't OCD at all.
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