Not knowing when to stop

Not embarrassing at all, you don’t need to apologize. It makes sense that body fluids/poop can trigger thoughts of not being clean enough. I guarantee more people than you know have similar thoughts. Are you able to work with an ERP therapist? This is something they can help you work through. You can also write down how and what you feel, and what your habits are, to work on targeting them.

Don't be embarrassed. It is more common than you think. You are not alone. The main issue is that you could hurt yourself by doing this compulsion. So now instead of having dirty underwear, you would have an injured rectum, which is susceptible to infections. I would recommend talking to a specialist like a therapist.

i have this problem!!! i’ve been able to cut my time down in the bathroom all the way to only one hour- which to some still seems like long and it is but it’s still progress. my biggest tip would be using wipes!!! feminine wipes or preferably cottanelle wipes (the blue pack) it after your initial “get clean” wipe and use it as a security blanket to just reassure yourself your clean , my second tip is if your problem revolves around going #2, get in the shower after !! i don’t think you mentioned being a woman- but if you hard i get that it’s hard to feel clean sometimes even when you are and you obsess over it , trust me i understand more than you could know. i still struggle with over wiping after just peeing and going #2 - it’s a common symptom of ocd don’t be embarrassed- let me know if you need any more help!!

Don’t be embrassed. But also… do not do this!!!! Rubbing that hard is really bad for you and can get very dry skin and bad skin irritation. Go to your dermatologist and or put Vaseline in the area. I don’t know if your are male or female but please also don’t do it both ends if you are a girl.

have you had any relief/helpful solutions since you posted this? i deal with the EXACT same thing and have been for years now, and i’ve been feeling so isolated because it’s so difficult to talk about, so this was so refreshing to read! if you have any tips that have helped you it’d be awesome to hear!