Can someone with rocd give a newbie some advice?

Hi! i have rocd too and I get you a 100%, I'm struggling with it pretty bad, I completely understand how you feel, you wonder if you really love him or if you're convincing yourself that you are, wonder if you love him ''enough'', keep asking yourself ''how do I feel about him rn? do I feel love ? do I feel nothing?" and panick I'm not out of it at all actually I'm pretty fucked but I know that to recover you need to stop analysing everything, it will feel distressing and tiring in the beginning but looking for reassurance all the time (online tests, tiktoks abt relationship, asking him if he can feel that you love him) feeds the disorder, and that's why you need to stop. When you have an intensive thought such as ''do I really love him?" you need to watch it go by, like a cloud in the sky, do hang onto it, just look at it, don't judge it, and let it go. It's kind of a ''do what I say not what I don't advice but according to therapists, with time and patience you should get better. hope this helps :) sending you support

If you didn’t like him, you would know for sure, I think. If there’s doubt, it’s probably OCD. I am so sorry you are going through this. Your feelings are so valid

Hey! My first relationship a few years ago… I went through this exact thing and in my current relationship I still sometimes do but not nearly as bad. In my first relationship, I kept panicking like Do I even like him?! For me at least, I don’t think I’d be so anxious about it if i didn’t actually like him. If you really want it to work out, that means you DO like him! The thoughts are really hard and I completely get what you’re saying that it makes you feel guilty. The same happened/happens to me. But like the person above me commented, don’t give it too much attention (easier said than done, but it gets easier). The brain is so complex and (annoying!! Lmao) but you can train it and work on the way you react to silly thoughts that feel so real! I hope this helps! Don’t feel guilty! I think if you’re so upset about it - you are a good person. A “bad” person wouldn’t care if they were leading someone on. But you’re not. You genuinely care for your partner and are just having some relationship ocd thoughts and it happens to many people.

Hey the best you could do is just be like okay maybe I do like my man maybe I don’t and just sit with the unknowing ness that’s how to beat ocd I know it’s hard trust me I’ve been going through this and have been through it

i am sort of young, only 2 years until i have to be in college, i’ve been with my bf for 2 years for reference. lately ive been thinking of college and only college. when i was a kid it seemed unreal to me, college, bc there were so many better things to do, now i feel like im gonna get lit on fire if i don’t have anything figured out. what i want to be, where i want to go to college, those are some concerns with college. my biggest worry is what will happen to my relationship, my SO made me worry by saying that there are more LDR that fail than work out. i dont want to grow up, why can’t i be worry free. ever since ive grown up a bit, id say every since i was 12 or 13, i feel like i cant catch a break from stress. my huge problem is overthinking. and bc my SO hates the fact that i overthink, it makes me overthink more, mostly about our relationship. i’ve cried a couple times now over the past 4 days bc idk what to do with my life after high school. i want help, but not from a therapist or anyone really

I love the Nathan Peterson videos. He has some ROCD videos that might be helpful. It might also be helpful to read the comments on the video to see what other people are saying about their ROCD struggles too. :):) https://youtu.be/w4r0kir8COY?si=YiIWFnTCcBvjiSkG