How are you supposed to face your fears?

But like what if it's a topic I cannot have doubt on? Like I need to be sure bc its really important. How am I supposed to face my fears if they are like rocd?

@misereri Its complicated af. An ocd says im going to d13 in 21 days and the compulsion is imposible to realize

I did some posts explaining my situation already, I don't know if you can see them Tho. Let me know so if u can't I'll text it again.

@misereri Is it the post explaining what happened in your relationship?

@nae nae Yes it is. It's my bday today and it's been really awful

@misereri Well, first of all, Happy Birthday! Despite what you're going through and what's happened in the past, you deserve to enjoy this special day. You deserve love, and you deserve happiness. Onto the topic at hand... You acknowledged that you made a mistake and apologized to your boyfriend. It's great that you accepted accountability, but you are also a victim. Correct me if I'm mistaken, but this guy took advantage of you... That's horrible, and I'm sorry you went through that :( The other comment is correct that the first step to minimizing these intrusive thoughts that are causing you to question or doubt the relationship you have/your feelings towards your partner is to practice resisting compulsions. Identify what those compulsions may be and focus on preventing them. Even if it's just by a couple of minutes, that's still progress... When we act on compulsions to relieve anxiety (avoid what's making us anxious, confess, seek reassurance, etc...), we're feeding into the OCD and the intrusive thoughts. It's training our brain that they're "important," and in return, it'll send them more often.

@nae nae How do I identify them?

@misereri Well, what are things you find yourself doing to ease the anxiety? Usually, it'll feel like something you NEED to do. Like the examples I listed above. One could be experiencing a distressing thought and immediately going to confess that thought to someone or asking for reassurance, like, "Does this thought mean I'm a bad person?" or "Do you think I'm a bad person/dislike me?" Something along those lines.

@nae nae Yeah I do like I need to say" no" in my head like I don't even know what I do I get on this app sometimes and post and post or ask chat gpt or reassure myself.

@nae nae I feel that if I don't say no or find an answer to the thoughts then I like them or something.