Will groinals go away with acceptance

I keep getting these groinal responses when I think about kids or see one and it's really distressing, I only just learned that OCD can make you feel that and it's not actually attraction but it's so hard to remember that and I've seen people talking about accepting uncertainty but I'm so scared to think "maybe it's attraction maybe it's not" instead of "no it's not attraction that's disgusting" and idk what to do

tayanominous

Date posted: 23d ago

My OCD is sexual based as well but not sound kids as I’m also young so it would be normal, but I do get groinals sometimes so I understand how frustrating that is I know saying maybe is hard but just try it, I was were you were yesterday and this morning I just “well… maybe but whatever” and I moved on so I know it’s kinda weird to say oh “maybe I do feel attraction maybe I don’t ” with full seriousness but fake it till you make my friend I hope your doing well keep on fighting!

tayanominous

Date posted: 23d ago

@tayanominous *around

Andrea Wells

Date posted: 22d ago

Yes, OCD can make you feel this way. Yes, accepting the uncertainty is what helps bring you peace. But it can be VERY scary too and make things feel worse if you don't go about it a certain way. It can be hard when you're trying it on your own. Do you have an ERP therapist? They can help guide you in specific ways that relieve the distress, not worsen it. Be gentle with yourself too. This is all new, and it takes time to learn about and figure out. It's a journey you're just embarking on.

Bruce M

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 21d ago

Groinals can happen at any time and may or may not even have anything to do with something sexual. If you get a groinal you simply accept that you are a human and this is a natural response. If you have a groinal while looking at a child it does not mean that you are attracted to that child, it simply means you have a groinal and these things can happen. Reading into this is an OCD rumination that doesn't help. Acceptance and move on. Contact NOCD for a free 15 minute call to discuss further. They can offer more detail than I can here. https://www.treatmyocd.com/about-us/contact-us

User type: Therapist

Date posted: 6d ago

Replying with uncertainty is very scary, especially when you're worried that it might really be attraction. But, research has proven that replying with uncertainty is one of the best ways to fight back against OCD. Think back and ask yourself how many times you have told yourself you are NOT attracted to kids...has that helped? A thought is not an action and a thought does not define you as a person. You can do this! Give the maybe, maybe not approach a true, committed try. You might be surprised. Also, you can always reach out to NOCD and schedule a consultation to see if therapy might be the best approach for you.

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Date posted: 18w ago

I can't do this rn.......

So I was on a hat chat gpt and it said that people who are non-offenders experience distress and anxiety and disgust and depression and they feel ashamed of being a non-offender like WHAT like that's honestly terrifying and I'm so scared because that's how I've been feeling like when I'm out I get anxiety too especially when I see a younger person I always been attracted to MEN my whole life can people turn into monsters and I don't even care if they have problems if there attracted to kids then there sick in the head like don't care like this has been sharing me soo much and the worst part about it is that they said some are in denial or suppress their attractions I'm so done...... I can not do this this is too much I would rather be gone from this earth than find out that I might be one like you have to be kidding me if you're attracted to young people and desire that you're sick and dead to me you're a monster I don't care like its disgusting. for this eole some people are suffering from POCD like me are scared to think about that and I'm terrified.

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King silly

Date posted: 14w ago

Bad again

Pocd feels real again and I can’t tell if I’m actually attracted or not. can’t believe it got this bad again. I used to be able to go “no I don’t like that, go away” and now it feels like I do like it and want it, and it’s starting to linger longer so it feels more real. I’m avoiding checking but I’m so scared that what if it’s true. Is it because I have not been doing my exposures? I’m not sure, but every time a 14 year old person comes to my head, I keep hearing something go “they’re attractive” and it sounds like me so I panic, and it makes me even more scared because I’m not feeling bad about it??? I saw some kid at Walmart that had long black hair and my brain kept saying shit and no matter how much I say I don’t feel that way, it won’t shut up, i want to check 1000 times to make sure. But I know it’s not worth it. I’m trying so hard

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issphra 🫶🏻

Date posted: 8w ago

Help, Meta OCD/POCD?

I’ve been feeling the urge to avoid intimacy or purposefully engage (for reassurance that I won’t give into a compulsion) because of intrusive thoughts and fear that I’ll “check/test” my reactions. My OCD is making me so scared that I’ll purposefully think of a child and try to see if I like it. It’s so complicated but I guess I’m mentally checking if I would mentally check during intimacy. I’ve even envisioned myself checking and it’s making me so nauseous. I know it’s a compulsion like any other but the sound of “touching yourself to the thought of a child” sounds atrocious and vile. I’m terrified I’ll automatically start checking next time I am being intimate. I truly feel so worried. If anyone has gone through something similar, I’d appreciate hearing your experience. Or if anyone has any advice?

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