confession or real?

Okay 1. You don't "get over" that. That's the most disgusting twisted thing someone can do on their wedding night. 2. YOUR PARTNER BETRAYED YOU FIRST. I would've left them first. In fact I would've gone ballistic. I would've aired out everything I know about them. All their embarrassing secrets. Let them feel humiliated since they just love being passed around by everyone, why not their secrets too? I dont deal with this kind of Issue, but this is the best advice I have. Don't take my word for everything, I have a tendency to be a vengeful person, but what I'm saying is let them be mad. If they're gone I'm sure it'll be a gift. They're clearly messed up in the head to do that to their partner and then feel "betrayed" by people knowing.

thank you guys. i agree with you. i go back and forth on remembering my worth and feeling like a piece of shit like i betrayed them. it just sucks i feel like im between a rock and a hard place. i really want to tell them that i told their mom and apologize but now their mom is calling me and telling me to delete texts between her and i and pretend i never told her because she's worried it'll ruin our relationship. it just sucks i feel soooo shady. i'm not a liar and i do not morally agree with her telling me to do that. i feel insane.

This doesn’t sound like OCD to me. It seems more like you’re in a situation where you’re depending on someone who doesn’t show you the respect you deserve. I know it’s tough, but honestly, if you want to stay with this person, therapy is a must for both of you. You deserve so much better, and therapy could either strengthen your relationship or help you realize you don’t need to settle for this. If your partner gets upset, that’s a huge sign that they *really* don’t respect you. The person above is right about everything they said. I’m not trying to sound harsh, you need to see your worth. When they cheated, they didn’t care about you, and now you’re worried about them being mad because their parents found out about THEIR actions? It’s a huge sign that you care way more than they do, and that’s not right. If OCD is involved, it’s more about obsessing over things. The bigger issue is how you’re letting them have all the control. My final piece of advice: get angry, not “over it.” You don’t have to just get over something that hurt you. It’s okay to feel that anger.