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painintheocdpainintheocd
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So here is the deal...I've had ocd for over 20 years. You want someone to reassure you,you arent gay or losing your mind. Personally, I dont think you are gay. I think what you are experiencing is normal for those who suffer,myself included. The problem is,is that me telling you this will only calm you down temporarily.... maybe For a fee seconds. A few hours,or a few weeks even. But no matter what I say it will never truly be good enough. Your ocd will always come back!!! Untill you stop it. You have to accept the thoughts. Let them happen. Dont engage. Sounds almost impossible....it feels impossible. I'm still learning myself. Have you ever practiced mindfulness? Have you heard of it?
pureolifepureolife
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- 6y
With OCD you have to accept the uncertainty. Whenever you’re feeling 100% sure of anything, you’re actually doing yourself a disservice. You’re setting yourself up for doubt to creep in. Live in the gray area. Black and white thinking is what got you here. The more comfortable you can make yourself with the unknown, the more you’ll heal.
AsnkuAsnku
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I feel this so much. In day time i am happy and i have these nice feelings about my crush (boy) and I am exited. In evening/night time sometimes I had these really bad break downs and it feels like I am lesbian in closet because I can not enjoy my thoughts with my crush even and they make me anxious sometimes too because I am afraid if I am really lesbian then? Like yeah
painintheocdpainintheocd
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- 6y
Notice the cycle?
brynquinbrynquin
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Hey there. I was a gender and sexuality studies major in college and I’d recommend looking up some super light academic reading on the sexuality spectrum. I think it would be good exposure and also help you gain some control and clarity.
EsosaEsosa
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It seems like a good idea in theory but he has to be careful not to turn it into a compulsion.
brynquinbrynquin
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@Esosa Yes that’s true, absolutely careful. I just see so many on here with hocd and I do feel like we are in special time where we have the factual tools and resources that tell us people are not as black and white as “gay or straight”. Like it is factually sound that even if you are a man and think a man is attractive, it actually doesn’t mean you are gay at all. I’m not saying this as a type of reassurance- but exposure to the real truth and conversation about sexuality that many of us have not been exposed to (and possibly the opposite was taught to us as kids) unless we are in a liberal arts/academic setting. It’s important to remember that society teaches men they cannot go outside their “box” which I can only assume contributes to hocd issues. For people of all genders with hocd we are luckily in a time where you can expose and arm yourself with actual information about sexuality that was not available when many of us were growing up. I have my own sexual themes but mostly surrounding abuse/exploitation. Good luck friend and I hope this wasn’t preachy.
EsosaEsosa
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@brynquin You are right about that. Even though I do struggle with the black and white thinking that comes with HOCD, I learned some new things that can help me define myself for the time being and that sexuality is something only defined by you.
brynquinbrynquin
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@Esosa Love this. Yes! Good luck on your journey!
EsosaEsosa
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@brynquin Thank you
painintheocdpainintheocd
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No problem! Just hang in there. I know how hard it is...
painintheocdpainintheocd
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If I tell you then I'm feeding your compulsion...
painintheocdpainintheocd
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Its extremely hard to practice ..but it works.
painintheocdpainintheocd
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Being aware. Aware of your thoughts,your emotions,the cycles,the repition. There are a couple good videos on youtube...just type in mindfulness
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