Hi all, I deal with HOCD and been seeing a therapist for about 3.5 months. It has definitely got better but still affects me very much. Was wondering there is anyone out there who has dealt with HOCD as well and has recovered. I would love to message or even chat just see how your experience was and hear what was beneficial to you.
Recovery doesn't guarantee it totally stopping!
Recovery means it doesn't really affect your quality of life+ yup have the theme and you can say I'm recovered to 90%
But it is possible for the thoughts to disappear(definitely when you stop trying to make them disappear)
@Ms.shelovesfrogs What are some practices and tips you have that have helped you with recovery?
@jwall2.0 Sit with the urge to find reassurance, if you're on meds be consistent, know that so-ocd cannot change your sexuality, exposureeee to triggers (whenever I find myself avoiding sumn, I force myself to do it...not to prove to myself any but to gradually teach my brain that nothing happened, stopped focusing on groinal response so it left, stopped panicking whenever I was triggered(I sat with the uneasiness), immediately you wake up exposure next! Stop ruminating, don't let it stop you from making decisions, know sometimes it may make you feel like an imposter, healing isn't linear, ocd can appear in dreams and don't seek validation and use it for reassurance+ soocd is a misunderstood subtype so don't panick if people make it seem like it's denial, getting better≠theme disappearing...my intrusive thoughts only happen like four times a week or when I'm stressed (clomipramine effect)
@Ms.shelovesfrogs Thank you so much for thoughtful response. I can’t express how much I appreciate you for it. So would you say the more ERP the better? Like how time do you think you would do exposures on average?
@jwall2.0 Yuppp+ I expose myself at any chance I get(because I'm used to it already and have stopped getting overwhelmed immediately) but start gradually and take a break when you're getting overwhelmed...over time, your threshold increases and you get less obsessed with it. (Before I couldn't look or go out to see the public or scroll on social media but now I can without even thinking and preoccupying myself with soocd)... I literally forget I have ocd most times...but it does flare up during my period
@Ms.shelovesfrogs Thank you so much you are awesome and I appreciate you
Me! I’ve had it on and off for years and medication and acceptance have been the best tools for me
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Me! Very few thoughts for probably 9 months. I'll go weeks without any and then have one random thought here or there but it rolls off and my day goes on. It is possible. I felt like I wasn't making progress and then one day it sort of clicked. Hang in there!
@Midwestmother How did you work out it / what practices did you do that were beneficial in getting better
@jwall2.0 ERP. Everyday. Doing all the uncomfortable things and sitting with it. No magic. Just sticking to it. I would say I noticed a big difference 2 months in. 4-5 months in was 90 percent there.
This is killing me slowly day by day, im a straight female 20 years old, i started getting hocd after a break up with an ex and coming off intense use of 🍁🍃 for a few years on and off, i think it has messed up my brain so bad… my hocd is weird because ive been with men my whole life always wanted to be with men.. i also used to always question every relationship “do i love him? Does he love me? Am I with the right person?” Anyways after my hocd triggered my tocd due to researching hocd and finding they can often be linked, I started getting tocd and it’s worse then ever because it’s not who I want to be and I’m going back to situations where my abusive ex partner called me a “man” during a fight. I’ve always been a tomboy but never had same sex attraction. Help. This is killing me. I haven’t been able to study or leave the house most days, and work! I’ve lost motivation for everything and I’m in a dark hole. I need some success stories please
I’ve recovered from HOCD before and got my attraction and my usual actual identity back. I was recovered from end 2022- start 2025 until I got triggered UGHHH😭 My HOCD is REALLY trying to convince me and it’s SO annoying cause I genuinely don’t want these thoughts. I know I naturally like men and always have done so. I can’t wait for my first therapy session in two days Omg! I need your advice, not necessarily reassurance, but more advice? My HOCD is throwing random “proof” I did/ saw as a child in my face, which back then had no meaning in my life and I continued to live a perfectly heterosexual life. I’ve educated myself about arousal non concordance / child’s play, but it still doesn’t remove the HOCD. I’ve read therapists great explanations on how it’s not a sexuality issue, BUT ITS AN OCD BRAIN ISSUE. So basically I’ve been straight and i will die as straight. But my ocd is still continuing with the intrusive thoughts/flashbacks. I’ve had some moments where I haven’t done as many compulsions and had less anxiety but still had those damn thoughts and I DO NOT want those damn thoughts. I have so much proof and factual/logical explanations but HOCD is still continuing to thrive. I absolutely hate this and I feel so alone. I wish there was a reset button cause I don’t want these thoughts to happen. I want a man and I stand by that. How do y’all deal with these situations? Cause sitting with the thoughts is clearly not helping.
I have some question, so if there is someone pls tell me
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