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If he wanted to break up with you JUST because you shower too long... this is rediculous and in my opinion if this is the only reason.. then he doesn’t know what love is. Love is unconditional - but more importantly for us with OCD - we need a loved one who understands and stands by us trying to help us with our issues. If your “issues” are too much for him to be there to help you.. then I would tell him his issues are too much for you to handle. Because EVERYONE has issues or needs help with something. You deserve better ❤️❤️ About the showering.. you can take steps by slowly decreasing your time in the shower by setting a timer and not allowing yourself to go past that timer. You will realize you are just as clean and nothing bad happens if you shorten your shower time by 5 mins, then 10 mins, etc..
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he enjoyed it for 1 year and now noticed the time! jerk work on yourself but not because if him let him go but work on yourself because of you and your precious time
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- 5y
This just shows that you are way too good for him. If he can't accept that you have a debilitating disorder then it is his loss. I know it is going to be hard because you lived together, but seek comfort in others you are close with at this time and you will find someone worthy of your love and compassion, and who will help you through your tough times instead of telling you you're too much. You are not too much. He obviously doesn't understand the pain you go through every day. I know it seems like an impossible situation right now but trust me when I say it will be okay and you will be better off ❤
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You are better than him and there is someone out there that will love every part of you.
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Listen what everyone has said here. I spend even more time in the bathroom and I still have a very loving boyfriend. It is possible. You deserve better?
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I am sometimes a complete head case and my wife is my best friend and loves me.
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- 22w
I’ve had so many moments of clarity with my OCD that I love my boyfriend and I’m beyond willing to go through this to be better and be with him. in the back of mind I’ve in a way known I was at least somewhat sexually attracted to women (I’m a woman) since the start of the ocd it was always like “okay. Fine, but I don’t want to date a girl” I only just realized this after the ocd started, I never really argued with this. my ocd has always revolved around if I’m romantically interested in women and not men. I’ve done so many compulsions through this year and a half and 9 times out of 10 have come to the conclusion that I don’t want to be with a woman romantically. I always end up feeling like I know I love my boyfriend. But the doubts don’t stop about whether I want to spend my life with a woman instead, my heart literally breaks to think of not being with my bf and imagining him with someone else. I don’t want to be with a woman I know deep down somewhere underneath the anxiety that that’s not what I want. It doesn’t feel natural for me, unfulfilling. I want to tell my boyfriend about the possible sexual attraction to women (ik it’s still ocd related) but I’m scared that once I tell him, I’ll realize that I actually do want to be with women and not with him. Ugh I’ve spent hours today ruminating about this after being solid in my commitment with him for a little while, I’m stuck in this loop and idk how to get out right now
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- 11w
for me it’s getting to the point where i don’t feel in love with my boyfriend anymore. i’m trying to keep myself from compulsing since my compulsions are all mental. it’s like the thoughts consume my mind every second of every day and i can’t catch a break. it’s like i want to be with him so bad but my brain won’t allow me. any advice?
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- 10w
me and my girlfriend since we started dating we be only had one problem, and that is my fear of everything of losing her of her cheating, and it’s all caused by OCD. my texts are massive and i get worried i know i love her and she makes me calm i know i love her. we had a conversation yesterday and basically she said that she feels suffocated with my texts and my fears. she went on trip were she doesn’t have her phone. and yesterday i spent the entire day crying about her. my head is filled with intrusive thoughts. and last night i got so stressed that it seemed like the love went away or i couldn’t remember the love, but it’s impossible because i was crying about her yesterday. this struggle my relationship is having is making me so stressed. pls give me advice
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