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- kgreene
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Sharing your ocd is hard, even as hard as acknowledging that you have it yourself. I always try to say that “I’m normal”. And that just because I have turn the light off so many times and wash my hands a lot and use tons of hand sanitizer, doesn’t mean that I am “different” than people who don’t deal with this mental illness. But, the fact is I do, and not sharing that with your support group(s) will only make your obsessions and compulsions worse. My family gets so frustrated about why I can’t just sit on the couch next to them, they just don’t understand that I can’t. They get mad at how much time I waste and take to do certain things. My sister says “why can’t you just turn the light off once, it’s not hard”. But, I just CAN’T explain to her how I feel. And I am beginning to feel guilty to the point where I don’t want to take to anyone in my family about it, specifically my family and sisters. But, that only tends to make me more anxious, which means I have to do more compulsions to realease some of that anxiety. I am on meds and have been going to therapy for a while now, but nothing seems to be working. Does anyone know a good OCD specialist in Colorado Springs? Thanks for letting me share ?.
It feels like the only people who get it are people who struggle with it/ the people who help the ones struggling. Thank you for sharing <3
I will recommend the book When a family member has OCD, Jon Hershfield. That's a great one!
Thank you! I’ll have to get a copy.
Aww I understand the pain. I remember when I told my dad he told me "why do you keep checking,just do it once and done" have you tried actually properly discussing this topic with your family? If it's hard to explain show videos of OCD on youtube or what it is really like.
I did, I sent articles. I think I might of disturbed them more. I have pure O. And they have a really hard time understanding. I’m in therapy, trying meds and it’s still not getting better. My thoughts scare them, just as much if not more than they scare me.
I didn't tell my parent I had OCD despite I am at university now and my dad is a doctor but kept secret. .I thought that they would dissappointed about me if they knew
I totally get that. I really put a lot of effort into my everythings perfect persona. And I felt like I disappointed my dad when I revealed my “ocd” crazy. And I know I terrified my husband, and my mom who both battle anxiety. Their response has actually made my ocd worse.
I’m not sure if this is available to you, but many areas hold local support groups for OCD sufferers AND their families. Bringing them with you to one could help you all learn a little more about what’s going on and help them see how other families deal with this disorder. I’m so sorry your family is making you feel this way. As best you can, try to hold some compassion for them as well because deep down they are probably just scared that they can’t help you and that’s coming out as frustration.
Thank you, that’s great advice and something I should look into
I think your dad would understand. It took my dad a little while. But he’s now the only one who really helps me through it. My husband and mom need to take some pointers from him lol
Yeah. but I don't want to share some of my feelings especially I am mature I had a good therapist And I Am doing good at my studying. ...I like him he gave every thing I need ...that way every thing will be okay
I understand I have only shared a few specific examples to my husband and I think he never wants to ask for specifics again. It’s really hard to share I’ve been hiding it for 10+yrs.
Yeah.i don't want anyone to deal me as a unique that's make me feel better ...I want to get rid of this enemy when I was 15 ..tried different kinds of medicine as ssri and tricyclic antidepressants..and risperidone but it doesn't solve the root of sick . Now I am having annafranil with tegritol it is goog until now
Thanks ?
My family literally is always against me and doesn’t understand my ocd at all. They are all so stubborn and don’t make an effort to even empathize with me and always make me the bad guy. I’m just so tired of no one being on my side and my family saying all these derogatory things to me. Even if I make a small mistake, it is the end of the world for them and they all gang up and won’t speak to me properly for days as a result. 😔
I’m fairly new to treating my OCD and have felt crazy for most of my life. It didn’t help that no one in my life truly understood OCD and always said I was being dramatic. I very recently (within the past few months) finally got diagnosed with OCD and my whole life started to make sense. However, I recently opened up to someone I really believed I trusted about the intrusive thoughts I have and now feel worse than I ever have before. They essentially called me a psychopath and said they are worried for the people around me. Even though I would and could never hurt anyone. I’ve never felt more alone and broken in my life. I already try very hard to hide my OCD and everything associated with it because no one in my life understands so it’s been easier to deal with it myself than listen to everyone say whatever they have to say about my situation. After what happened today I’m even more inclined to just keep it to myself. I don’t know what I’m expecting from writing this but I figure this is the best place to write what I’m feeling. Going through OCD is hard enough on it’s own. But when people are telling you they think you’re a danger to society and are crazy because of your intrusive thoughts it really hurts. I’m just tired.
Yesterday I told my friend about my harm OCD, she is really good friend and understood everything, but it was my first time i talked about it loudly expect my family members, but I have kinda sad feeling after that, because i felt weak and I think that i am not longer same person as I was before my harm theme and they just don’t need this kind of friend. What about u? Are u talking about your OCD?
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