- Date posted
- 5y
- Date posted
- 5y
Yes, it is only temporary relief until the next thought.
- Date posted
- 5y
I used to feel the exact same way in a relationship I had I too would feel guilty if I thought some other guy was attractive. It’s important for you to know that finding somebody else attractive is natural and there is nothing wrong that. You can just straight up appreciate somebody’s beauty and that is all it is. If you haven’t already I think you should talk to a therapist because it could help you a lot.
- Date posted
- 5y
Yes.. I usually always confess and it makes things worse. When we have an intrusive thought it doesn't mean a thing. Thoughts come without you knowing how. When i confess i make small things that don't mean a thing look like a big problem and make things worse with my partner..making ocd worse and free to have another thought. By confessing i feel like i gey relief but only temporarily because one i confess a few hours later something else comes to mind. I could keep confessing my whole life when in reality i know i wouldn't do anything to hurt my partner
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 5y
Everyone has intrusive thoughts. I don't believe in confessing thoughts you cannot control. If you think a horrible thought, that you want and feel happy about and doesn't bother you, then by all means confess, but horrible thoughts that upset you, are not something you should feel guilt over. You cannot control your thoughts, all you can control is, your reaction. Let go of the thoughts you don't want, and ignore the guilt you don't deserve the guilt, and remember You cannot control the thoughts that come into your mind.... Throw away the ones you don't want and ignore the guilt. That's what the rest of the human race does that doesn't suffer from ocd.
- Date posted
- 5y
It’s about letting the thoughts be there and they will pass on there own it’s true that thoughts are just thoughts. You aren’t your thoughts and they do not define you.This book has helped me a lot with my intrusive thoughts. https://www.amazon.ca/Overcoming-Unwanted-Intrusive-Thoughts-Frightening/dp/1626254346/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?keywords=intrusive+thoughts&qid=1574737398&sprefix=intrusive&sr=8-1
- Date posted
- 5y
The thoughts are non violent or "dark." The types of thoughts I experience are more like feeling extremely guilty if a see an attractive female. I feel if I look then it means I have done something wrong or that finding other women attractive is wrong.
Related posts
- Date posted
- 21w
Last night I had a fucked up intrusive thought/urge about harming my partner and I'm spinning out today. I let them know I had an intrusive thought and was struggling with compulsions around it and future repercussions, but did not tell them exactly what the thought/urge was, which they accepted. Do y'all share details with your partners about harm ocd? How can we healthily ask for support from people we are having horrible thoughts about?
- Date posted
- 20w
I just got off my session today and after having a confession to my husband last night with a compulsion, he obviously is going to have more questions. My therapist says not to confess because I am growing my OCD . However, this is really OCD and is about something that actually happened. My husband said, that it sounds like I have someone in my life who is justifying withholding information or lying to him. Of course when I have my obsession compulsions, he makes sense. Can somebody help explain this to me? How is my husband not right or is he?
- Date posted
- 18w
Currently I have several different OCD fears that pop up throughout the week depending on the situation. I've noticed a commonality between all of them are the fears relating to memory/false memory. Today is the ROCD struggle I've been dealing with. I know OCD has been trying this on me lately because of how much I love my spouse. They are my absolute best friend and she's my world. I value our marriage and friendship more than anything. OCD has latched onto one specific female coworker. And I don't even know why because even if I were single I wouldn't be into her. Even still, OCD makes me think I've cheated on my wife every time I'm alone with this coworker at work. Always starts as a what if, followed by imagery, followed by feelings that I must've actually done something and can't remember it. Usually fearing I've kissed her. It hurts because I know I'd never do that to my wife and I love her so much...the idea of losing her kills me, especially if it were the result of something I did. Just wanted to vent. Feel free to share your experiences or vents as well
Be a part of the largest OCD Community
Share your thoughts so the Community can respond