Anyone have OCD where you have intrusive thoughts about your spouse and confessing them is the only way to get relief?

Yes, it is only temporary relief until the next thought.

I used to feel the exact same way in a relationship I had I too would feel guilty if I thought some other guy was attractive. It’s important for you to know that finding somebody else attractive is natural and there is nothing wrong that. You can just straight up appreciate somebody’s beauty and that is all it is. If you haven’t already I think you should talk to a therapist because it could help you a lot.

Yes.. I usually always confess and it makes things worse. When we have an intrusive thought it doesn't mean a thing. Thoughts come without you knowing how. When i confess i make small things that don't mean a thing look like a big problem and make things worse with my partner..making ocd worse and free to have another thought. By confessing i feel like i gey relief but only temporarily because one i confess a few hours later something else comes to mind. I could keep confessing my whole life when in reality i know i wouldn't do anything to hurt my partner

Everyone has intrusive thoughts. I don't believe in confessing thoughts you cannot control. If you think a horrible thought, that you want and feel happy about and doesn't bother you, then by all means confess, but horrible thoughts that upset you, are not something you should feel guilt over. You cannot control your thoughts, all you can control is, your reaction. Let go of the thoughts you don't want, and ignore the guilt you don't deserve the guilt, and remember You cannot control the thoughts that come into your mind.... Throw away the ones you don't want and ignore the guilt. That's what the rest of the human race does that doesn't suffer from ocd.

It’s about letting the thoughts be there and they will pass on there own it’s true that thoughts are just thoughts. You aren’t your thoughts and they do not define you.This book has helped me a lot with my intrusive thoughts. https://www.amazon.ca/Overcoming-Unwanted-Intrusive-Thoughts-Frightening/dp/1626254346/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?keywords=intrusive+thoughts&qid=1574737398&sprefix=intrusive&sr=8-1

The thoughts are non violent or "dark." The types of thoughts I experience are more like feeling extremely guilty if a see an attractive female. I feel if I look then it means I have done something wrong or that finding other women attractive is wrong.