Anyone have OCD where you have intrusive thoughts about your spouse and confessing them is the only way to get relief?

I can’t help but feel so anxious because of guilt. I feel guilty about not sharing everything about my OCD to my partner, but because I understand that confession itself is a compulsion and would not help anyone. I feel so anxious too that if all my fears come true and she finds out, then it would be so devastating for everyone especially her. Does anyone feel the same thing? How could I change my perspective on this?

Does anyone feel the urge to confess secrets even though they’re not yours to share? My husband told me about a traumatic event he had and trusts me to keep the secret. It has NOTHING to do with me at all. And my brain is making me feel like I need or want to tell someone. I want to be trustworthy and my brain is making me feel like I’m not because of this obsession. It’s so confusing because I know I don’t need to but I feel like I “want to” because of the OCD anxiety? And the feeling of wanting to makes me feel more anxious and like a terrible person. I have confessed literally everything to my mom about my thoughts so she’s my safe person. And I had an emotionally abusive dad (probably how I got OCD at a young age - like 8 years old) that has now passed away. So confiding in her even with intrusive thoughts and messed up shit was safe for me. Does my brain feel like I need to tell her just because she’s my safe person? I hate the feeling of me “wanting” to tell at all too and can’t tell if it’s real and it’s making me feel like a horrible person. I literally have no secrets myself. His mom knows and so do I. So I’m not the only one that knows. But why is my brain doing this? It’s spiraling me out and has been for a few days. But I want to keep the secret because it’s HIS and it doesn’t affect me in any way. I mean sure I feel bad for him - but it’s from his past before we even met? Someone please help me rationalize why I feel these things and why it’s so confusing to know if you actually “want” to do something or if it’s OCD? It’s causing a deep anxiety pit in my stomach and has been for days now.

Hello! I have been married for 7 years. I’ve struggled with all kinds of ocd in my life. Cheating ocd is something I struggled with early in my relationship with my wife, but was more geared towards obsessing over her cheating. Thankfully I have conquered that 💪 However, lately it has shifted towards ME cheating on her or crossing some kind of boundary. I always have to confess to her if I think I feel any type of attraction to another female. I’m working on it but struggle still time to time. The other day, I had an incident where I was walking down the hallway at work and noticed a cute girl. Idk how to describe it, but I became conscious of my wedding band and had a thought about this random person seeing my band and seeing I was married and I noticed my other finger was touching my wedding band almost like I was trying to hide I was married? It happened so quick and almost sub consciously. I know this might sound confusing but Now I’m worried I was trying to hide that I was married to this random stranger. Even though I had no intentions of talking to her or anything. I’m not even 100% sure I intended to hide my ring. I just might have had a thought about hiding it. Does anyone have any expertise with this or insight? Thanks so much for your time.