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- je94631
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Yes, it is only temporary relief until the next thought.
I used to feel the exact same way in a relationship I had I too would feel guilty if I thought some other guy was attractive. It’s important for you to know that finding somebody else attractive is natural and there is nothing wrong that. You can just straight up appreciate somebody’s beauty and that is all it is. If you haven’t already I think you should talk to a therapist because it could help you a lot.
Yes.. I usually always confess and it makes things worse. When we have an intrusive thought it doesn't mean a thing. Thoughts come without you knowing how. When i confess i make small things that don't mean a thing look like a big problem and make things worse with my partner..making ocd worse and free to have another thought. By confessing i feel like i gey relief but only temporarily because one i confess a few hours later something else comes to mind. I could keep confessing my whole life when in reality i know i wouldn't do anything to hurt my partner
Everyone has intrusive thoughts. I don't believe in confessing thoughts you cannot control. If you think a horrible thought, that you want and feel happy about and doesn't bother you, then by all means confess, but horrible thoughts that upset you, are not something you should feel guilt over. You cannot control your thoughts, all you can control is, your reaction. Let go of the thoughts you don't want, and ignore the guilt you don't deserve the guilt, and remember You cannot control the thoughts that come into your mind.... Throw away the ones you don't want and ignore the guilt. That's what the rest of the human race does that doesn't suffer from ocd.
It’s about letting the thoughts be there and they will pass on there own it’s true that thoughts are just thoughts. You aren’t your thoughts and they do not define you.This book has helped me a lot with my intrusive thoughts. https://www.amazon.ca/Overcoming-Unwanted-Intrusive-Thoughts-Frightening/dp/1626254346/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?keywords=intrusive+thoughts&qid=1574737398&sprefix=intrusive&sr=8-1
The thoughts are non violent or "dark." The types of thoughts I experience are more like feeling extremely guilty if a see an attractive female. I feel if I look then it means I have done something wrong or that finding other women attractive is wrong.
Anyone know anything about confession OCD that can tell me about it in a nutshell? I’ve always felt the need to tell everyone whatever is going on in my head and I feel guilty if I don’t. I would always tell on myself as a kid but not for the things I did wrong but instead for all the bad things in my head. Now I obsess over everything from my past and experience with other partners and have horrible guilt if I don’t tell my boyfriend absolutely everything that has ever happened or just things my mind gets stuck on. Only when he knows everything I can think of do I relax. Is this what confession OCD is? If not- does anyone else get the compulsion to get the truth out?
It feels like my mind scans for things for me to “confess” to my partner. Things that aren’t even important or necessary come into my mind and I feel so guilty about it and get super stressed and feel like the only way to get rid of that is to confess. I feel like it’s something I have to do. No matter how much I tell myself it’s something that doesn’t need to be said I still have to say it somehow. I don’t know if this is normal, but I just feel like my partner has to know everything. And this is causing arguments and making him upset. I don’t want to hurt my partner anymore as I can tell my OCD is really affecting him. If anyone has any advice that would be great!
i have recently had really bad confession ocd. i have an amazing happy healthy relationship, and i’m slowly destroying it. now, it’s come as far as me confessing thoughts that i probably shouldn’t be having to him. i feel so much guilt and anxiety if i don’t tell him, but telling him is just ruining our relationship and hurting him. i don’t mean these thoughts, i love him and want only him. i also confess at least 5+ times a day. I struggle with not even knowing if some things im confessing that i’ve done in the past are real or fake. it’s like i don’t know if what i did was real or not. im trying my best to stop confessing, but it’s hard because how am i supposed to know if it’s something he really needs to know or not? i don’t wanna lose him by telling him stupid stuff i should have kept to myself. he’s my dream person. it’s hard to act normal around him when i’m having the urge to confess. that leads me to not hold it in when he asks if i’m okay, because then if i say yes i’m lying so then i have to confess. we are very open about things, but it just has gone too far on my end. if anyone has any tips on how to overcome this please share.
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