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- 5y
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- 5y
Yes, it is only temporary relief until the next thought.
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- 5y
I used to feel the exact same way in a relationship I had I too would feel guilty if I thought some other guy was attractive. It’s important for you to know that finding somebody else attractive is natural and there is nothing wrong that. You can just straight up appreciate somebody’s beauty and that is all it is. If you haven’t already I think you should talk to a therapist because it could help you a lot.
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Yes.. I usually always confess and it makes things worse. When we have an intrusive thought it doesn't mean a thing. Thoughts come without you knowing how. When i confess i make small things that don't mean a thing look like a big problem and make things worse with my partner..making ocd worse and free to have another thought. By confessing i feel like i gey relief but only temporarily because one i confess a few hours later something else comes to mind. I could keep confessing my whole life when in reality i know i wouldn't do anything to hurt my partner
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- OCD Conqueror
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- 5y
Everyone has intrusive thoughts. I don't believe in confessing thoughts you cannot control. If you think a horrible thought, that you want and feel happy about and doesn't bother you, then by all means confess, but horrible thoughts that upset you, are not something you should feel guilt over. You cannot control your thoughts, all you can control is, your reaction. Let go of the thoughts you don't want, and ignore the guilt you don't deserve the guilt, and remember You cannot control the thoughts that come into your mind.... Throw away the ones you don't want and ignore the guilt. That's what the rest of the human race does that doesn't suffer from ocd.
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- 5y
It’s about letting the thoughts be there and they will pass on there own it’s true that thoughts are just thoughts. You aren’t your thoughts and they do not define you.This book has helped me a lot with my intrusive thoughts. https://www.amazon.ca/Overcoming-Unwanted-Intrusive-Thoughts-Frightening/dp/1626254346/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?keywords=intrusive+thoughts&qid=1574737398&sprefix=intrusive&sr=8-1
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- 5y
The thoughts are non violent or "dark." The types of thoughts I experience are more like feeling extremely guilty if a see an attractive female. I feel if I look then it means I have done something wrong or that finding other women attractive is wrong.
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- 25w
This is my first post & I’m terrified. I have not been officially diagnosed w ocd yet but in a nutshell - I confessed some things I felt guilty about to my husband about five months ago. ( nothing too major ) but in our past, 20+ years ago I was unfaithful and it caused a LOT of harm, which I told him all of that back when it happened. But in recent months, I started getting consumed by guilt. I couldnt eat or sleep until I finally broke one night and told him all these recent little things I felt guilty about. Acting flirty, etc. And for him it like brought back allll the trauma from 20 years ago which I didn’t know would happen. But it’s so bad. He says he wishes I never told him. But even w that, I still feel like I keep thinking of “new things “ I did in the past, thoughts I had or dreams, or conversation w an ex,things like that. Because I am a Christian I also keep feeling like it’s the Holy Spirit telling me I haven’t told him everything and I need to. But I also know God doesn’t give us a spirit of fear .. I clearly need help, but I also want Christian based help so that it’s in line w what I believe ? I can’t eat and my anxiety is so bad again - I know if I confess more things it will keep destroying him, I don’t think he really understands or believes I have ocd. Thanks if you made it this far
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- 20w
I was having intimacy. Watching p0rn. And during climax i got intrusive thoughts a d anxious. I hate when this happens. As a compulsion whenever i get intrusive ocd thoughts i usually think of my wife or therapist (whose a man) and say their name. For my wife its because shes the love of my life. My comfort. And during intimacy of course to arouse over her. When i think of my therapist its not anything sexual its just like a comforting thought since hes the one that is helping me thru ocd. But now ocd is saying why did i think lf him during climax. And in my head i heard my voicr saying his name but this was my way of distracting myself from the intrusive thoughts. It wasnt to arouse myself over him it was tk distract myself and it wasnt a compulsion. Ocd tries associating it with my sexual experience and its making me feel very guilty and anxious. Then i worry was i saying his name. I did in my head but it wasnt again a compulsion tk distract from ocd. Then that made me anxious so i said my wifes name and thougjt kf her. I just had intrusive thought so i panicked and out of compulsive habit i usual say thr name of my wifr and therapist
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- 16w
I was watching porn years ago and i have intrusive associative thoughts. Ocd says the person in the videi resembles my relative or my wifes. I had this intrysive thoughts and then ocd says since it reminded me of her relatives what if i was arousing over them. Im nit attracted to them and its ego dystonic. Ocd says if i dud thats betrayal to my spouse. Ive confessed about this so many times and did last night. Then this morning ocd says i didbt confess last night when i did ir kt wasnt good enough or thus detail means i couldve or i need to confess this detail. I was doing fibe this year snd this intrusive memiry and what if just hit me yesterday and ive been ruminating abd feeling guikt and unworthy of my spouse. Please help
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