Idontknow

Date posted: Yesterday

Upset

Upset because a girl I met probably thinks I’m a p because she told me about this job and it involves with kids and I told her that “I can’t work with kids because I get triggered” and she said “ohh 😥” I said “OCD” she said “it’s OK I understand” and now I feel like she thinks that I’m a terrible person or she thinks I’m a p because I cannot fake it even if I need a job I don’t think it’s worth my mental health me going every day at home thinking if I did something to a kid, I would literally lose my mind.

User type: Therapist

Date posted: Yesterday

There seems to be a lot of certainty statements here, which only feeds the OCD and makes it strong. There is literally no way of knowing how other people think and feel about you. We can never find certainty regarding this and will only drive yourself crazy in the process. Further, I would argue avoiding children is actually hurting your mental health in the long run. This reinforces that there is something to fear and only driving the OCD to get stronger. Avoidance sustains OCD. Systematically exposing yourself to the things you are avoiding is how you are able to challenge OCD and take back your life from fear.

Idontknow

Date posted: Yesterday

@Morgan Byler I also asked for her reassurance “you don’t think I’m a terrible person, right?” she has not replied and I feel like now she thinks I’m a horrible person

Love1another<3

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 23h

@Idontknow Btw is it someone you met in real life or someone who understands OCD? If not, I would use extra caution with reassurance-seeking as it’s gonna become more tempting for you to vent to the girl you met about your POCD theme and POCD is not the best conversation starter with a stranger outside the Ocd community haha 😅 She’ll be confused as she likely doesn’t know what POCD is. It’s best to try not to seek reassurance from her about that particular topic

Idontknow

Date posted: 21h

@Love1another<3 I met her a few years ago but I just said ocd instead of Pocd

User type: Therapist

Date posted: 20h

@Idontknow - You have literally now way of knowing why she has not responded to the question. There is the possibility that she thinks you are a horrible person, which may or may not be true since who decides what determines a horrible person, and has not responded. She may have gotten caught up in something and didn't respond. She may not know how to respond to the comment. There is literally no way of know why she had not responded. Your attempts to figure it out and find certainty on the matter will only further contribute to your life being unmanageable.

Love1another<3

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 20h

@Idontknow Ohhh okay! Sorry I thought it was someone you met a few days ago lol 😄

Idontknow

Date posted: 19h

@Love1another<3 No 😞

Idontknow

Date posted: 17h

@Love1another<3 I need help please Why do I feel like showing my brother my body in tight clothes? Like I was trying on clothes and it’s like I actually want to show him when I’m wearing tight clothes or I don’t care if he sees my body

Love1another<3

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 17h

@Idontknow No problem! Thanks for reaching out :) I’ll respond to this on your other post 👍

Idontknow

Date posted: 10h

@Morgan Byler Thank you! 🙏🏻

Love1another<3

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: Yesterday

I think it's important to be mindful of language: For example, your Ocd wants you to say "I CAN'T work with kids because I get triggered." But in reality, it's "I WON'T work with kids because I get triggered." With Ocd we still are able to make choices. We have the ability to live normal lives like everyone else :) It's only that we choose not to do certain things- out of fear.

Idontknow

Date posted: Yesterday

@Love1another<3 Thank you!

emmagracee

Date posted: 19w

Hi! Urgent!

Hey, so I have POCD. I’m a teenager and can’t get a job. I want to make money by babysitting, but I’m scared. I don’t want to hurt any children and I want to be safe.

Givenup

Date posted: 15w

Pocd and gut feelimg

Ive vented a lot to a lot of people in the PM's about my OCD... some of them younger (minors)... because I wanted reassurance from everyone and anyone... but this situation triggers me the most because I was venting about my 18+ HOCD situations... In an HOCD support group I was in, I vented to 2 minors about my 18+ HOCD situations... The leader of the support group (that i vented to) was 17... I was 19 at the time... the other minor i vented to was younger (14-15)... the younger one told me she was uncomfortable when i vented to her in the PM's twice... i stopped and blocked her after she told me the second time... i kept asking the leader of the support group for reassurance for my 18+ HOCD situations for months because she kept giving me reassurance... i thought she was cute but didnt pursue her because of my age... i dont ever want to ever be a P or a MAP or a groomer in any way... I keep getting this gut feeling in my stomach that i "flirted" with the younger one that I vented to, who i blocked after she told me twice she was uncomfortable about me venting about my 18+ hocd situations... i didnt ever vent to them for malicious intent... I was trying to get reassurance for my hocd... Plus my pocd keeps saying I cant have any opinions online because of my pocd and real events ocd situations and that Im not a good person so I cant say anything online... Also i keep getting intrusive thoughts of people labelling me as a P and a MAP in the future because of these pocd real events... And i keep getting intrusive thoughts of being outcasted and "cancelled" online when someone "exposes" me for my POCD and real events OCD...

emma345

Date posted: 9w

I beg someone help

17f I work at the restaurant as a cleaner, pot washer and a kitchen assistant. My job already made me freak out a bunch of times because couple times while cleaning I was kinda near children and my POCD is very severe just being around children makes me anxious and later I sometimes have false memory ocd that I touched the children even though I didn't And my boss said that in July I will probably be promoted to a waitress. And I'm terrified. It's a busy family restaurant in a city center and people constantly come here with little children. It's one thing to work in the kitchen and cleaning during closing shift, I still see children sometimes but I can avoid accidental physical contact for example. But as a waitress it will be hell on earth. I will need to walk between tables outside where children are constantly running around and if I have stuff in my hands I won't be able to move so fast to avoid touching them I need this job so much and its hard to get a job as a minor here but this will fucking ruin me. I can already see how I will have a mental breakdown because I accidentally touched the child while working and convinced myself I did it on purpose.

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