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He’s afraid of triggering you! Talk to him about it! With me it’s the opposite it’s killed my libido, mostly. I’ve tried and it’s too weird for me. And I just can’t get into it. I’ll laugh cry or pretend, and not about that.

It sounds like you and your boyfriend both care a lot about each other, which is amazing. 💙 I get why he’s being cautious, but avoiding intimacy completely might actually make OCD stronger. If you feel ready, you can explain to him that intimacy could also be part of your exposure practice — it doesn’t have to be “perfect” or free of anxiety. Maybe you could agree to start small: cuddling, kissing, or just being close without pressure. Then slowly increase as you feel safer. This way he knows he’s not “hurting you,” and you get the chance to face the fears step by step. Most importantly, remind yourself: his hesitation isn’t rejection, it’s worry. And your desire to keep intimacy alive is valid too. With communication and gradual exposure, you’ll find a balance.