It’s ruining my relationship with family

My contamination ocd is ruining my relationship with my family and im not sure what to do. I don’t really have a type of contamination ocd that like it afraid of getting sick and dying it’s more like emotional. So if the tee shirt feels “wrong” and “dirty” then I have to perform a compulsion. My father is also a big part of it. Everything he touches is dirty to me because of the negative emotional connection I have with him. So if he touches a tee shirt that’s mine it’s dirty. It’s making my parents do a lot of laundry, and they don’t let me wash my own laundry bc our machine is complicated and also because I can’t touch dirty clothes after or I will feel really dirty. But it’s getting really bad that my mom is yelling at me for using cleaning sprays and getting mad at me for being having to redo things cause they don’t feel right and having to wash my hands. Same with my dad, he makes fun of me and calls me names that upsets me which only makes my emotional contamination worse. I don’t know what to do. I went to therapy for almost a year now about this and nothing has worked and recently my therapist had recommended that I start meds so I went to the doctor and he prescribed me for lexapro bc I also have depression but my parents are against any meds idk what to do anymore and I feel really helpless

WendyB

Date posted: 2d

First of all, your parents really need to be supportive. You really can’t do this without a good support system so go to therapy and get them involved. Or, if that is not a possibility, you need to find support in friends, extended family, therapist, etc. Medication could really help and probably should be at least considered but if you are a minor then your therapist will need to talk to your parents about this.

MyGenderIsForg

Date posted: 2d

That’s really unfair. I’m sorry you’re going through that! My parents used to make fun of me for my ocd behaviors like tapping my fingers and other stuff. My support is limited too but I’ve been looking into free online support groups and meetings. There are a lot of them!

karmad

Date posted: Yesterday

My partner has this exact type of conamination ocd. It’s not germs. What her is we are working out is this A transference of an emotional experience into items. Her dad was a real bad person. He touched her PlayStation once. Guess what she can’t touch it now It could be wiped and cleaned yet that doesn’t work. Why? Because the item has become a o item that represent him. So the PlayStation is a step in for his presence. She lives with me. Has 9 months now. No contact. It’s persisted. So we have to learn to doubt what the ocd tells us because It’s amplified and taken something which is very valid to us and feelings and then puts them into items Her PlayStation is electronics and plastic. It’s not him. It’s not. Even if he licked it it’s not him. Her controller was the same I wasn’t allowed to touch it Just yesterday she didn’t have to wash 3 times then santise to touch it. She washed her hands once and just picked it up I got her to use mine for a week. Just picked it up and use no ritual. We spoke over and over how it’s a piece of plastic. There no Aura. We can clean it physically and let it just be an item We discuss how much the ocd robs her from doing things The she just picks up the controller. I asked her what ran thru her head. She said I’m over it. She was over all the worry all the stopping from doing things not wanting to do the ritual and she washed over over the ritual. We work on it being a bully. It’s a bully ocd. Telling you lies twisting things over and over. It’s hard you’re on the environment. My partner is young and been thru hell. But over a few months we are seeing changes. It’s never hopeless

bun <3

Date posted: 24w

everything around me feels contaminated :((

sorry this is super long i just wanna know if anyone else has been thru something similar bc i feel super alone 🩷 i have super bad contamination ocd. it was bad already but my house was like my safe space until a few months ago someone brought something into my house that i considered ‘contaminated’. and so then i felt like that part of the house was contaminated, then it spread to everything outside my room (since family is moving around touching stuff) and then somehow i got convinced everything in my room except my bed is contaminated and i need to wash my hands after touching it. in my mind its like the contamination just infinitely spreads to things after the tiniest bit of touch. idek what im afraid of anymore or even what the original thing was but i can’t let it go. when i have to wash off contamination i have to wash at least 4 times or until it feels right, or sometimes take rlly long showers and wipe down all my stuff. i even throw away food and clothes or just whole items sometimes because they feel so contaminated i don’t want them in my space. i can’t be super near people or have anyone touch me, and i also can’t bring anything new into my room since it had to go through the entry of my house which feels contaminated. i feel like all i do is lay in bed and then wash my hands and do compulsions so i can go eat or do other stuff around the house. also i never go out because i’m bc people outside make me feel dirty, and i hate thinking about how many people have touched stuff in stores or in public and stuff. so im just in my room worrying all day. i feel so trapped and the contamination/avoiding it is all i think about anymore i barely have time for anything else and im never present when i talk to people because im worrying about if i accidentally got contaminated. im starting erp next week and knowing that im going to have to expose myself to things is really freaking me out. does anyone else have this kind of ocd ? im exhaustedddd 🥲🥲💔

Contamination OCD

avantika 🪻

Date posted: 21w

feeling misunderstood

Having ocd is so incredibly exhausting and depressing- my mom and dad argued with me for over an hour talking about how im a pain to be around, go in too many loops, and ruin everything and everyones mood… this conversation started with me saying im stressed out because of school and that i dont want to go because im exhausted- and idk if this is like ocd directly but it takes me like 2 hours to get ready in the morning because i need to look PERFECT and the same everyday literally 😭 and that process feels so exhausting every morning at 6am but i will NOT go to school without going through with it- i will literally be crying and shaking and wanting to go home the minute i get to school if even a single strand of my hair is not perfectly straightened or any blemishes or flaws are showing- and i cant even walk to school or anything bc im scared the humidity will mess with my hair and everything- and it just really affects my life? And yeah its freaking exhausting. And i have two more years of highschool and I dont know if im going to make it 😭i get super stressed over grades too because i need them to be extraordinary otherwise its a fail. Nothing below 95%. And thats also tiring! 😁 and my mom told me today “medication IS NOTTTT AND OPTION!!!” Like oh okay so im just cooked 😭 and therapy isnt really helping me at all- i feel like what im being told is so basic and generic and it doesn’t help me when im in a huge ocd episode- which is often… and what i hate most is like my mom says “don’t come to me with your problems after 6pm…” im sorry i cant schedule my feelings 😭 im so tired

Anonymous

Date posted: 19w

PLEASE HELP!?? ADVICE NEEDED⭐❌⚠

Okay so my parents don't really handle my ocd that well. For starters my contamination is getting worse (I'm 14) and keep exisivly washing my hands, or using toilet roll which is unfortunately really common. Now they are getting angry at me for using too much toilet roll... What do I do? There saying I'm ruining there lifes because of my ocd. I'm making there lifes miserable. And they don't COMMUNICATE or sit down with me and look me in the eyes and try sort it out WITH ME. they just go "STOP USING SO, MUCH TOILET ROLL" "you've broke another headset" "WE ARE ALLOWED TO BE PISSED AT YOU" and I'm getting self harm urges because there making me out to be such a bad person. Which obviously doesn't mix well with ocd.

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