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do you know what is unsent project app? im stressing because i saw a tik tok about it and i remembered that i sent one anonymous post dedicated to my past failed talking staged which ended two months before i got with my boyfriend. now im stressing that i sent it while i was already with my boyfriend and that it was something like i wait for you i miss you. im not sure about this i dont know if its a fake memory. i was so stressed i started going through this site searching for my post but everything is similar to each other and there are so many i couldnt find it and everything looked like i could have sent it and i was looking at the dates of the posts wnd im really scared and stressed should i tell my boyfriend? if it really happend then is it something terrible? i feel so bad i dont know what to do qnd its worse that i cant remember it clearly. i also have a problem with confessing things, my thoughts, old things and situations etc.

mileskubicki

Date posted: 2d

Just because your brain comes up with something that could have happened doesn’t mean it’s true. That’s what your brain is evolved to do - present you with problems to solve. It’s your job to decide what is and what is not worth dealing with. You won’t ever be able to be certain that you didn’t do what you’re afraid you did. But you CAN decide that you’re overthinking it and move on even without “solving” the problem (aka getting certainty)

varen

Date posted: Yesterday

thank you. do you think that its something important or thats just ocd?

mileskubicki

Date posted: Yesterday

@varen Who knows. Don’t give it thought. See how your anxiety has moved on to that question now?

varen

Date posted: Yesterday

@mileskubicki yes and i also started stressing about other things

CarmenOlivia

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2d

Hey! You have to accept that you won't find out if or when exactly you posted it. Try to resist the checking, ruminating and the urge to confess, these are compulsions OCD wants you to do. Whats the core fear behind it? I personally fear that I'm a bad partner. You might suffer with the same core fear. We have to accept that we are not perfect, we make mistakes and we might be bad partners. Accept the uncertainty and if you can expose yourself to the fear that stands behind your compulsions. For example by writing down the worst possible outcome you are fearing, reading it over and over trying not to do compulsions. For the urge to confess, my therapist recommend to delay it: "I won't confess now, if I still think about it in in hour/in five hours/tomorrow I can still tell him." And if you still feel the urge to confess then, do it again. Probably works too with the checking. I hope this helps. Sending strength your way 💫

varen

Date posted: Yesterday

thank you i should have not check in the first place because it made me so much more stressed. my fear behind it is that its something big since in the beginning of my relationship i was still not fully over of what past person did to me and now that im over it i feel bad that i was doing stuff like this while i was already with my boyfriend. my fear is also that these past mistakes are really big and bad and that im a bad person and that i really hurt my boyfriend, or that he might break up with me because of all of this? im also really scared that i dont love him right because of my mistakes and my past really hunts me.

Anonymous

Date posted: 2d

you’re ok. it’s not a huge deal you’re mind is just trying to stress you. you can talk to your bf about it but it’s really not a detrimental thing to your relationship

varen

Date posted: Yesterday

thank you, i started thinking about it again and im stressing again. i told him that i remembered something from the past and he told me not to tell him but im stressing that its something big that he should know

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