- Username
- mmartinez015
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Hey there! Yes, I have two kiddos and they are fantastic. I also suffer from HOCD, but things morphed into POCD. Not fun. It’s hard, but you can absolutely have kids. You are not a threat to them and it’s sort of common to have this theme when you have children. But, it’s also something you can work toward eliminating via working toward understanding the thoughts are bs. I get hit sometimes, but I can let it go - most of the time. OCD is hard, but please try to not let it run your life.
Your message gave me so much hope thank you
My POCD started my senior year of high school and my HOCD started in 8th grade. I’ve always been curious to hear the stories of people who have felt how I’ve felt. I worry that I won’t be able to marry or have children because of my ocd
Too, OCD has a tendency to target anthing you cherish - job, sanity, life, relationships, sexuality, kids, family, etc. It really rips into these things. For instance, my OCD will often morph into my relationships, job, etc when it has the opportunity. It’s frustrating as hell, but we can all get through this together.
If you don’t mind me asking how did HOCD affect you on a day to day basis with your wife and friends also did you stare a lot at other men especially there crotch’s and butts cause I have HOCD and I feel like I’m in denial a lot or that since I’m looking it means that I’m gay and it really bothers me
Hi Sean01 - yes, it will definitely take that approach - the staring. Totally normal activity within a totally insane disorder. Not saying we are insane, but the disorder is maddening :). You just have to remember that when the OCD is very active that this can happen. I just try to understand that then focus on the present moment and what I am doing. It’s not always easy, but gets better with time. I wish you all the best. Just keep trying to understand how this disorder works and try not to care. Very very difficult I know. You hang in there!
Thank you I’m trying I’ve gotten better the first few months where by far the worst but seeing a therapist and trying to remember that it is ocd and not something else helps just gets the better of me
I was diagnosed with OCD right after the birth of my son. Since then, I have had another child and am pregnant with my third. My kids give me a reason to fight this beast called OCD. Medication was a real game changer for me; I don’t know where I would be without it. Also, taking care of kids 24/7 is a great way to face your fears head on. OCD will not stand in the way of me living my life! Prayers for you.
I hear ya! It is very difficult and I am finally learning that this disorder takes a lot of patience. More than I ever thought. So, try the one day at a time approach too. It can certainly help with the tough days.
Do you ever struggle with feeling like an evil person- that's what holds me back so much in being in the moment
Following. Would really like to have kids of my own one day but my biggest reads take ahold of me. I'm too anxious
Does anyone with POCD have children? I want to have children in the future, but the idea of it really scares me because of my fears. Something I have been learning in therapy is not to make fear-based decisions. So it’s definitely something I want to do, but I just wanna know some of your experiences with this.
Are there any moms out there who are struggling with pocd? I wanted a child my whole life since I was a little girl but pocd is ruining everything. Can anyone share their story?
i haven’t been diagnosed w/ ocd but my therapist says i have like symptoms of it but i recently just stared dealing w/ Pocd (hell) that my therapist says was triggered from the sound of freedom which absolutely breaks my heart bc i was so excited to support the movie but now i feel like it’s one of my biggest regrets. i feel as if i would’ve never watched the movie i would’ve possibly never started dealing w/ this. But my biggest scare now w/ this is having my own kids . i’m F18 and throughout my whole teenhood my biggest goal and dream was to become a mother a GOOD mother. everything i tried doing was motivated by the thoughts of giving my kids the absolute best one day. Now i feel like it’s my biggest fear w/ dealing w/ this and i don’t know how i’d even explain to someone like my bf for example, of the reason why i don’t want to have kids anymore ( though i still really do but i just literally feel like can’t because of this 💔💔) are there any mothers out there w/ Pocd w/ kids out here? how do you cope w/ this? should i even have kids?? i also feel as if it kinda bad rn. i was doing good for a couple weeks and last night it just rushed back for no reason. i’ve learned what groinal responses are ( it absolutely scared the shit out of me before i found out what it was and i was just not okay and sort still am not when it happens. it just feel too real and i end up sobbing god i hate this ) and i feel as if i’m constantly body checking myself especially when i see a cute baby or children tiktok i love babies n kids id never wanna hurt them in such away i rather pass away. i just can’t believe why this this happening i used to be so much more happier before this and i really don’t know how to deal w/ this and what i should do😖💔💔
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