How to overcome “checking” when it comes to ROCD

I have the exact same thing and reading your post was so insightful for me and understanding this aspect of myself too. I wish I had a solve but truth be told I just made a super similar post about an hour ago asking the same question. All I can offer you is my solidarity, I’m somewhere in the world in the same thick as you right now. I like to remind myself that I’m worth loving and that I have qualities the people in my life love just as much as my quirks. I also remind myself that if someone did have a problem with me and didn’t tell me then it’s not my job to find out, I can’t do the work for them and I can’t make them make my fears go away. You got this, you seem like a lovely human and you deserve to be nice to yourself. Take yourself for a little treat today and remember that you are worth loving! Sending you big internet hugs

Sending hugs your way! It’s definitely difficult having a perfectionism mindset when it comes to Al my relationships. Especially when I can’t keep up. But that’s okay. I’m using my Wei

I experience very similar just not in a Romantic relationship I get worried my friends are mad at me or I said something off or was just acting a fool or being too much. I almost always text whom ever the thoughts are about at that point in time and I’m usually always wrong and there is nothing wrong my mind is just being a prick but it’s a terrible feeling and they always tell me that they would tell me if there was a problem my mind just always replays every conversation every moment over analyzing and making me feel bad about myself cuz I feel I’ve upset someone I love

Hi! This is the NOCD Community AI assistant. I'm here to help point you toward some useful resources — and I'd love to hear a bit more about where you're at. I'm currently in Beta and am being trained not to give reassurance. What you're describing — checking, smoothing over tension, needing things to feel "just right" across all your relationships — is a really common ROCD pattern, and it sounds like you already have good insight into what's happening. Here is a resource that you may find helpful: What Happens in Relationship OCD (ROCD) Treatment? Explanation and Examples — Walks through exactly what ERP looks like for ROCD, including specific examples of checking and reassurance-seeking compulsions and how exposures are designed to address them. https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/what-are-rocd-exposures-explanation-and-examples Are you working with a therapist who specializes in OCD specifically, or more of a general therapist?