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- Anonymous
- Date posted
- 4y ago
What people mean when they "know but they didn't know" regarding sexuality is that they pushed themselves into an identity simply to fit in, but they knew that they were pushing themselves and struggling. With LGBT people, the only thing keeping them in the closet is social stigma. Unless you feel a kathunk in your heart and melt around a pretty girl and think about her on top of you, you're not gay. It's as simple as that. And if you are, it doesn't make a difference really. You can still be in a relationship with who you want.
Must’ve been bi then
Ughhh I hate HOCD
Are you worried you might be possibly gay? First off, there's nothing wrong with you if you are, and it's perfectly normal. My weird journey with sexuality caused me lots of grief since I was thoroughly obsessed with the idea that I might be possibly gay or straight. And it turned out, I was neither. And once I relaxed myself and gave myself the reassurance that it's okay to express my sexuality on an individual basis rather than a wide swath basis, it stopped being an issue for me. And I was finally able to let myself be, and I came to the conclusion that I was pansexual. Bisexual was a term I heard as a kid, and I didn't particularly identify with it because I thought it was something edgy people put on their MySpace profiles. And even if you are bisexual or pansexual, just think about it this way. You have a lot more people to pick from in being actually interested, and you can chuck out the bad apples.
I have HOCD so it’s a sub type of ocd where u fear of being a sexuality u do not identify with so I’m constantly checking and figuring out if I am I have real event ocd too that doesn’t help and I’m Scared my past means I am
I like woman a lot but the devil says I’m gay but I am attracted to woman and I am a man
i’m watching a youtube video on being bisexual and i’m freaking out omg. this is giving me so much anxiety. she’s saying stuff like “yea i never wanted to kiss a girl or have a relationship with a girl; i just always thought they were pretty” , “for all my life i was attracted to guys and always wanted a boyfriend” and stuff like that. i’m freaking out so much because it sounds A LOT like me. i’ve never seen a girl in that way until my HOCD hit and i’ve ALWAYS loved guys from the time i was little. now i’m doubting everything again. so many things are going on in my mind rn and i’m so confused
Just did a big exposure and watched a lot of “ I thought I was straight until x” videos of women in hetero relationships realizing they were lesbians in their 20s and 30s and I’m so scared and uncertain. I feel like I would actually be insane to have made up all the feelings I have felt for men consistently over the years, and I’m simultaneously afraid I’m bi and just don’t know/can’t figure it out. Today is hard and a day when I feel like I don’t have ocd and I might just be lying.
Yk how people always say that you would know since childhood or early teen years what your sexuality was even if you didn’t acknowledge or question it? That truly scares me because now I’m question did I secretly know I was bi or gay and just didn’t pay attention to those moments? Was I attracted to men without realizing it ? Did I just push it aside and focused on woman? I’m so lost because for all my life I’ve considered myself straight but now it feels like I’ve been having short moments in my life that I knew I was something besides that. I truly don’t know if this is ocd convincing me or if I’m just to deep in denial to admit it. I’m so lost and feel so alone.
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