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You're definitely not a P! Do you have a therapist or a doctor you can talk to about this to help you challenge the thoughts?
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I just restarted therapy... (I had to change therapists because of money) but they aren't ocd specialists (I don't have one in my country)... I'm so afraid that what I felt was attraction! I want to cry... I don't know how to distinguish between the false and real one...
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Hey, your not alone. I felt the same way when the thoughts came around. And I mean exactly the same. Everything your saying I and alot of these people have bben through. Your in no way alone. I agree with Ree9 and I think you should talk to someone (a therapist) just to help with getting it off your chest and finding ways of being reasonable with yourself. Your not a "P". And all your worry and shame over this proves you have good intentions. I can tell you I thought it would never go, but it gets better and the right help for you is there to take advantage of. It's all a process. Head up. You got this.
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Now I'm worried because, since I played with her and actually touched her (while giving piggyback rides), that I gave in to my "attraction" and performed predatory acts... Instead, I should had avoided her
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The false memories are such an annoyance. It's sounds like it will never happen. But you have to try to let it go. The fact that you can't remember and are creating these scenarios is ocd. Your worrying about somthing you may or may not have done, and if you actually did it I'm pretty sure you would remember it clearly. But you don't remember what went through your head. I've had that exact problem too. It's tough but I had to let things go cuz I was losing sleep, not eating, over somthing that I know I didn't do but I couldn't trust myself because my own head told me I could've done somthing else. And it went through alot of phases. All for knowing I'm a good person and never did anything. Your a good person with good intentions. Your mind just messes with that very fact. If it was a thought of. What if I accidentally stepped on this little girl's foot. You know she's fine so you can forget it easily. But because you know it's wrong to do what you think you mightve done the thought will catch your attention and make you feel shame and wonder if your capable of all this
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@thoughtstroubledmind @thoughtstroubledmind We all always assume the worst it's a process. I'm here for you so is everyone on this app. We all want to see you get better and take this mental thing down. Please see a therapist. Suicide is never an option. There is so much help out there for you. Even on this app if you feel the need hit the SOS or call a ocd line. I was in your very spot. You can do this. Your stronger than you think. As I have proved to myself. I'm here to talk. You got this
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@Reptarrox Thank you so much...
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@thoughtstroubledmind Please reach out if you ever feel like this. There is help for you and you can a will beat this
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@Reptarrox I will. Thank you.
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Dear writer, please see the email from NOCD resulting from any self harm or suicidal message. Please know NOCD understands the pain you are in, the email has referrals and important, helpful information. Please reach out to your support persons, dial 911 or go to the nearest emergency room if you feel suicidal or near any type of self harm. NOCD cares about your safety.
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OCD has mainly two weapons- doubt and guilt. The guilt you're facing is in itself a doubt. I know you can't just remove it. Know that whatever you choose to do isn't always right or wrong. You had this thing in your mind when you didn't avoid her. When you're unsure what is right or wrong, don't listen to you feelings because they themselves are stuck in this cycle. Use logic to help you out. Example:- I don't have any proof that I touched her badly. I didn't avoid her that doesn't mean I like her. I liked her but that doesn't mean as a "p", it was just feelings of kindness and cuteness.
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- 25w
17f I was taking a bus and there was a group of children taking it too, like a kindergarten group. I tried to find a place where I thought children are not going to sit but one sat next to me anyway And the thing is that when I need to pee I become a bit physically aroused? Idk I've googled it and it's not that uncommon. Also the vibration from the bus gives me a bit of a groinal response yk since I sit on a seat which vibrates I mean I wasn't even really aroused that much it was a light sensation which was easy to ignore because I was on my phone But im scared I'm like a predator or something cause I didn't leave the bus immediately and had a groinal response when the kid was next to me I dont worry that it was the kid who was the reason of it (I mean not yet maybe I will freak out about it later) I'm just scared it's not appropriate to feel something like that while im next to a child even if he is not the reason of it But I tried to just ignore it and thought that I'm probably being dramatic After couple stops I got too anxious and got off the bus to wait to the next one which I hoped is not going to be full of kids But I'm scared that I'm a bad person and a sexual predator cause I didn't leave immediately after I had this thoughts While writing this post I got on another bus and sat at a seat but there js a child on the bus too not next to me but still not that far from me but I'm scared because of social anxiety people will look at me weirdly if I randomly change seats after I already sat but at the same time what if I'm being a pervert Like I don't even see the kid and stuff but still I'm scared am I a pervert or something Like is it predatory to be aroused near a child? Like the child is not the reason of it, u just are, and I wadnt purposely making myself aroused I just couldn't really help it But maybe I should've left the bus immediately? I mean I did but only after a couple stops because I thought that maybe is not that much of a big deal and I'm being dramatic
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- 19w
𝕊𝕔𝕒𝕣𝕪 𝕚𝕟𝕔𝕚𝕕𝕖𝕟𝕥 😞𝕋𝕎𝕋𝕎𝕋𝕎 ℙ𝕃𝔼𝔸𝕊𝔼 𝔻𝕆ℕ'𝕋 ℝ𝔼𝔸𝔻 𝕀𝔽 𝔼𝔸𝕊𝕀𝕃𝕐 𝔻𝕀𝕊𝕋𝕌ℝ𝔹𝔼𝔻 𝔹𝕐 𝕋ℍ𝔼𝕄𝔼𝕊 𝕎𝕀𝕋ℍ 𝕂𝕀𝔻𝕊 hi everyone, I am really struggling with something disturbing and I'm so afraid I'm a PDF. So my sis came to visit with my nephew for the first time. So the other day we were taking pics with the baby I was already feeling kinda nervous cuz I never held a baby before. Anyway it was my turn and I like I wonder if this would sexually stimulate him( not exactly the thought but the of thought was more graphic and I don't wanna disturb anyone). And I can't remember if I thought that while I was bumping him on my stomach (like how people bump babies on their hips) or before I started doing so. Anyways I can't really remember what my reaction to that thought was or if I started bumping him before or after I had that thought... So I tried not to think much of it but over time I started to spiral really bad and wonder why I thought that and why then I would bump him on my stomach after having that thought or during. I just feel so disgusted. Like was I curious about it? Did I disregard the thought because my brain thinks disturbing things? Ik right now away from that situation that ofc I have no sexual interest in my nephew at all. I played with him and helped changed diaper and everything and never had the urge to do anything inappropriate to him besides that one weird instance. So like I'm so disturbed like did that mean something? I have P OCD but that didn't really feel like an intrusive thought? I also can be very impulsive, and if it was impulsive does that mean I had a desire? Now I'm terrified of having kids even though I wanted some or to foster some. I mean I know but myself I'm not sexually attracted to kids but then why would I think that I am so disturbed really and feel so sick. 😞😞😞😞 I don't know what to do I'm so scared about what my motivation was I feel so bad and scared😞😞😞😞
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TW So I haven’t been diagnosed with pocd, but many ppl said that I have it. I was in bed when I remembered this time when I first started experiencing what I hope is false attraction not actual pedophilia, I’m looking back on it rn n I’m worried it wasn’t false attraction, I remember feeling a sense of attraction when I saw that kid, I was about14 at the time and the kid was 11 or 12. I remember constantly searching to see if it was normal for a 14 year old to like a 12 or 11 year old, I was worried when I was doing that i think, I also kept walking pass her to look at her i think to check if i was attracted or not, but it makes me worried that I was attracted to her because im worried that i did it bc i was actually attracted. now looking back on it rn, I don’t feel panic, worry, shame, or guilt, I originally only felt panic and worry, never shame or guilt. Now I don’t feel any of it, not feeling panic and worry now makes me think that I am a p, I don’t want to be a p. I hope im not a p, Ive talked to a therapist and they’ve said that it’s pocd, but it wasn’t a official diagnosis, I’m worried it was a false diagnosis because I lied on one or two of the questions. I also constantly get senses of what I hope is false attraction when I see some kids, I keep trying to figure out if it is real or false attraction. Can someone give me some advice please
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