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- 6y ago
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- 6y ago
Sometimes they feel so real and other days you can say, “Oh I see what you’re trying to do there, it’s not gonna work this time!” Thank you for posting this, it’s nice to know I’m not alone.
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- 6y ago
I battle everyday with intrusive ‘bad’ thoughts. I desperately want to share them with a trusted therapist but I just can’t bring myself to say the words because of the shame and the anxiety that if I say them then I’ve made them real. As long as they’re only in my mind I can do my compulsion and try to ‘un-think’ them. It’s hell. I’m tortured and feel so desperately alone. I can’t even write this without tears welling up.
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- 6y ago
Dawn, I feel the exact same way, you are not alone in this. Whenever I ruminate I can’t even repeat the thought I just call the thoughts, “that” or “it”. It’s horrifying to even think about saying the thoughts out loud because of how awful they can be. You will get through this, it does get better. You are not alone in this.
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- 6y ago
I can relate, and I hate how sometimes the intrusive thoughts are super chill and you know they are not real and at other times it feel so real that you almost want to ‘admit’ to having them.
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- 6y ago
Totally understand where you are both coming from. Every day is like fighting a loosing battle at times.
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- 6y ago
I feel like I’m not as traumatised by my thoughts which is worrying and then I become traumatised that I’m not traumatised. It’s a never ending cycle! I honestly am convinced I want to act on my thoughts right now. How do you guys cope?
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- 6y ago
Meng, YES! It IS horrifying to even THINK about saying them out loud! I desperately want them gone and my therapist says they will lose some of their power as I talk about them but I just can’t! I am even taking anxiety medication. They were once so bad I would be paralyzed, literally. I couldn’t move from whatever position, posture or even facial expression I was in until I felt relief and sometimes that was a very long time. Then as soon as the relief came, another thought came and I was ‘stuck’ again. The medication has helped those severe times but I still have flare ups of those moments. Sometimes I just breakdown and cry. And many times I want to end it all myself.
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- 6y ago
Meng I can totally relate to your comment ?
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- 20w ago
my therapist suggested that some of my less bad rocd intrusive thoughts are actually mine, and not intrusive. She ended up taking it back when she saw the alarm on my face and saw how panicked I got. I feel really freaking anxious. We were only talking about it because I mentioned a lot of doubt surrounding those less bad ones, but it only filled me with more doubt. I don’t want those thoughts to be mine. I really don’t. I feel scared and so discouraged after this session. I feel scared about the worst thoughts, what if those aren’t intrusive. I feel so much doubt.
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- 12w ago
I struggle so bad with intrusive thoughts. They can be so bad that I'll cry because I KNOW that's not how I feel or want to do. (Too embarrassed to say what they're about) I'll constantly try to figure out why I have them, and constantly figure out what they mean, causing me to constantly circle around and around. I had to get on anxeity meds, which helped a little but the thoughts still happen. How do you help yourself with this? How do you know that you're just not some physcopath? 😅
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- 29d ago
Here is what I say to people: I wish I could make it stop. I really do. I also wish I could stop tinnitus. What is tinnitus, you may ask? Well, have you ever gone to a loud concert and after it had a ringing in your ears. Or, in movies when a loud explosion hears, first it is often muffled, and then there is a very loud ringing sound. Well, I have hear that sound for over 30 years. Turns out the medications I took as a kid for allergies and all the antibiotics I was on for Strep had a side effect for some people - tinnitus - that sound that I have heard every decade, year, month, day, hour, and second, for the past 30 years. I have learned to live with it. As I type this, it is REALLY loud, because I am paying attention to it. But, in a few minutes it will fade into the background, and, while I will hear it, I will not pay much attention to it, and therefore I will go on with my night. I will listen to music, practice my story for the MOTH radio hour, and work out. I will clean up the kitchen and load the dishwasher, and I will eventually get ready for bed. I will go to bed hearing that sound, and fall asleep for a few hours until tomorrow morning when I start the day all over again. I cannot make the sound stop. There is nothing to do for it - no surgery or medication. Just learning to live with it, and that is what I have done. It is the thing that I hate the most in my life, and, if granted three wishes, it would be the first thing to change. For now, as I have for 30 years, I will live with it, and I will ask you to live with your noises in your head - the thoughts, the images, and the urges, and we will practice together accepting that things are not always as we want them, but we can handle that. We got this.
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